I can agree I've heard men say that too and looking from their pov I can understand too. Imagine a guy doing/saying something like I don't want to provide for another chick until she is my wife or whatever the male equivalent would be how that would play out?I have noticed women complain that men are only willing to wait for a virgin, if she's not..its like "why did everyone else get a taste yet I'm the scapegoat that has to wiat until marriage" etc
I can agree I've heard men say that too and looking from their pov I can understand too. Imagine a guy doing/saying something like I don't want to provide for another chick until she is my wife or whatever the male equivalent would be how that would play out?
Before meeting my current SO I was celibate for 2 years and was fully convinced that I was going to wait until marriage. After dating him for a few months we gave into the temptation and we started sleeping together regularly. Recently I have been experiencing feelings of guilt and stated my concerns to him and he said he totally understood where I was coming from. I told him that I want to stop having sex and wait until we are married but I'm sensing problems already. He's confused by my reasoning (which I understand) eventhough Ive explained to him that I decided to remain celibate for religious reasons...I say all this to say...it's hard...extreamly hard...especially if you both view sex differently and have indulged in it.
I wish you brightest blessings....as for me...there are just some mysteries I cannot take into a marriage. Wondering what our sex life is going to be like is but one of them.....I gots to know what I'm signing up for...
I never said she didn't. I just said I could see where the guy is coming from esp if she isn't a virgin and I wonder if the man did the womans equivalent how many would really be cool. Being that this is a womens messageboard of course a majority of women aren't going to agree and/or look at it from the a mans pov. I also understand that too since we aren't men.well I dont agree with the pov. if a woman wants to be celibate til marrtiage, she has every right to, she just has to find a guy who doesnt see it as "unfair" but willing to work with her.
I wish you brightest blessings....as for me...there are just some mysteries I cannot take into a marriage. Wondering what our sex life is going to be like is but one of them.....I gots to know what I'm signing up for...
Preach!
I wish you brightest blessings....as for me...there are just some mysteries I cannot take into a marriage. Wondering what our sex life is going to be like is but one of them.....I gots to know what I'm signing up for...
Im so happy you started this thread. I n celibate too (for religious reasons) and sometimes i feel like im the only one who is celibate but not a virgin AND is waiting for marriage. I do feel like its more difficult for men to accept my celibacy because im not a virgin but ive FINALLY come to a place in my life where idc.
The next man I sleep with will be my husband.
I say speak it into existence if thats what you want too. I have a feeling that wont be easy but I know it will be worth it
Oh and quick question, women who are celibate- when do you drop that type of information when you start seeing/ dating a man?
reeko43 said:If I had it all to do over again, I would have waited for my husband. After being molested by a female babysitter between 5 - 6 years of age, I feel that the affects of that pushed me to have sex before I was ready. My first experience was at the end of my senior year of HS and it was horrible.
After becoming saved, it took a few years for me to adopt celibacy again. When I did, I discovered the power I had as a woman. My standards changed when it came to men and I had no problem letting them know. I wasn't having sex until marriage or never if I never found the right man. That filtered the wrong men out and the right man, my DH, in. My DH felt that my resolve was one of the signs that I was the one for him. He had prayed for a pure relationship and a spritual one. I made love for the first time with my husband. Nothing I had experienced before compared to that.
Just read through this thread and for those who returned to celibacy, hang in there. Sometimes sex can cloud judgment and influence our choices, not always for the best.
i can kindasortamaybe understand that 'fear' but would anyone really end their relationship based on the sex?