dr.j
Well-Known Member
Hello ladies,
5 months post and transitioning.
You know how most people meet resistance - to their going natural - by family members... so here is another approach, to educate them. Them being close loved ones whose opinion actually matter - and that is just a handful of people (hopefully)... the rest can just kick rocks. The steps below are a softer approach to getting what you want i.e. if want you want is to transition in peace.
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Step 1 :getting them to see how beautiful they are and to love themselves . Not over emphasizing hair all the time but just letting them know they are fearfully and wonderfully made. Recognize that the problem they have is not with you but themselves. Their thoughts and insecurities.
Step 2 : explain the costs ( to finances, health, individuality and self image) and potential dangers of improperly relaxing ( weakened hair, scalp issues, the chemicals used in relaxers ). Of course you have to be educated yourself on an issue before you can educated others. Do lots of research as to the why of people relaxing.
Step 3 : point out all the benefits to going natural. (i) being able to wash whenever, hair always smelling yummy (ii) having fun on the regular without all the anxiety of wondering what the weather willl be ( iii) getting fitter/healthier/sexier without worring about spending hours for hair to look presentable and smelling awesome (iv) show via - pictures - the versatility of natural hair - much love to BMP (v) get them to realize that long healthy hair of any texture is beautiful (vi) tansition to texlaxed first.
Step 4 : do long stretches before texlaxing to get them acquainted with the natural texture and just how beautiful it is as well as to help you learn how to deal with it.
Step 5: transition in a loving supportive environment.
Note: Going natural with the " in yo face attitude " works for some but not all. You are the only one who can actually count the cost to see if it is worth forcing the natural issue or a big chop on those you love. Some LHCFers seem to big chop out of frustration of not knowing how to deal with both textures... some regret it , some don't.
This approach is just a suggestion of how you may give yourself and those you love time to adjust to you being natural/ texlaxed / heat trained ( if that is what you desire ) in a happy supportive environment..
1Pe 3:11
(11) Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.
Thank you @bolded!! This morning I had my first weak moment thinking about relaxing. I saw a nice relaxed head on my way to work. Your words reminded me of why I'm doing what I'm doing.
The front half of my hair is just a bunch of frizzy waves and the other half up unto the pony tail looks like a stringy mess. I dont know what to do with it any more!
....go get you some orange or blue flexi rods....i like the ones from Sally's bc they're longer than the ones i've seen in the BSS's....and...i got my method from...i forgot her name its blkchina or something like that on youtube....and it works EVERYTIME!!....and they are SUPER easy to use...this coming from someone with virtually no attention span...okay?....
...so maybe you should give these a try.
erplexed
....i'm still hoping to be at least at Full WL by the end of the year so...hmph we'll see bout DAT!
Need to find something to help me detangle my new growth though. After another two weeks, I will be in COMPLETELY uncharted territory. I have NEVER gone longer than 14 weeks without relaxing my hair...oh boy...*takes deep breath*
SherylsTresses checking in at 1 year and 1 1/2 months. I'm still wearing braided ponytail in a bun and sometimes just clinching my braided ponytail upwards as my daily styles.
I'll probably get cornrows again. 
