I have felt strong feelings and had my heart broken deeply. So you are not the only one and it's getting more difficult by the day. My brother is in town and he just kept harping on the fact that I am still single with no man and he is going to sell me to the highest bidder to receive a dowry (sp). He and my married sister thought it was so funny. NOT! It's such a sensitive subject that I constantly fight tears when I either think of it or someone asks me if I have a boyfriend.
I'm so sorry, that's beyond insensitive. I've resolved myself, that I'm a late bloomer and aside from DD at 19 my life won't have the same timeline as others. There is nothing wrong with the OP's situation. Enjoy your youth and freedom and I promise someone always comes when you least expect it....
Thank you Elle I appreciate your hug and thoughtful words.
I like the idea of late bloomer but damn just how late. I don't want to find my love when I am pushing a walker. erplexed Do you ever find yourself asking, why not me?
I agree, enjoy life because it really makes no sense to spend it sad and worried about when you will meet a guy. Tomorrow I am buying a kite.
I am sitting here lurking the relationship forum, reading about all of the ups and downs, heart breaks and love stories. Then it hit me....I have never been in love. I am in my late 30's and I've never been in love....WTH?
Please tell me I am not the only one!
1. Relationship with God
2. Relationship with yourself
3. Relationship with others
Our relationship with God and ourselves, sets the stage for our relationship with others
Do you mean only never feeling MUTUALLY in love with somebody or even one-sided love as well?
^i dont believe any of that, personally
I am sitting here lurking the relationship forum, reading about all of the ups and downs, heart breaks and love stories. Then it hit me....I have never been in love. I am in my late 30's and I've never been in love....WTH?
Please tell me I am not the only one!
either, actually, but mainly that all consuming heartbreak bit. i broke up with one guy and freaked out about it. but in hindsight, the thing that hurt the most was losing the relationship as it might have existed in the future; having to go reconfigure the upcoming years since they were no longer going to happen in the way i'd been planning. we never spoke again, and it was for the best - that future doesn't make sense to me now. last ex, our break up was like ho hum i dont care GO AWAY. but i could have married that man. i could see him in my life forever. i could only assume that means i loved him a lot more. and yet, i dont want him back and it was right that we broke up. in general framing relationships in those movie tropes doesnt work for me... it sets up strange expectations that i personally dont want to seek to fulfill.
either, actually, but mainly that all consuming heartbreak bit. i broke up with one guy and freaked out about it. but in hindsight, the thing that hurt the most was losing the relationship as it might have existed in the future; having to go reconfigure the upcoming years since they were no longer going to happen in the way i'd been planning. we never spoke again, and it was for the best - that future doesn't make sense to me now.
last ex, our break up was like ho hum i dont care GO AWAY. but i could have married that man. i could see him in my life forever. i could only assume that means i loved him a lot more. and yet, i dont want him back and it was right that we broke up.
in general framing relationships in those movie tropes doesnt work for me... it sets up strange expectations that i personally dont want to seek to fulfill.
shoot lucky you. at least u dont have to experience Heartbreak. that right there is almost close to grieving a death. whew. lol
Do you have a love logically? LOL!
I know some women who have been in love and gave all of themselves into that relationship. They did not hold back. Then there are others who hold a piece of themselves back and when the relationship goes south, they are like. Also these women seem to love with their head, rather than with their heart.
yeah, i probably love with my head more than my heart. i never really thought of it that way, actually, despite how common that phrase is.
Do you have a love logically? LOL! I know some women who have been in love and gave all of themselves into that relationship. They did not hold back. Then there are others who hold a piece of themselves back and when the relationship goes south, they are like. Also these women seem to love with their head, rather than with their heart.
so are you saying you eventually stopped "loving with your head"?
i dont know... i cant really see it changing for me.
After my first heartbreak my mom always told me to keep a piece of my heart to myself. Don't give him ALL of it. It's a GREAT piece of advice.
But what if he has given you all of his?
Then that's great.