My friend said she's gonna cut my hair off

[PJaye]

Years ago a member of LHC talked about what happened with her mom as a new bride and her new SIL. One day the SIL said "let me help you brush your waistlength hair". The hag whipped out scissors and cut her hair above the shoulders!!! The new bride was so hurt but to keep the peace did nothing - but she never re-grew her hair!

People of all races can get some serious envy going! Be on guard!!!

Keep the peace my . I would've broken that chick's jaw.

 

[HappilyLiberal]

So I'm out with a friend today and we're talking about shoes in the shoe section of the store, buying shoes. Suddenly she randomly blurts out "mi envy yuh hair, mi ah go cut it off" while staring at my hair. She was very monotone while saying that, she wasn't smiling nor laughing. I could not respond. I was mortified. I know maybe I should have responded but I didn't know how. I was mortified. Now I'm giving her the side eye. I ignored the comment and continued talking about shoes.

What say you?



ETA: this isn't the first time. She's also told me me "I envy you for your hair" while watching me detangle over at her house.

Tell her to hold still while you measure her for a pine box!

 

[fivetimestwo]

Friend. Cut. Hair. Three words that should never be in the same sentence.

Also, beware of any woman who'll shamelessly (and seriously) admit she envies you. Envy and admiration are two totally different things.

 

[DaiseeDay]

hold up..all the girl did was curse her out...and she got suspended? Damn, she should of beat her face in...that's what I would of did!

Yepp, they had been at each others throats for the longest time and the girl who cut the other girls hair said she did it because she called her the n word and the teacher was just over their bs.

Anyway I've learned that when someone (especially a jealous person) says something like that, don't take chances. Hide yo buns, hide yo twists...

 

[yorkpatties]

I too remember back in the day chicks takin a scissor to other chicks hair in school In particular, I remember a day in my elementary school where a girl set another girls ponytail on fire with a lighter. A black chick did it to a white Puerto Rican girl with a waist-long ponytail. Hate spans races and cultures, lest we forget.


That being said, I think your friend was playing around. Some girls have that *****y sense of humor that just isn't funny at all. However, if it made you feel uncomfortable, then by all means, limit your time with this girl. You obviously don't trust her. She made it clear that she envies you, she has a poor sense of humor, you don't trust her, why chill with her? Just my 2 cents.

 

[empressri]

empressri honestly... no .. no i have not

MsLizziA dang girl!!!!!!!! you dont have ANY by you? no jamaicans, haitians, trinis or guyanese?? nada?!?! come to NY so i can take you round these parts, you'll hear some of everything by the time we're done lol. ill even have you telling apart a puerto rican and dominican accent lol.

 

[ebonyseas]

Friend. Cut. Hair. Three words that should never be in the same sentence.

Also, beware of any woman who'll shamelessly (and seriously) admit she envies you. Envy and admiration are two totally different things.

This says it all.

 

[niqu92]

uhhm yeah you need to drop her
ive had long hair all my life and my best friend who i ve been friends with since 6th grade has never said anything like that. she has broken off SL relaxed hair and she always ADMIRES key word ADMIRES not ENVIES my hair. she'll say things like "ohh girl your hair is so beautiful i love it!" and proceeds to touch it. ive tried to give her hair advice but she calims the only reason i have long hair is cause im west-indian

 

[luckiestdestiny]

I can do my hair where I want. I shouldn't have to be confined. That's like saying I can't show my length in public. I didn't think it was a big deal since I was already detangling at home and went to help her with her computer and we've been friends for years.

OK

I don't detangle my hair over other houses so I just didn't understand it.
This is NOT a hide thing. THis is a...if someone says they're going to cut my hair, I'm not going to be around them, thing.

Good ex: I was so happy that Ms. Universe was a gorgeous black woman who seemed so elegant. I went to the thread to see if anyone else noticed.

I then saw some say they wanted to "punch her" in the face because she's so pretty. I then exited thread because to me that's not a compliment. Was it a joke? I'm sure. BUT jokes that seem mean spirited or violent...I can't wrap my head around it.

So if I were with a friend who kept joking they wanted to punch me in my face...I wouldn't be over their house applying lip gloss (and shocked when they say it again)...I'd apply my lip gloss elsewhere (staying far away from them). If I saw them on the street I'd nodd, but that's about as close as they'd ever get to me or my face. (I feel like it's the same thing for hair). When someone reveals their nature, or gives me a pause...I go with my instincts the first time.

Also I just didn't understand the whole detangling over someone's house thing but to each their own. I didn't want to start a riot. I just thought if you get dressed in your own house, you comb your hair in your own house but apparently that's not the case for you. I guess I was a little surprised by why you were over there (after you've had previous mentions by this
"friend" about your hair)doing your hair.

To each their own.

 

[guyanesesista]

OK

I don't detangle my hair over other houses so I just didn't understand it.
This is NOT a hide thing. THis is a...if someone says they're going to cut my hair, I'm not going to be around them, thing.


Also I just didn't understand the whole detangling over someone's house thing but to each their own. I didn't want to start a riot. I just thought if you get dressed in your own house, you comb your hair in your own house.

BUT maybe you get dressed over friends houses and also do your hair over there. To each their own.

I already explained why I ended up detangling at her house that time so you don't have to take it that far. It's not so serious that you have to mention getting dressed at other people's homes. You're acting like I said I always do that. She made the cutting my hair comment weeks after I detangled at her house.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

^^^Actually I didn't know that (as it's something you explained after the fact) so again...

sorry JEEZ

I looked quickly at your thread
It's not that serious.


But again as I put previously which is more to the point of where I was going "This is NOT a hide thing. THis is a...if someone says they're going to cut my hair, I'm not going to be around them, thing." If they say any variation such as "I envy your hair" or (and these are made up by me) ex: "I hate you and your hair", "I hate your long a$@ hair", "Your hair makes me sick", "You think your hair is cute don't cha?", "I wish I had hair like you... fY&k you beotch!" followed by evil laugh, or in monotone...or whatever (okay I could go on but the point is any combination is not a good thing).

please don't get fixated on the "where you do your hair part" and miss my meaning.

I wanted you to understand I was more shocked by staying around and doing your hair around a person who says these comments (you say this isn't the first time so I assume there were other incidents and this was an example). BUT regardless....the first sign of her comments... There would never be another time ....or rather should never be another time, regardless of the sequence. I'm only on the point that she's said this more than once and that's a no go regardless the sequence of events).

So on to that point...I just don't advise it (and that was the point). To trust your instincts. Actually I'm not giving you an attitude I'm rooting for you. It gets under my skin when women don't support each other. I wish better for you (and hope you find kick a$% friends who are 100% supportive). This girl is not the one.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

I stay away from people who can't be happy for me. Even if it's said jokingly, they still get the side eye from me.

It's funny because I always see posts here to the tune of "oh, that btch, she's so pretty, don't you just hate her"...it's the same thing to me.

exactly!

 

[Afrobuttafly]

She didn't even crack a smile tho...

 

[MsLizziA]

empressri girl nah none of that.. well jamaicans from time to time.. ima have to pay you a visit

 

[lilyofthenile]

I think she meant it. I'd run.

 

[cbanks67]

Make sure you dont ask for any help with your hair. I asked a friend with hair longer than mine to help with my trimming. Girl, she gave me more than a trim. Long story short we are no longer friends. Turns out she is jealous of every and anything.

 

[SkySurfer]

I don't think your friend is playing, get the hell away while you can!

 

[guyanesesista]

I haven't spoken to her since. I contacted her the next day and she hasn't contacted me back so oh well... Guess she didn't like being called out.

 

[Janet']

I haven't spoken to her since. I contacted her the next day and she hasn't contacted me back so oh well... Guess she didn't like being called out.

Well, in that case guyanesesista, I say, Keep It Moving...Some people don't need to be a part of your life...By the way, lovely hair

 

[*C00KIE*]

I haven't spoken to her since. I contacted her the next day and she hasn't contacted me back so oh well... Guess she didn't like being called out.

With that being said, I believe she was telling you how she really feels, about cutting your hair. I know, if she were joking she wouldn't taken it to the point of not contacting you back.

 

[guyanesesista]

Janet' thanks girl. Yours is lovely also. Love the colour.

*C00KIE* exactly. The whole situation was too random.

 

[WhippedButterCreme]

word. my bff has ALWAYS had the cutest, teeniest little waist. i never told her that i cant stand her and that im going to make her gain weight cause i dont have a little waist like hers!!

im telling you, there is ALWAYS some truth behind a thinly veiled joke.

LOL!!! That's funny...'cause my friends tell me all the time we're going to shove food down my throat...

Also, Every friend I know who's given a backhanded compliment has turned into a frenemy

I feel that it's only a matter of time before she does the same; ie turning irrelevant convos all about your hair

Your hair is friggin' glorious btw! Everyone says to wear your hair in a bun around her, but honestly, I wouldn't even go that far...

I just wouldn't kick it with her. FRENEMY!!

 

[sky035]

I say "tricks are for kids and we are grown folks". I ain't playing games like that. I would get super busy all of a sudden.

 

[anewday]

Haters gonna hate, so I say stay away.

Something like this happened to me years ago, only it was more physical than verbal. I was sitting in class, minding my own business, when this girl behind me (who is surrounded by a hoard of her friends) calls my name and says, "You have really pretty hair." I thanked her with a smile, turned back around, and continued doing what I was doing. The next thing I know, it gets REALLY quiet. Like, crazy quiet. So, I look up from my school work and this b**** is two inches from my head with a huge pair of scissors in her hand!!! I gave her the evil eye and suppressed my urge to punch her in the face. She just smiled and laughed like she was joking.

Thing is, my hair was only SL. Again, haters gonna hate.

What some women will do for things they don't have! crazy!