TinyBlu
Well-Known Member
Isn't it funny how we always have our list of what constitutes a good man, but we place the "must be black" stipulation on them?
Well... I have recently become involved with a Mexican man. The funny thing is that we had known each other for two years before he got up the nerve to tell me that he was interested.
When it comes to the famous WANTS vs. NEEDS list, he definitely checks out on all the needs: he's smart, attentive, gainfully employed, oh-so-sweet, considerate.... he really treats me well and makes me feel like a lady. As for the wants.... he's shorter than I would like (I usually like 6 footers), as he can't be over 5'6". I am learning to look past that and not wear heels!
Anyway.... I am having a little trouble wrapping myself around the whole multi-cultural thing which surprises me. I had always seen myself with a black man but never ruled out a man of another race. But it seems like he only takes me to "Latin" clubs and I really don't get the music, I can't do the dances (I can barely drop it in the black clubs) and I just feel uncomfortable. I don't speak Spanish (compared to his three fluent languages), Not to mention I see all of these beautiful Latinas around and wonder why he is with me with my sisterlocks.
I am normally not insecure, but I am starting to feel a little self conscious when we go out. I just feel like "his people" are looking at us like "why is he with her"?
So.... ladies in interracial relationships.... will this pass??
Well... I have recently become involved with a Mexican man. The funny thing is that we had known each other for two years before he got up the nerve to tell me that he was interested.
When it comes to the famous WANTS vs. NEEDS list, he definitely checks out on all the needs: he's smart, attentive, gainfully employed, oh-so-sweet, considerate.... he really treats me well and makes me feel like a lady. As for the wants.... he's shorter than I would like (I usually like 6 footers), as he can't be over 5'6". I am learning to look past that and not wear heels!
Anyway.... I am having a little trouble wrapping myself around the whole multi-cultural thing which surprises me. I had always seen myself with a black man but never ruled out a man of another race. But it seems like he only takes me to "Latin" clubs and I really don't get the music, I can't do the dances (I can barely drop it in the black clubs) and I just feel uncomfortable. I don't speak Spanish (compared to his three fluent languages), Not to mention I see all of these beautiful Latinas around and wonder why he is with me with my sisterlocks.
I am normally not insecure, but I am starting to feel a little self conscious when we go out. I just feel like "his people" are looking at us like "why is he with her"?
So.... ladies in interracial relationships.... will this pass??