My BFF's boyfriend REFUSES to date her

[loved]

Are they in a smaller town? In a larger city a married man could get away with taking his GF out.

 

[Murjani]

When will women stop excepting a piece of a man.

When will women stop allowing this type of behavior. This is one of the main reasons why these fools do what they do, because so many women allow it.

She should gain some self respect/self worth and kick his azzzzzz to the curb.

 

[gabulldawg]

Wow, this is just crazy. They don't go out, like EVER? And yet he goes out with his boys? erplexed What do they do if they don't go out? What does their time together consist of? Is it just sex? I'm confused. Sounds like there are crossed wires here. I.e., she thinks that's her boyfriend, but he doesn't.

 

[naturalmanenyc]

Ditto.....that is not her man. He's married OR he does not want to be seen with her in public.

I thought of the Sex and the City episode where Carrie ran into a male friend with his "girlfriend" that he never took to any place where he'd be seen by friends/family because she was not "his type". But in this case your friend and her "man" are not going out at all. The Chris Rock sketch works better.

 

[♦K.O♦]

One of my guy friends only takes his "girlfriend" of three or four years out at night, and never around any of his friends or family. It's because she isnt "his type."

SMDH

 

[somethingdifferent]

Hmm..why does she think he is her "boyfriend?" Maybe he just considers her a "friend with benefits."

Going out is like basic girlfriend/boyfriend 101.

 

[awhyley]

One of my guy friends only takes his "girlfriend" of three or four years out at night, and never around any of his friends or family. It's because she isnt "his type."

The good ol "she's good enough to sleep with, but not good enough to hang out with" dilema.
She needs to wise up and leave as @ss.

 

[DragonPearl]

He doesn't want to be seen with her, uh?

And she calls him her "boyfriend"....

 

[aliceo]

why does something have to be wrong with HER?

maybe this is a touchy topic because i've been there young and too dumb.

hm there was nothing wrong with me, he was a jerk who was playing me, that's all.

I'd agree that to him, he's not her boyfriend.
Turns out this is what mine was telling a WHOLE bunch of people too. Makes sense now why he wouldn't want to be seen with me. There wasn't anything wrong with me though. In fact, 2 years later, he tried to return with this "I wasn't ready for a good woman in my life."

Your friend will get fed up and learn just like I did. I just hope she doesn't suffer the same emotional trauma I did during the process

I had the EXACT same experience. emotional trauma and all.

 

[LisaLisa1908]

WTF?

She BETTER not be screwing him. BETTER not. And I wish I WOULD be arguing with some dude about him taking me out. Either we're going out, or we're not; ain't no argument. If YOU don't want to go out, fine; I, however, WILL be going out.

 

[DMJ's Mom]

Sounds to me like she is not the only lady in his life. But like an earlier poster said no matter what you tell her she won't leave him until she is good and fed up with his behavior

 

[andrea]

She sounds like the Jump Off.

 

[Innocent_Kiss]

Sorry about replying so late. Anyway, my friend is DROP DEAD GORGEOUS! I mean BAD. Pretty face, bad shape, the whole NINE! He's the one who ain't all that They spend all of their time in the house - watching TV, lounging around, etc He couldn't possibly have another woman because they're together 24 efin 7! Literally. Even when he's at work, she'll be at his house. Then, again, men do have an amazing way of being with multiple women. Seriously, though, its very unlikely. She feels obligated to stay with him for a reason that I won't share, but I'm trying to get her to realize that his lack of compromise can be detrimental in any situation. They're pretty, serious, too. Ironically, the first words he said to her was "When are you gonna let me take you out?!?!?!?!" Several months later, still not one date. For some odd reason, I feel like I'm betraying her by posting this I'm not trying to post gossip or be judgemental...look at some of my past post about my relationship and you'd ladies be FA SHO! She can do so much better, though. He makes her walk home from work at night and don't call to see if she's home. And HE HAS AN EFFIN CAR! Granted they live about 3 blocks away from each other, but atleast talk to me until I make it home! Maybe I'ma bad girl, but in any event that "my man" wanna distance himself from me and don't wanna date/court me regardless of HOW LONG we've been together, you WILL see me at Forever 21 picking out a gorgeous blouse to go on a date with another gentlemen :blondboob Giving him the benefit of the doubt, it's rare that he even goes out with his friends, and if he does it's supposedly just "driving around"...I dunno. I guess its easy to tell another woman to leave, huh?

 

[dannie]

Just NO, NO and NO. WTH!! What is the point of being with a dude if he doesnt take you out and entertain you? I could be bored with Netflix by myself.

 

[GoingNatural]

Sorry about replying so late. Anyway, my friend is DROP DEAD GORGEOUS! I mean BAD. Pretty face, bad shape, the whole NINE! He's the one who ain't all that They spend all of their time in the house - watching TV, lounging around, etc He couldn't possibly have another woman because they're together 24 efin 7! Literally. Even when he's at work, she'll be at his house. Then, again, men do have an amazing way of being with multiple women. Seriously, though, its very unlikely. She feels obligated to stay with him for a reason that I won't share, but I'm trying to get her to realize that his lack of compromise can be detrimental in any situation. They're pretty, serious, too. Ironically, the first words he said to her was "When are you gonna let me take you out?!?!?!?!" Several months later, still not one date. For some odd reason, I feel like I'm betraying her by posting this I'm not trying to post gossip or be judgemental...look at some of my past post about my relationship and you'd ladies be FA SHO! She can do so much better, though. He makes her walk home from work at night and don't call to see if she's home. And HE HAS AN EFFIN CAR! Granted they live about 3 blocks away from each other, but atleast talk to me until I make it home! Maybe I'ma bad girl, but in any event that "my man" wanna distance himself from me and don't wanna date/court me regardless of HOW LONG we've been together, you WILL see me at Forever 21 picking out a gorgeous blouse to go on a date with another gentlemen :blondboob Giving him the benefit of the doubt, it's rare that he even goes out with his friends, and if he does it's supposedly just "driving around"...I dunno. I guess its easy to tell another woman to leave, huh?

Halle Berry was/is fine too Her past situations didn't turn out too hot either. Looks don't mean ish when a man knows he's got you. You show me a beautiful woman and I'll show you the man that's tired of looking at her and/or cheating on her.

 

[Innocent_Kiss]

Halle Berry was/is fine too Her past situations didn't turn out too hot either. Looks don't mean ish when a man knows he's got you. You show me a beautiful woman and I'll show you the man that's tired of looking at her and/or cheating on her.

ITA! Some of the ladies thought that she might not be attractive and perhaps he was embarassed of her. I was saying that to emphasize that she's a really beautiful girl and that definitely couldn't be the problem.