Crystalicequeen123
Well-Known Member
Well, the ladies on this board have given you a lot of good advice. Very SOUND advice!
Not sure what more I can add....but...
No, this has never happened to me before. I've never had an actual CRUSH on one of my BFF's bf's before. I've thought some of them were kind of cute, or maybe a really good guy for her (the type of guy I wish I had in my life ), but I've never had an actual CRUSH on one before...like downright fantasizing about him, having those "feelings" about him type of crush. OH NO!
Anytime one of my close girl friends is even just INTERESTED in a guy, I automatically view him as a brother to me. Hands down. I don't know how...but that's just the way I am. So, imagining myself w/him is just plain weird.
But for you in your case I would say that your crush on him probably got heightened when you felt "something" while the two of you were dancing. You realized that he was probably turned on, or was attracted to you. But guys can be turned on from riding a bike, or even from sleeping! It's not that hard to get a guy hard. So I wouldn't let his actions affect your friendship with your BFF.
BFF's like that don't just come everyday. Plus, how would YOU feel if it was HER feeling that way about YOUR boyfriend? Don't beat yourself up for having "feelings" or for feeling something for him. He's probably sexy and knows it. Plus, it's only natural that if someone is doing something in a certain way to us, that our body might respond. So, don't beat yourself up. But please think of your friend in this situation.
Also, if you ask me....this guy is a snake. I'm sorry... some of you might disagree, but I don't think he is innocent in this. Yes, guys can't help their body members sometimes, but the fact that he would even try to dance w/you in that fashion just seems fishy to me. Plus, he KNEW how his body was responding (if it in fact was) and he still didn't pull away or dance a different way w/you. That just seemed kind of fishy to me. He seems shady to me no offense. Again, what if your boyfriend danced that way with your friend? How would that make you feel? What would you think about your boyfriend?
IF this guy has done this to you, then just think..if you and him got together he would probably do the same thing to you and YOUR friend.
Not sure what more I can add....but...
No, this has never happened to me before. I've never had an actual CRUSH on one of my BFF's bf's before. I've thought some of them were kind of cute, or maybe a really good guy for her (the type of guy I wish I had in my life ), but I've never had an actual CRUSH on one before...like downright fantasizing about him, having those "feelings" about him type of crush. OH NO!
Anytime one of my close girl friends is even just INTERESTED in a guy, I automatically view him as a brother to me. Hands down. I don't know how...but that's just the way I am. So, imagining myself w/him is just plain weird.
But for you in your case I would say that your crush on him probably got heightened when you felt "something" while the two of you were dancing. You realized that he was probably turned on, or was attracted to you. But guys can be turned on from riding a bike, or even from sleeping! It's not that hard to get a guy hard. So I wouldn't let his actions affect your friendship with your BFF.
BFF's like that don't just come everyday. Plus, how would YOU feel if it was HER feeling that way about YOUR boyfriend? Don't beat yourself up for having "feelings" or for feeling something for him. He's probably sexy and knows it. Plus, it's only natural that if someone is doing something in a certain way to us, that our body might respond. So, don't beat yourself up. But please think of your friend in this situation.
Also, if you ask me....this guy is a snake. I'm sorry... some of you might disagree, but I don't think he is innocent in this. Yes, guys can't help their body members sometimes, but the fact that he would even try to dance w/you in that fashion just seems fishy to me. Plus, he KNEW how his body was responding (if it in fact was) and he still didn't pull away or dance a different way w/you. That just seemed kind of fishy to me. He seems shady to me no offense. Again, what if your boyfriend danced that way with your friend? How would that make you feel? What would you think about your boyfriend?
IF this guy has done this to you, then just think..if you and him got together he would probably do the same thing to you and YOUR friend.
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