Men are . . . just like us? *scratching head*

[Glib Gurl]

Do you agree with this? (A post by a friend on another board)

The attitude that males and females are completely different (like Mars vs. Venus) is a load of crap. You said that it's a fact that women want relationships while men have to be really interested. Uh, no. I'm sorry, but I just really strongly disagree with that. Pretty much ALL PEOPLE want relationships, to feel loved and connected with a partner. And pretty much ALL PEOPLE need to be really interested in someone in order to stay with that person. It's not a gender issue; it's a human issue.

This all just seems so...calculated. Like you feel that you have to make a point or keep some sort of score. A relationship will never ever be exactly 50-50 with both people sharing the "power;" by nature of differences in personalities, some people will be the leader with some things vs. others (for example, if someone in a relationship is really good with money and the other isn't, or if someone's a really good cook and/or simply enjoys cooking, or if someone hates a certain chore, or if someone is really good at planning vacations...etc.). Sure, it should be close to 50-50, and both people should feel that things are equitable and fair, but to expect absolute perfect 50-50 is pretty unrealistic.

 

[AstroQueen77]

Absolutely agree. Its very rare that a relationship will be 50/50 all of the time, but I agree that a healthy couple will strive for it. I believe relationships should be BALANCED....at least thats how I would like my relationship to be.

 

[JustKiya]

Men are humans, just as we are. Not only that, but contrary to popular belief, they are also individuals. *gasp*

As individuals, they have different desires, different goals, different needs, different faults.

Now, we, as social beings have been socialized to desire different things via gender typing (and stereotyping), but that doesn't change the fact that as humans, we all have the potential for having the same emotional needs.

Some women don't wanna be tied down - but it's considered 'unnatural' because society trains us to believe all women want the white picket fence, the husband, the kids.
Some men want to be stay at home dads - but it's considered 'unmasculine' because society trains us to believe that men shouldn't be that interested/involved in the day to day running of a household.

It's all stupid, and mostly stereotypical, and duh, of course we're all humans who all need to be loved and appreciated!

 

[aribell]

I do believe that there are differences between men and women, but I don't believe that what men and women ultimately desire in relationships is fundamentally different. I feel like a lot of the time spent trying to analyze how "men" really think could just as well be spent talking to the individual men we may be involved with to hear from themselves where they're coming from.

 

[MissMeWithThatIsh]

80 percent of men wield more masculine energy than feminine...
80 percent of women wield more feminine than masculine energy...

Only about 10 percent of each sex are balanced in their sexual energies.

What the hell are you saying Lauryn!?

Basically, that, ideally, when people are balanced in their sexual energies, they are flexible to communicating and acting on their needs, in or out of a relationship. When one wields more of one sexual energy than another, and partners with someone with an opposite energy, instead of blending beautifully, one or both parties comes across as callous, sensitive... just misunderstood in general. It's just important to hone in on the person, the type of energy they work with, and respond accordingly.

 

[Farida]

I think men and women, as we are, whether naturally or socialized, are very different.

Not too different to work, but I do think it is a great source of conflict.