SwoopSui
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I broke up with my bf for cheating on me with his long time friend. They have been freinds since high school and knew each other even before I came into the picture. She always liked him but he never felt the same. I didnt even find out from him, she called my phone and told me they were sleeping together and have been for the longest. She told me he needed a real woman and not a scared little haitian virgin b***. After this happened I called him and confronted him and of course he denied cheating. I then asked him to clarify what he taught cheating was and responded my saying "having sex with another person" and said noooooo. Cheating, in my opinion, is even flirting with another person. I asked him if he flirted with her and he said no. But when I asked him if he thought about sleeping with her (cuz he aint getting ish from me) then he got silent and said "so what i never did and I wouldnt do that to you I love you and only you". He claims he just wanted to make me jealous because I have alot of male friends and he always has to deal with me talking to them (you see how he tried to flip the script) and he wanted to let me know how it feels. Well I broke up with him anyway something is telling me he isnt being completely honest and if dont leave I'm gonna get my heart trampled. This isnt the first type dome random chick called my phone spewing nonsence my way (an ex of his did that to me EARLY in our relationship)I 'm not sure if he didnt cheat on me but I'm not gonna stay around for scenario number three.
For about 3 months after the break up he kept sending me flowers (like enough to fill up my ENTIRE apartment), blowing up my phone and leaving my messages like "i cant live without you, i need you ,please forgive me", and even started to cry once but immediately told me he had to go and and hung up. I refuse to budge on my decision though, I have to much respect for myself to stay with an immature eyewandering bastard. At a certain point his mother got involved and was calling all the time telling me how she understands why I broke up with him but please get back together". I dont even understand what her issue is because if I can recall correctly she couldnt stand me when he first introduced me to his family. She went out of her way to be rude that even her kids (four of them and all above 22) were just like "mom come on she really nice she doesnt deserve that". During the first three months of our break up his family would constantly have little get togethers and invite my family over (things like randoms bbqs, a christmas party, and just plain ole invite them over to "talk"). His mother even organized an ambush slash realtionship intervention type of thing in which all of his immediate and extended family as well as mine came over to my mother house and waited for me to get there so they could convince me to get back together with him. People were pulling on me when I wanted to go and had me trapped there for hours while he and his mother where in my face telling stop being stupid and get back with him. Needless to say that tactfull didnt work and I left bruised and in tears and him sitting on the stairs crying into his hands (as I was told).
At this point I know it seems like I'm just being stubborn and that he really loves me but just made a mistake. However, I cant help but point out that I am the ONLY woman to ever walk away from him (the man is SEXXXXXXXY like some male model material and is often approached by model scouts) so I feel like this is more about ego than love. I will not be fooled. NO WAY.
My cousin and my ex have always been on good terms and are haning out alot lately. Granted they are never alone they are usually with his sisters and his two close friends but I sensed there was some thing
between them so I confronted her she and she confirmired that she did have feelings for him and he did in fact ask her out. Needless to say I was pissed but I cant say I was suprised a man in love wouldnt do something so hurtful as to ask out my cousin. She told me she did not counteract his advances and she stopped hanging out with him because she felt weird but has since resumed her "friend" status with him. She keeps telling me not to be upset because he did it ot of desperation from missing me and it was just a temporary moment of insanity. I dont believe her though and she is known to be flirty. The reason I'm dwelling on them is because I trusted her and she is family and I was truly in love with my ex. When two people you love and trust hurt you its hard to go on and act like everything is fine and it doesnt bother you.
Do you guys think I should give him another chance and do you think I'm being paranoid about him and my cousin?
For about 3 months after the break up he kept sending me flowers (like enough to fill up my ENTIRE apartment), blowing up my phone and leaving my messages like "i cant live without you, i need you ,please forgive me", and even started to cry once but immediately told me he had to go and and hung up. I refuse to budge on my decision though, I have to much respect for myself to stay with an immature eyewandering bastard. At a certain point his mother got involved and was calling all the time telling me how she understands why I broke up with him but please get back together". I dont even understand what her issue is because if I can recall correctly she couldnt stand me when he first introduced me to his family. She went out of her way to be rude that even her kids (four of them and all above 22) were just like "mom come on she really nice she doesnt deserve that". During the first three months of our break up his family would constantly have little get togethers and invite my family over (things like randoms bbqs, a christmas party, and just plain ole invite them over to "talk"). His mother even organized an ambush slash realtionship intervention type of thing in which all of his immediate and extended family as well as mine came over to my mother house and waited for me to get there so they could convince me to get back together with him. People were pulling on me when I wanted to go and had me trapped there for hours while he and his mother where in my face telling stop being stupid and get back with him. Needless to say that tactfull didnt work and I left bruised and in tears and him sitting on the stairs crying into his hands (as I was told).
At this point I know it seems like I'm just being stubborn and that he really loves me but just made a mistake. However, I cant help but point out that I am the ONLY woman to ever walk away from him (the man is SEXXXXXXXY like some male model material and is often approached by model scouts) so I feel like this is more about ego than love. I will not be fooled. NO WAY.
My cousin and my ex have always been on good terms and are haning out alot lately. Granted they are never alone they are usually with his sisters and his two close friends but I sensed there was some thing
between them so I confronted her she and she confirmired that she did have feelings for him and he did in fact ask her out. Needless to say I was pissed but I cant say I was suprised a man in love wouldnt do something so hurtful as to ask out my cousin. She told me she did not counteract his advances and she stopped hanging out with him because she felt weird but has since resumed her "friend" status with him. She keeps telling me not to be upset because he did it ot of desperation from missing me and it was just a temporary moment of insanity. I dont believe her though and she is known to be flirty. The reason I'm dwelling on them is because I trusted her and she is family and I was truly in love with my ex. When two people you love and trust hurt you its hard to go on and act like everything is fine and it doesnt bother you.
Do you guys think I should give him another chance and do you think I'm being paranoid about him and my cousin?
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