Keep the Ring..or give it back?

[mrsmeredith]

Legally:
If he calls it off you keep it.

If you call it off, he gets it back.

I didn't vote on your poll because it has both options and I can only pick one.

It would depend on why he called it off. If it was amicable, respectable and he hadn't paid it off I would give it back.

That's not true for all states. Please check the laws in your state for the right thing to do.

 

[Shimmie]

I'd give it back with a notarized receipt.

This way there's no foolishness later on with him 'claiming' that I still have his ring. When it's over, it's over; no remnants of a break up.

Give back the ring and get another one, that's real.

A real man that is.

For those keeping the ring, make sure to get a signed and notarized agreement so that he can't come back later and sue. It's not worth it. I've seen cases where the men sued even after they said she could keep it.

In some cases, when the woman moves on with her life, the man gets resentful / jealous and then files suit to get even.

It's not worth it, just to have a ring.

If he refuses to sign, get a witness and draft up a document stating that you gave back 'said' ring (and/or other items of his) and that he refused to sign an agreement of receipt of such. Have it notarized; list and/or take pictures of items returned to him. Protect yourselves from fools.

 

[Almaz]

All Jewelry given to me is all Jewelry that I am keeping

Period

 

[wonderstar]

I will give it back regardless.

 

[cestlachic.]

i would give it back regardless. why hold on to something that didn't work out? move on.

COMPLETELY.

 

[2Cute!]

Legally:
If he calls it off you keep it.

If you call it off, he gets it back.

I didn't vote on your poll because it has both options and I can only pick one.

It would depend on why he called it off. If it was amicable, respectable and he hadn't paid it off I would give it back.

I believe it varies from state to state. I was watching judge Alex and he actually let a woman (who lived in Texas I think) keep it.

Here in Michigan, if you do not get married, regardless of who's fault it is, you have to give the ring back.

 

[natural2008]

When my finace purchased my engagement ring the seller told him to put it in his name becasue my fiance was going to put the ring in my name. Legally the ring that i have is in his name so if I did not give it back he could call the police and have them come and get it back. My fiances name is on all of the paperwork. I would have not choice but to give it back if things did not work out.

 

[moonglowdiva]

I would give it back because a ring is symbolic and why would I want to remember the past.

 

[misseyblue]

I called it off but didn't give it back right away.

About 8 months after the breakup I gave it back and I felt so free afterwards!!

 

[JinaRicci]

I kept it- he took too much from me but then I didn't want it in my house so kept it in the garage. I found out an engagement ring is really hard to sell...So maybe I shouldn't have..

But it wasn't about the money so still seriously considering flinging it in the river- that would be justice.

 

[TracyNicole]

I gave it back. I didn't want anything tying me to a relationship gone wrong. Even though he did something to bring about the end of the relationship it was his money thought bought the ring as a sign that he wanted to take our relationship to the highest level. Why would I want to keep that reminder around or sell it and profit from that situation? I felt it would come back on me somehow and ruin my future happiness. I truly believe that's why I was blessed to meet my DH just a few months later. I'm happily married with a ring that represents our shared happiness not yesterday's news.

 

[Dominican09]

I will keep it regardless...it opens up the opportunity to give up other things...including cash for dinners...and if married keep it too.

 

[PretteePlease]

i'm a keeper

 

[Kamilah]

i gave it back. he didnt ask. still don't know who broke up with who, but...yea. i gave it back halfheartedly, hoping he would grow the balls to apologize and come back but he ran like a little boy.