Keep the Ring..or give it back?
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Leslie_C
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Well, I know the right thing to do is give it back...but I was bitter and he didnt ask for it so I kept it. I sold it a year later so he had plenty of time to ask for it back if he wanted it.
We had a long on and off again history and I really resented him for bringing his sorry *** back in my life if he wasnt going to treat me the way I deserved to be treated.
Im engaged again (this time to the right one!)...I cant even imagine if it didnt work out...but I wouldnt keep the ring.
I didnt know this...but I saw on one of the court tv shows (judge judy or somebody) and u are legally supposed to give the ring back because it is supposed to be a contract.
We had a long on and off again history and I really resented him for bringing his sorry *** back in my life if he wasnt going to treat me the way I deserved to be treated.
Im engaged again (this time to the right one!)...I cant even imagine if it didnt work out...but I wouldnt keep the ring.
I didnt know this...but I saw on one of the court tv shows (judge judy or somebody) and u are legally supposed to give the ring back because it is supposed to be a contract.
Farida
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Legally:
If he calls it off you keep it.
If you call it off, he gets it back.
I didn't vote on your poll because it has both options and I can only pick one.
It would depend on why he called it off. If it was amicable, respectable and he hadn't paid it off I would give it back.
If he calls it off you keep it.
If you call it off, he gets it back.
I didn't vote on your poll because it has both options and I can only pick one.
It would depend on why he called it off. If it was amicable, respectable and he hadn't paid it off I would give it back.
BotanyGrl
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When I watched Judge Judy... she told the woman if you were engaged you have to give the ring back. When you're married you keep it.
sky_blu
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MzTami
Hellerrrr
Youz wrong...
SexySin985
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Yep, that's what Judge Mathis said also
He said an engagement ring is a conditional gift... meaning it is a gift under that condition that the couple gets married. Once the engagement is off then the ring has to be returned to the person that proposed with it.
I would give it back... especially if he called it off. Once we are through I don't want to see anything in my presence that would remind me of you
chichibean
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Well... legally it actually depends on what state you live in. Some states say that a ring is conditional to marriage and if the contract is not followed through with, then the ring must be returned, regardless of who calls it off. Other states say that it depends on who breaks it off... if the guy does... then the woman keeps the ring. But if the woman breaks it off, she must return it.
I say... if he doesn't ask for it back, keep it, pawn it and buy yourself a cheeseburger!
I say... if he doesn't ask for it back, keep it, pawn it and buy yourself a cheeseburger!
The female in me says "keep the ring" - I mean who wouldn't want a nice piece of jewelery?
But if you read the stories from the ladies who responded, marriage is something serious - chances are if you were engaged and it falls apart, you don't want the memory of the failed relationship.
So I don't know - it depends on the situation. But I can't see myself walking around with a ring (or earrings) from a failed relationship ...
...but maybe a necklace
Yep, that's what Judge Mathis said also
He said an engagement ring is a conditional gift... meaning it is a gift under that condition that the couple gets married. Once the engagement is off then the ring has to be returned to the person that proposed with it.
I would give it back... especially if he called it off. Once we are through I don't want to see anything in my presence that would remind me of you
If you look at it like a dowry or a symbol of a PROMISE - if the promise is broken, then the ring should be given back.
Cincysweetie
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Maybe I don't understand b/c I've never been in the situation...but why keep the ring if the relationship is over? You're probably not going to wear it...I wouldn't want to look at a reminder of what could have been on a daily basis...so what's the point?
I'd only keep it if he said he didn't want it back. Other than that, he can have it and good riddance.
I'd only keep it if he said he didn't want it back. Other than that, he can have it and good riddance.
honeybadgirl
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i would give it back especially if he asked for it back. its not that serious
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FromHair2There
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Give it back regardless.
Even if I so called earned it. I see no reason to keep the ring of some broke down **** that I don't want any more.
Even if I so called earned it. I see no reason to keep the ring of some broke down **** that I don't want any more.
Connie
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When my marriage of many years ago came to a rocky end, I asked my soon-to-be-ex hubby to drive me to the place where he got my ring from, and I sold it back to them (I told him I was getting a gift for my Mom). I also left all of my wedding pics behind (and we took a LOT of pics). I still have my wedding dress, but I'm not sure it's still in good shape. I just packed it in the box and never opened it again.
Anyway..if I ever get engaged and it gets called off, I would return the ring regardless of who called it off. If I am remarried and it ends up in divorce, I think I would keep it in a special place...or pawn it if the hubby turned out to be a jerk.
Anyway..if I ever get engaged and it gets called off, I would return the ring regardless of who called it off. If I am remarried and it ends up in divorce, I think I would keep it in a special place...or pawn it if the hubby turned out to be a jerk.
vivEz daNs lamouR
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I broke it off and gave the ring back. He wanted me to keep it but I refused.
Browndilocks
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I'd keep it if he broke it off, or if I broke it off because he was caught being trife like cheating or something.
CAPlush
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Gosh, I was watching judge Alex, I think it was yesterday. The woman had proposed to the man and given him a ring. Alex told him he had to give it back or she could sue him later and he said "No!" It was hilarious, it was obvious homegirl had some issues and treated her fiance like an unwanted child, he didn't want to give the ring back because he said he wanted the reminder of what he had endured.
It was hilarious, it was obvious homegirl had some issues and treated her fiance like an unwanted child, he didn't want to give the ring back because he said he wanted the reminder of what he had endured.Highly Favored8
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naturalmanenyc
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I'm keeping my ring if we ever divorce. I would trade it in at the store where we bought it since they have an upgrade policy if a customer buys anything that is $500 more than the piece they are trading. I'd get some new studs or maybe a nice necklace.
A friend kept her ring (guy called it off) and she took her diamond earrings and made the ring & earrings into a nice 3 stone necklace.
A friend kept her ring (guy called it off) and she took her diamond earrings and made the ring & earrings into a nice 3 stone necklace.
pisceschica
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I dont' know about that..I've seen plentyof cases where the man called it off and got the ring back. Its better not marry someone you are not sure of than to go through with it. I've seen it plenty of times on judge judy and other court cases.
Engagement rings are conditional agreement. If you get married its all yours if you don't then he gets it back or you pay him..
NOW if you had put down deposits (receptioin flowers etc) that you can't get back b/c he called it off then you have a case. But I don't think courts are looking at the reason why the marriage didnt' go through ...if you didn't get married case closed give it back or pay.
