BrownSkinPoppin
formerly NaturallyBri87
Hi ladies,
I'm curious to get thoughts from people who don't personally know me or my friend.
At the beginning of May my friend and I decided that we wanted to book a trip to the DR. Travel dates: the week of June 20th. Friend realized that her passport was expired but decided that she would send me her half of the money and immediately submit her passport application. This was the first week of May. She cash app'd me her half and I book the flights and resort.
Fast forward to two days before the trip. My friend's passport is not here and obviously won't be here in time. I told her that I was still going but she was more than welcome to move forward with trying to get credits for her half (we knew she wouldn't get a refund). She got her credits for the flight and resort but....
She asked me if I could give her the half of her money back since she's not going anymore. This really surprised me because it's not like I'm the one who has her money, the airline and the resort does. So it was really crazy to me that she was asking me to come out of MY pockets to give her the money that the resort and airline aren't giving her. Additionally, it dawned on me to check the travel.gov website to see what the passport processing times are. The website CLEARLY SAYS 18 weeks for routine processing and 12 weeks for expedited processing. I asked her if she even checked the website before submitting her application, because if she had she would've seen that her passport was never going to get here in time. She would've needed to apply in like January and March.
She continued to press me about giving her half back. Saying if he was her, she would've given me my half back. I keep trying to tell her that I don't have her money to give back, the hotel and the airline did. And I also just kept trying to tell her that she should've checked the website for the processing times. I told her I wasn't coming out of my own pocked to give her her money back.
She then proceeds to tell me that it was messed up that I didn't even offer to give her her money back when I told her I was going alone. I told her that I felt like I didn't need to offer because I'm not the reason she's not going. She is. I could understand if I was the reason she wasn't going. But her expecting me to offer MY MONEY when none of this is my fault is crazy.
This is a friend I've known for 10+ years and she's a really sweet girl. Has always been a good friend. But I'm not sure if I can get past this. No one wants to be out of over $500 but it's crazy to me that she wanted me to come out of my own money to give her back her half of the trip. I’m not giving her her money back and How she handled this is concerning.
Thoughts?
I'm curious to get thoughts from people who don't personally know me or my friend.
At the beginning of May my friend and I decided that we wanted to book a trip to the DR. Travel dates: the week of June 20th. Friend realized that her passport was expired but decided that she would send me her half of the money and immediately submit her passport application. This was the first week of May. She cash app'd me her half and I book the flights and resort.
Fast forward to two days before the trip. My friend's passport is not here and obviously won't be here in time. I told her that I was still going but she was more than welcome to move forward with trying to get credits for her half (we knew she wouldn't get a refund). She got her credits for the flight and resort but....
She asked me if I could give her the half of her money back since she's not going anymore. This really surprised me because it's not like I'm the one who has her money, the airline and the resort does. So it was really crazy to me that she was asking me to come out of MY pockets to give her the money that the resort and airline aren't giving her. Additionally, it dawned on me to check the travel.gov website to see what the passport processing times are. The website CLEARLY SAYS 18 weeks for routine processing and 12 weeks for expedited processing. I asked her if she even checked the website before submitting her application, because if she had she would've seen that her passport was never going to get here in time. She would've needed to apply in like January and March.
She continued to press me about giving her half back. Saying if he was her, she would've given me my half back. I keep trying to tell her that I don't have her money to give back, the hotel and the airline did. And I also just kept trying to tell her that she should've checked the website for the processing times. I told her I wasn't coming out of my own pocked to give her her money back.
She then proceeds to tell me that it was messed up that I didn't even offer to give her her money back when I told her I was going alone. I told her that I felt like I didn't need to offer because I'm not the reason she's not going. She is. I could understand if I was the reason she wasn't going. But her expecting me to offer MY MONEY when none of this is my fault is crazy.
This is a friend I've known for 10+ years and she's a really sweet girl. Has always been a good friend. But I'm not sure if I can get past this. No one wants to be out of over $500 but it's crazy to me that she wanted me to come out of my own money to give her back her half of the trip. I’m not giving her her money back and How she handled this is concerning.
Thoughts?
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