Is it wierd for a married couple to use condoms???

[shenitab]

This is interesting. I am married, three kids and currently have a non-hormonal IUD. I am thinking about getting it removed. I have the Paragard. A lot of women feel that they have bad side-effects due to it being made of copper (copper toxicity). I think that I may have them too. Some women say that they did not start having bad reactions until years later. I don't especially want to get my tubes tied, he looked into getting a vasectomy (and then changed his mind), and I don't want to use birth control. We may end up being part of the married condom users club.

I used to recommend non-hormonal IUD to anyone looking for a good birth control method, but now I would probably warn them about the symptoms that SOME women have reported having.

Some of the symptoms reported include: mood swings, hair loss, anxiety, depression, itchy skin, recurring yeast infections, odor, discharge, etc.

 

[DayStar]

Not weird at all.

 

[gabulldawg]

I PERSONALLY think it is weird. I am NOT a fan of condoms, so I am on BC now in order to prevent any more little ones for a while. It has been working for us. I couldn't imagine using condoms long term.

 

[O-ren]

^Be thankful you're not one of those whose body rejects artificial hormones

 

[Theo]

I am married and if I felt it was the best thing for me then I would do it. As far as your perception, its true, many people in marriages do enjoy the benefits of condom-free sex, but you still have to consider reproductive issues. Our bodies are made to make babies. No birth control method increases the chance you'll have babies.

I work at WIC as a Nutritionist & lactation counselor and we have plenty of married couples having babies within a year of a previous birth, and it happens 3, 4, 5, even 6 or more times because the couple usually 1) may be part of the Quiverfull movement and just like having kids.....2) But usually, one or both have not agreed on a form of birth control and thats all well and to each its own but having many kids back to back can wear on a woman's body and limits the time spent with each kid during infancy...

My good friend has dealt with this. She has been pregnant 5 times in 5 years. The first and the last pregnancies ended in miscarriages but they have 3 healthy kids all under the age of 5. The last pregnancy happened after her child turned 1. The other 2, the children were not even 1 when she got pregnant. But that's not a problem. They love their kids....The problem is, they are poor, and ultimately they have NOT agreed on birth control methods. even now, she always says she'll get a non-hormonal IUD but she hasn't gotten it yet, and the m/c happened 4 mos ago. Same story for each pregnancy. Exact same story. For her hubby: he refuses vasectomy, even though he SWEARS he wants no more kids. He won't do condoms because he just hates the feeling. She can't do any pills, patches, shots, because hormones make her go ape-crazy. So really condoms are most viable. So all in all---yes condom-free sex is a perk of marriage, but you MUST within a marriage agree on reproductive plans and address your health....(sorry long story)

Umm sounds like the Copper IUD is her best bet. Yes, IUDs are expensive, but babies are more expensive. Ppl can blame the husband, but its 2012... women have much more control over their reproductive health now

 

[frostydoll]

We do. I just had a child and being pregnant again or immediately is not our plan or healthy for me. Until I get on a birth control (tomorrow @ $161), and possibly thereafter, this is one of the methods we'll use.

He complains, but the crying child in the bassinet next to our bed is a reminder.

Ummm has it been 8 weeks already missy?!?!? Lol

I don't think it's weird but it wouldn't be my preference because latex condoms irritate me. I will probably get the non hormonal IUD until we're ready for another child. We've discussed him getting a vasectomy in the future since it would require major surgery for me to get my tubes tied. We'll cross that bridge when we're done having children.

 

[DarkHair]

Ummm has it been 8 weeks already missy?!?!? Lol

I don't think it's weird but it wouldn't be my preference because latex condoms irritate me. I will probably get the non hormonal IUD until we're ready for another child. We've discussed him getting a vasectomy in the future since it would require major surgery for me to get my tubes tied. We'll cross that bridge when we're done having children.

its been six, and I got my IUD yesterday. I still have to wait two days.

 

[frostydoll]

its been six, and I got my IUD yesterday. I still have to wait two days.

I'm just checking... I still can't imagine anything going in my vajayjay for a long time. I can still feel the pain

 

[carcajada]

Nope. Not weird at all.

 

[MD_Lady]

Quiet as it's kept, not every woman can pop a pill (or get a shot or insert a ring) and K.I.M. To answer the OP (IMO, of course)- Weird? No. As common among married couples as hormonal B.C.? I'd venture to say no.

 

[naturalgyrl5199]

Umm sounds like the Copper IUD is her best bet. Yes, IUDs are expensive, but babies are more expensive. Ppl can blame the husband, but its 2012... women have much more control over their reproductive health now

Yeah, that's the IUD she was going to get. I don't know WHY she is dragging her feet....But if she turns up pregnant again I wouldn't be surprised b/c she is pretty fertile. I wouldn't feel some kind of way about it, but they complain about $$. He works part-time as an adjunct prof at the same university I'm an adjunct at. She works part time at my Full time gig but she can't work full time (hasn't been able to) like she wants because all her kids are pre-school age. The 1st one will just be entering Kindergarten THIS fall. I call them "Reproductively-Irresponsible" with respect to their own situation. Some people can keep pushing out kids, like our other friends...but they can but IMO they shouldn't. To make matters worse, she is the WORSE person when pregnant. She cannot handle hormones at all. Knowing this, they both do nothing to make their situation better. Both are educated. have Masters Degrees. But they don't help themselves.....I love them both so I just pray for them, give love to the kids and help where I can. But I can't help feeling some kinda way about it.....okay (sorry I kinda jacked the thread).....

Rant over.

 

[SqualorVictoria]

We do. I have tried most birth control methods but they didn't work for me. We used the pull out method without incident for three years then I became pregnant. We have a six month old and use condoms now. We are thinking of a vasectomy but we are also thinking we may want one more, so condoms until then.

 

[Mai Tai]

As someone who gets deathly ill with hormonal birth control methods I know I will be using condoms whenever I get married. SO and I have already discussed this and he is in total agreement.

 

[asummertyme]

First thing I thought of was, they are using it as birth control..not a big deal IMO..

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[asummertyme]

This is interesting. I am married, three kids and currently have a non-hormonal IUD. I am thinking about getting it removed. I have the Paragard. A lot of women feel that they have bad side-effects due to it being made of copper (copper toxicity). I think that I may have them too. Some women say that they did not start having bad reactions until years later. I don't especially want to get my tubes tied, he looked into getting a vasectomy (and then changed his mind), and I don't want to use birth control. We may end up being part of the married condom users club.

I used to recommend non-hormonal IUD to anyone looking for a good birth control method, but now I would probably warn them about the symptoms that SOME women have reported having.

Some of the symptoms reported include: mood swings, hair loss, anxiety, depression, itchy skin, recurring yeast infections, odor, discharge, etc.

O wow , my friend has one, and she is thinking of taking it out to get pregnant again..

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