LynniePooh1
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What do you think?
Is it wierd for a married couple to use condoms???
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SummerSolstice
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I think that its really weird.
After all the waiting I'm doing to have legit married sex I will NOT want to be using condoms
After all the waiting I'm doing to have legit married sex I will NOT want to be using condoms
yardyspice
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It maybe their method of birth control.
faithVA
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It depends on why they are using condoms. If they are using it as a means of birth control it makes sense. Hormonal types of birth control is not feasible for all women. Some of the other options are a bit expensive. So it is a reasonable option.
Is there any particular reason you are asking? Seems like a partial question without any background.
Is there any particular reason you are asking? Seems like a partial question without any background.
Cheekychica
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Unless it's for birth control and for some reason the wife is not able to take the pill, then yea, it's weird. Not using condoms is one the benefits of being married. You can really tell the difference.
LynniePooh1
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I am not married. I am asking because I am friends with a married couple and they use condoms and its just weird to me, and I didn't know if that was a normal thing...
faithVA
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There can be many reasons people use condoms. Birth control being one. Reducing infections is another. Women can suffer from yeast infections and bacterial infections which can be caused or triggered by the ph of the semen. Some women can be allergic to their husbands semen. There are a lot of health conditions that are common but people just don't talk about them. So without really talking to the couple it would be hard to tell.
PracticallyMe
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I don't think it's weird. It's a form of birth control. The woman doesn't always have to be responsible for birth control.
LynniePooh1
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Wouldn't the husband feel less.....ummmm.....satisfied?
faithVA
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He may be even less satisified if they have babies they aren't ready for.
I think a responsible husband looks at the entire picture. I do know that a lot of men just think about the moment though.
pookaloo83
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SummerSolstice said:I think that its really weird.
After all the waiting I'm doing to have legit married sex I will NOT want to be using condoms
Nope! We wear condoms. I don't do bc so condoms it is.
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LucieLoo12
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WOW......
He may be even less satisified if they have babies they aren't ready for.
I think a responsible husband looks at the entire picture. I do know that a lot of men just think about the moment though.
faithVA
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So LynniePooh1, how did it come about that you had a conversation about their use of condoms but not why they use condoms? Whoever spilled the beans, did you ask them why?
LynniePooh1
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It was with the wife, she already has 3 kids and she dont want anymore and she just stated that they use condoms. I know its for birth control reasons...I would just have thought that married couples would go for a different route of birth control..I know that the "pull out" method is the most common but also the least effective as well .
I guess I was going off of my personal opinion of when I get married.(I used to be active, but decided to remain celibate until marriage) I will just do the pill. Condoms are just sooo...well...anyway. I dont like the smell of them, feel etc. But I guess to each its own...I didnt think the idea of condoms in a marriage was wrong, just uncommon...but I guess not now.
For the wives who use condoms, do you husbands ever complain about it????
.I guess I was going off of my personal opinion of when I get married.(I used to be active, but decided to remain celibate until marriage) I will just do the pill. Condoms are just sooo...well...anyway. I dont like the smell of them, feel etc. But I guess to each its own...I didnt think the idea of condoms in a marriage was wrong, just uncommon...but I guess not now.
For the wives who use condoms, do you husbands ever complain about it????
I'm not married anymore but this was a huge issue when I got married. He wanted me to get on the pill, I wanted him to use condoms. I ended up using bc pills but I wasn't happy about it.
So yes, he complained.
faithVA
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It was with the wife, she already has 3 kids and she dont want anymore and she just stated that they use condoms. I know its for birth control reasons...I would just have thought that married couples would go for a different route of birth control..I know that the "pull out" method is the most common but also the least effective as well
I guess I was going off of my personal opinion of when I get married.(I used to be active, but decided to remain celibate until marriage) I will just do the pill. Condoms are just sooo...well...anyway. I dont like the smell of them, feel etc. But I guess to each its own...I didnt think the idea of condoms in a marriage was wrong, just uncommon...but I guess not now.
For the wives who use condoms, do you husbands ever complain about it????
I am assuming the couple must be under 40. However, after a certain age birth control pills are not always advisable because of the health issues they cause. And like I said getting your tubes tied and IUDs (whatever they are called now) can be expensive.
LynniePooh1
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Um I don't think I was interjecting at all. Interjecting would have been trying to tell her what BC to use .I didn't even tell my friend anything when she told me this. I didn't say it was wrong to do this. I just wanted to hear other people's opinion on this.
DarkHair
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We do. I just had a child and being pregnant again or immediately is not our plan or healthy for me. Until I get on a birth control (tomorrow @ $161), and possibly thereafter, this is one of the methods we'll use.
He complains, but the crying child in the bassinet next to our bed is a reminder.
He complains, but the crying child in the bassinet next to our bed is a reminder.
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No it isn't weird. Like other's have stated it is a form of birth control like others. If I were to remarry I would never go back on the pill. I am over 40. It would him getting a vascetomy or me getting an IUD, that is it.
I wish men would get off the kick about not wanting a vascetomy. My brother got one right after my nephew was born, because she stated he only wanted on kid.
I wish men would get off the kick about not wanting a vascetomy. My brother got one right after my nephew was born, because she stated he only wanted on kid.
cutiebe2
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umm there are more important things than the feelings of sex
There have been a few threads here on the cons of the pill. I for one am happy I have never been on it and honestly never want to be. Being on BC is MY personal health risk that a man doesn't have to share with me. So in the end its up to me to say that I rather condoms even in a marriage. Maybe I will be on the BC for a short period of time. But in the end people will say "that's weird" without really understanding the facts
There have been a few threads here on the cons of the pill. I for one am happy I have never been on it and honestly never want to be. Being on BC is MY personal health risk that a man doesn't have to share with me. So in the end its up to me to say that I rather condoms even in a marriage. Maybe I will be on the BC for a short period of time. But in the end people will say "that's weird" without really understanding the facts
naturalgyrl5199
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I am married and if I felt it was the best thing for me then I would do it. As far as your perception, its true, many people in marriages do enjoy the benefits of condom-free sex, but you still have to consider reproductive issues. Our bodies are made to make babies. No birth control method increases the chance you'll have babies.
I work at WIC as a Nutritionist & lactation counselor and we have plenty of married couples having babies within a year of a previous birth, and it happens 3, 4, 5, even 6 or more times because the couple usually 1) may be part of the Quiverfull movement and just like having kids.....2) But usually, one or both have not agreed on a form of birth control and thats all well and to each its own but having many kids back to back can wear on a woman's body and limits the time spent with each kid during infancy...
My good friend has dealt with this. She has been pregnant 5 times in 5 years. The first and the last pregnancies ended in miscarriages but they have 3 healthy kids all under the age of 5. The last pregnancy happened after her child turned 1. The other 2, the children were not even 1 when she got pregnant. But that's not a problem. They love their kids....The problem is, they are poor, and ultimately they have NOT agreed on birth control methods. even now, she always says she'll get a non-hormonal IUD but she hasn't gotten it yet, and the m/c happened 4 mos ago. Same story for each pregnancy. Exact same story. For her hubby: he refuses vasectomy, even though he SWEARS he wants no more kids. He won't do condoms because he just hates the feeling. She can't do any pills, patches, shots, because hormones make her go ape-crazy. So really condoms are most viable. So all in all---yes condom-free sex is a perk of marriage, but you MUST within a marriage agree on reproductive plans and address your health....(sorry long story)
I work at WIC as a Nutritionist & lactation counselor and we have plenty of married couples having babies within a year of a previous birth, and it happens 3, 4, 5, even 6 or more times because the couple usually 1) may be part of the Quiverfull movement and just like having kids.....2) But usually, one or both have not agreed on a form of birth control and thats all well and to each its own but having many kids back to back can wear on a woman's body and limits the time spent with each kid during infancy...
My good friend has dealt with this. She has been pregnant 5 times in 5 years. The first and the last pregnancies ended in miscarriages but they have 3 healthy kids all under the age of 5. The last pregnancy happened after her child turned 1. The other 2, the children were not even 1 when she got pregnant. But that's not a problem. They love their kids....The problem is, they are poor, and ultimately they have NOT agreed on birth control methods. even now, she always says she'll get a non-hormonal IUD but she hasn't gotten it yet, and the m/c happened 4 mos ago. Same story for each pregnancy. Exact same story. For her hubby: he refuses vasectomy, even though he SWEARS he wants no more kids. He won't do condoms because he just hates the feeling. She can't do any pills, patches, shots, because hormones make her go ape-crazy. So really condoms are most viable. So all in all---yes condom-free sex is a perk of marriage, but you MUST within a marriage agree on reproductive plans and address your health....(sorry long story)
blksndrlla
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Nope. Not at all. Everyone can't use hormonal birth control. There are a host of reasons...
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