Perfexion
Well-Known Member
....you need to be with someone for at least ten years before you REALLY get to know them? I was having this discussion with some of my older coworkers who have been married for 20+ years and they said that the first 10 years is the getting to know you phase and the second ten years is when you're actually gelled together as man and wife. Although one of my coworkers did say that she and her husband shacked up for the first 5 years and that sped the process along. Another lady said every year she learned something new about her husband of 27 years that probably would've never come out when they were just dating. And I don't mean things like leaving socks on the floor or preferring toilet paper on the roll upside down. She meant deepest darkest fears, precious childhood memories and secret ambitions and goals. He wasn't intentionally hiding anything from her. They were just things that had never come up in the conversation before. She said it takes that long to establish true intimacy with another person. I don't know if I agree with that or not. What do you ladies think?