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love, that in love feeling?
This is something I've been grappling with lately and the Marriage...for Happiness or Holiness thread really caused me to think about it even more.
I am 33, single, but I date. I don't put it out there, but I'm looking for potential mate material. Someone with whom I share values (God, family, etc) and who wants the same types of things out of life. Right now, I feel like I am attracting the right types of guys- which is good. I keep it casual and I'm keeping physical intimacy out of the picture until I'm in a committed relationship.
I am currently in touch with a few guys who are all college educated, professional, decent incomes, ages between 32 and 44. They want to get married in the near future (1-2 1/2 yrs) and want to have kids and see me as potential mate material and would like to pursue a relationship. Herein lies my dilemma. Obviously, these are good guys and any of them would make a good husband and father because of the aforementioned qualities and other attributes which I have observed. I enjoy each of their company, but I pretty much don't feel any spark. I like spending time, but I could kinda take it or leave it.
I've been in love in the past before, I think, but now I'm kinda numb. These guys can make me smile with sweet actions, kind words, etc, but I know other women who just have a glow and a big smile when they talk about their SO. Though I would like to be in a relationship, I would also like to feel some magic. erplexed Does that come? How important is it? Especially, if the key component of marriage is a commitment before God and to the family unit you all are establishing together. (I know these comments/questions might sound naive)
I don't want to wait around forever for something that may or may not happen- should I try a relationship with a "nice guy" or continue living my life as a single gal and hold out for the qualities I'm looking for and some spark?
Your advice, feedback, comments, etc are welcomed (Thanks in advance!)
This is something I've been grappling with lately and the Marriage...for Happiness or Holiness thread really caused me to think about it even more.
I am 33, single, but I date. I don't put it out there, but I'm looking for potential mate material. Someone with whom I share values (God, family, etc) and who wants the same types of things out of life. Right now, I feel like I am attracting the right types of guys- which is good. I keep it casual and I'm keeping physical intimacy out of the picture until I'm in a committed relationship.
I am currently in touch with a few guys who are all college educated, professional, decent incomes, ages between 32 and 44. They want to get married in the near future (1-2 1/2 yrs) and want to have kids and see me as potential mate material and would like to pursue a relationship. Herein lies my dilemma. Obviously, these are good guys and any of them would make a good husband and father because of the aforementioned qualities and other attributes which I have observed. I enjoy each of their company, but I pretty much don't feel any spark. I like spending time, but I could kinda take it or leave it.
I've been in love in the past before, I think, but now I'm kinda numb. These guys can make me smile with sweet actions, kind words, etc, but I know other women who just have a glow and a big smile when they talk about their SO. Though I would like to be in a relationship, I would also like to feel some magic. erplexed Does that come? How important is it? Especially, if the key component of marriage is a commitment before God and to the family unit you all are establishing together. (I know these comments/questions might sound naive)
I don't want to wait around forever for something that may or may not happen- should I try a relationship with a "nice guy" or continue living my life as a single gal and hold out for the qualities I'm looking for and some spark?
Your advice, feedback, comments, etc are welcomed (Thanks in advance!)