PeaceLover
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Is it a deal-breaker if you don't like someone's kid? Like, you RRREEEEAAALLLLLYYYYYY love them, but can't stand being around their kid.
Is it a deal-breaker if you don't like someone's kid? Like, you RRREEEEAAALLLLLYYYYYY love them, but can't stand being around their kid.
Is it a deal-breaker if you don't like someone's kid? Like, you RRREEEEAAALLLLLYYYYYY love them, but can't stand being around their kid.
And that would be another deal breaker. I can't respect you, if you treat your kids like crap. And if you allow me to treat them like crap, also don't respect you. However, some kids are spoiled, and or disrespectful and if we are together long term e.g, married we would have to have a convo on discipline, acceptable behavior etc. (I am not saying corporal punishment) but I am not allowing a kid to be disrespectful etc with no consequences.) He doesn't like his kid either or doesn't take care for them. How a man treats his current kids is an indication of how he would treat his future kids.
omgBoy, have I been there. He had two kids (sons) the youngest I adored. But the oldest (14 yrs) was the Devil himself. I guess he was spoiled since he was the one and only for quite a while, on top of being resentful of his parents breakup. The worst part was his father couldn't see some of the demonic things he would do. I always treated him kindly during the 'brief' relationship but always stayed on guard. He once blocked my number from his Dad's cellphone. His Dad thought I dumped him and I thought his Dad was ignoring me. Luckily, his Dad decided to "man up and call me" after about a week of not speaking to one another. We both thought the other one was lying about trying to contact/answer the other person. Dad never really knew how my number got blocked.....but I know. The relationship ended on it's own but that was ONE of my reasons for not pursuing it any further. If you can ...GET OUT!!!! Although they may soon be old enough to move out, there is always the possibility of them staying around FOREVER.
I don't judge her for her feelings but if the kid is a brat he's half responsible. Even if you're past having kids his track record isn't looking good. Instead of dating he needs to invest time to handle his kid.People might judge you for saying you dont like a child but all kids are not angels. Some are raised poorly and act accordingly.
A lot of kids are going to act out when it comes to their parents dating because they want their mommy and daddy to get back together so brat behavior ensues.I don't judge her for her feelings but if the kid is a brat he's half responsible. Even if you're past having kids his track record isn't looking good. Instead of dating he needs to invest time to handle his kid.
So then you spend more time with kid to reassure your place with them and less time introducing new gf. If parent isn't addressing the bad behavior you bounce.A lot of kids are going to act out when it comes to their parents dating because they want their mommy and daddy to get back together so brat behavior ensues.
Aww sorry to hear thatAs person who was the disliked kid move on now.
Ugh, the kid sounds kind of bratty but it also seems like there's some baby mama drama, which may be exacerbating the situation. That I absolutely would NOT do. Do you guys clash often?
Not trying to be a d-bag but why would anyone allow an 8 yr old to be up until 4am and then expect them to be functional the next day??? An 8 year old should not be up that late.
Also, I get the whole, "my house, my rules thing", but she's 8. She needs the opportunity to get used to the way things are in another home. Kids like routine and are creatures of habit. Different rules, Dad's GF who's not my mom, all those things will take getting used to, with some extra patience I'm sure she'll get better.