I Thought You Were Lying

[Lady Esquire]

My MIL was visiting for about 2 weeks. For the first 6 days, she would constantly make remarks about how my hair grew and how my daughters' hair grew and ..... Then when I washed my hair, upstairs, behind closed doors in my bedroom... 'ole girl came up to investigate my scalp ....when I was setting my with rollers. I felt her eyeballs x-raying thru my rollers.

A few hours later, after I had taken them out, I was in the kitchen and she was in the living room, and we were seperated by a wall.

Her: May I share a confidence with you?

Me: (thinking to myself, O shyt!) Sure.

Her: This entire week, every time we talked about your hair, I thought you were lying. I thought there were at least a few peices of weave in there some where. (Thank goodness she could not see my face.... 'cause I was like ).

Me: Why would I lie to you about something as trivial as hair? I have told you in the past when I was wearing extensions.

Her: Because hair is really hard to grow like you did.

Me: Maybe...but once you learn a few techniques and unlearn bad habits, and....(then she interrupted me)

Her: Especially hair like yours. :eatme:

Me: Hair like mine?????

Her: You know. You do not have the softest hair.

Me: All people can grow hair. Unless one has some sort of scalp disorder...healthy women with all grades of hair can grow it long, if they choose to do so with applying the right techniques.

SILENCE.

 

[SparklingFlame]

Ummmmmm......ok.

What in the heck does having soft hair have to do with the price of tea in China?

So soft hair is a prerequisite to growing long hair? Otaaaaaaaaaay!

 

[BKVincy]

did you give her enough time to pick her face up from the ground????


awesome

 

[locabouthair]

Yes you had great growth. I've been stalking your fotki You're one of my inspirations!

I'm glad you showed her

Yes, the myth that "bad hair" doesnt grow need to put to an end.

I have a friend like your MIL, always telling me how bad and nappy my hair is. One day I'ma show her ***.

Congrats on the new baby!!

 

[Sui Topi]

LOL ...some people are so uncouth! You carried yourself well though

 

[JustKiya]

You handled that FABULOUSLY!!!

I betcha when she gets home, you'll get a phone call or two asking about 'hair hints'.

And 'soft hair' has become the euphemism for 'good hair' now, has it?

Why do we stay trapped in the same faslehoods?!??!?!

 

[PassionFruit]

dealing with MILs is enough hassle without them now having to scrutinize our HAIR

you did good, OP!!

 

[TaraDyan]

I love the way you side-stepped that potential land mine. You handled it well.

Oh ... and you have beautiful hair!

 

[Lady Esquire]

You handled that FABULOUSLY!!!

I betcha when she gets home, you'll get a phone call or two asking about 'hair hints'.

And 'soft hair' has become the euphemism for 'good hair' now, has it?

Why do we stay trapped in the same faslehoods?!??!?!

Okay, so how about she was a ball of questions from that day on. I taught her how to prepoo, steam with a towel, and DC properly. Then a few days later she was itching to wash again, so I taught her how to wrap, then airdry with a scarf.

So, yes, she did not even wait to go home to bombard me with questions. I am planning on sending her a care package. Killing her behind with kindness has faired well in the near 13 years with DH. It keeps the drama at bay. Plus there is a bit of satisfaction, because about 2 years ago, she told me that I was killing me hair and when I was stretching.

 

[d-rock]

Hmmm... what does her hair look like. Sounds like someone was sippin' on that hatoraide.

 

[JustKiya]

Okay, so how about she was a ball of questions from that day on. I taught her how to prepoo, steam with a towel, and DC properly. Then a few days later she was itching to wash again, so I taught her how to wrap, then airdry with a scarf.

So, yes, she did not even wait to go home to bombard me with questions. I am planning on sending her a care package. Killing her behind with kindness has faired well in the near 13 years with DH. It keeps the drama at bay. Plus there is a bit of satisfaction, because about 2 years ago, she told me that I was killing me hair and when I was stretching.

She ain't waste NO time, did she??? That's wonderful - and you're a smart woman! Kindness works better than anything else, that's the truth!




Whatcha gonna put in the care package?

 

[Lady Esquire]

Yes you had great growth. I've been stalking your fotki You're one of my inspirations!

I'm glad you showed her

Yes, the myth that "bad hair" doesnt grow need to put to an end.

I have a friend like your MIL, always telling me how bad and nappy my hair is. One day I'ma show her ***.

Congrats on the new baby!!

The bolded made Thank you, I am enjoying my new little man.

I love the way you side-stepped that potential land mine. You handled it well.

Oh ... and you have beautiful hair!

And so do you mama!!!!

 

[Lady Esquire]

She ain't waste NO time, did she??? That's wonderful - and you're a smart woman! Kindness works better than anything else, that's the truth!




Whatcha gonna put in the care package?

Coconut oil
Creme of Nature Moisturizing Shampoo
Silicon Mix Conditioning Creme
Salerm 21 Leave-In
Aloe Vera gel (for her edges)

And how about my own mother who arrived a few weeks after her, the first thing she said when she saw me was, "Weave?" And she proceeded to stalk my cabinets later that week...so I may send her the same package. Damn shame, cause my mom is a cosmetologist...the stubborn, know-it-all kind...

Bless their hearts. They have all been fed a lie. I'll share with anyone who truly wants to know. I wish someone did with me.

 

[Neith]

Hmmm... what does her hair look like. Sounds like someone was sippin' on that hatoraide.

Exactly what I was thinking

Tried to sneak a diss in with a compliment.

I applaud you for taking the high road. I would not be able to be as nice as you are with someone like that.

Off Topic...

Look at that baby, sooooo sweet and cute looking!

 

[PuffyBrown]

No worries...

to MY MIL: :hippie3:WHAT EVUH!!!!!

lolblondboob


Anyhoo....forget granny pants....that baby is TOO CUTE!

My MIL was visiting for about 2 weeks. For the first 6 days, she would constantly make remarks about how my hair grew and how my daughters' hair grew and ..... Then when I washed my hair, upstairs, behind closed doors in my bedroom... 'ole girl came up to investigate my scalp ....when I was setting my with rollers. I felt her eyeballs x-raying thru my rollers.

A few hours later, after I had taken them out, I was in the kitchen and she was in the living room, and we were seperated by a wall.

Her: May I share a confidence with you?

Me: (thinking to myself, O shyt!) Sure.

Her: This entire week, every time we talked about your hair, I thought you were lying. I thought there were at least a few peices of weave in there some where. (Thank goodness she could not see my face.... 'cause I was like ).

Me: Why would I lie to you about something as trivial as hair? I have told you in the past when I was wearing extensions.

Her: Because hair is really hard to grow like you did.

Me: Maybe...but once you learn a few techniques and unlearn bad habits, and....(then she interrupted me)

Her: Especially hair like yours. :eatme:

Me: Hair like mine?????

Her: You know. You do not have the softest hair.

Me: All people can grow hair. Unless one has some sort of scalp disorder...healthy women with all grades of hair can grow it long, if they choose to do so with applying the right techniques.

SILENCE.

 

[Lady Esquire]

Hmmm... what does her hair look like. Sounds like someone was sippin' on that hatoraide.

Ummmmmmm.

No comment.

Plead the 5th.

 

[JustKiya]

Coconut oil
Creme of Nature Moisturizing Shampoo
Silicon Mix Conditioning Creme
Salerm 21 Leave-In
Aloe Vera gel (for her edges)

And how about my own mother who arrived a few weeks after her, the first thing she said when she saw me was, "Weave?" And she proceeded to stalk my cabinets later that week...so I may send her the same package. Damn shame, cause my mom is a cosmetologist...the stubborn, know-it-all kind...

Bless their hearts. They have all been fed a lie. I'll share with anyone who truly wants to know. I wish someone did with me.

Danggone, when your MAMA is calling you out like that - that's just not right.

Hopefully, you'll convert her too, and save some heads that come under her hands....

And girl, that baby of yours is just TOO CUTE!!!! How old is he now?

 

[PassionFruit]

damn the mother in law.. how do I get on lady Esq's care package list...

 

[Lady Esquire]

Danggone, when your MAMA is calling you out like that - that's just not right.

Hopefully, you'll convert her too, and save some heads that come under her hands....

And girl, that baby of yours is just TOO CUTE!!!! How old is he now?

yep. both ladies are 60ish. so they are spewing those deeply-ingrained hair myths from waaaay back.

she no longer runs her shops any more. she does it part time thru her home salon every now and then. her one saving grace was that she was a weave specialist and was the bomb at styling and rollersetting. but i was not surprised that she called me out too.

 

[*C00KIE*]

LOL, to your post. I really like that fact that you didn't only tell her in a polite way about herself but you also prove to her that SHE IS WRONG!!!

 

[PrincessScorpion]

Coconut oil
Creme of Nature Moisturizing Shampoo
Silicon Mix Conditioning Creme
Salerm 21 Leave-In
Aloe Vera gel (for her edges)

And how about my own mother who arrived a few weeks after her, the first thing she said when she saw me was, "Weave?" And she proceeded to stalk my cabinets later that week...so I may send her the same package. Damn shame, cause my mom is a cosmetologist...the stubborn, know-it-all kind...

Bless their hearts. They have all been fed a lie. I'll share with anyone who truly wants to know. I wish someone did with me.

I am not going to ask you if it is a weave. What I want to know is about the steaming with a towe, what kind of towel, wet, micorwave or no micowave, and for how long on the head and heat?

As far as the Mama Inlaw goes my SO mother does not care for me, but it really does not bother me much, but she sure was in a rush to come into our new house and seems to think we are doing Thanksgiving at my house.NOT!

My grandmother saw me a couple of weeks ago at my mother's. She is a former cosmetologist. She made the comment to my mother " I see she is wearing her hair natural now why doesn't she shape it up some." My mother told her that is her hair and she can do anything she wants to it. My mother is just happy I bring her grandson to see her so she does not care what my hair looks like.

 

[PinkPebbles]

I'm glad that your hair showed her!!!!

Great job on your progress!

 

[Lady Esquire]

damn the mother in law.. how do I get on lady Esq's care package list...

You stooooooooopit!
Ya'll are killing me today!
Don't get all excited. I am not quite sure she will even heed any of my advice...so I am sending her the minimalist package.

I's on a budget.

 

[Nice & Wavy]

Ummmmmm......ok.

What in the heck does having soft hair have to do with the price of tea in China?

So soft hair is a prerequisite to growing long hair? Otaaaaaaaaaay!

..shoot, if that's the case, my hair is too by butt right now cause my hair is soft

 

[Zawaj]

MIL was like maternity leave be darned I'm getting the hair info now! Dang! LOL.

You are a sweetie though LadyEsquire; giving her the info and sending the care package after her back handed compliment is nice.

 

[Lady Esquire]

MIL was like maternity leave be darned I'm getting the hair info now! Dang! LOL.

You are a sweetie though LadyEsquire; giving her the info and sending the care package after her back handed compliment is nice.

I really am NOT that nice. TRUST. It takes great effort not to :hardslap: But I get her company in small rations, since she lives away...so I keep the peace and keep it moving. Makes life much simpler. It aint worth it to get gangsta on her ***. Plus its never anything that requires to much damage control.

 

[PrincessScorpion]

damn the mother in law.. how do I get on lady Esq's care package list...

PassionFruit I am feelin you on this one and we have not said anything negative about her hair either.



I thought the MIL was suppose to be there to see the baby not all in Esq hair and head.

 

[Lady Esquire]

Yes you had great growth. I've been stalking your fotki You're one of my inspirations!

I'm glad you showed her

Yes, the myth that "bad hair" doesnt grow need to put to an end.

I have a friend like your MIL, always telling me how bad and nappy my hair is. One day I'ma show her ***.

Congrats on the new baby!!

thx loca.

bad, hard, nappy hair = sounds like nails on a chalk board to me.

 

[d-rock]

You handled that FABULOUSLY!!!

I betcha when she gets home, you'll get a phone call or two asking about 'hair hints'.

And 'soft hair' has become the euphemism for 'good hair' now, has it?

Why do we stay trapped in the same faslehoods?!??!?!

I think it's mostly the "old heads." Like my mom and my cousin. They're like, "conditioner wash? Oh no girl, you need to stick to once a week shampoo washes." I'm usually like, "I have more hair than both of you combined, obviously I'm doing something right."

 

[d-rock]

Okay, so how about she was a ball of questions from that day on. I taught her how to prepoo, steam with a towel, and DC properly. Then a few days later she was itching to wash again, so I taught her how to wrap, then airdry with a scarf.

So, yes, she did not even wait to go home to bombard me with questions. I am planning on sending her a care package. Killing her behind with kindness has faired well in the near 13 years with DH. It keeps the drama at bay. Plus there is a bit of satisfaction, because about 2 years ago, she told me that I was killing me hair and when I was stretching.

Interesting, considering hair is already dead.