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She is a moron. A complete moron. How do you keep from slapping her?
^^^^^ this
She is a moron. A complete moron. How do you keep from slapping her?
She is a moron. A complete moron. How do you keep from slapping her?
DON'T TALK TO HER AND DON'T DIRECT HER ARSE OVER HERE
Ethiopians don't have food!??? WHAT!? omg...
Well dayum, what can yall talk about then? I'd keep a close eye on her if I were you. I don't know her personally but based on what you've written so far she's not to be trusted.Well she texted me today right before I was suppose to leave for class and let me know that my request for time off from work was not approved. I hope my supervisor let her know and she didn't peek at my paperwork. I needed to have that clear in order to go to school. I was able to handle it before I was in big trouble. So she saved my butt today. She's good for that; but when it comes to hair, travel, dating, culture, etc. I can't really listen to her without being perplexed. erplexed She's very aggressive toward me, planning her lunch breaks around mine so we can talk/gossip. Because we have had so much drama in our small circle I try to keep things civil. There are times when she really makes me want to snap on her but I remember the White cane. If a man steps on your toe, don't cuss him out see that he is blind.
Well dayum, what can yall talk about then? I'd keep a close eye on her if I were you. I don't know her personally but based on what you've written so far she's not to be trusted.
SmilingElephant said:Ppl are just strange. I have stopped telling ppl my heritage when they ask me what i'm mixed with...i just stick with "both of my parents are black and their parents are black....whatever i'm mixed with was about 5 or 6 generations ago". Ppl will always find a reason to believe that nothing pretty comes from being Black.
It's not about that...its about taking care of what you have. It wouldn't flourish if you didn't take care of it. And that goes for anything.
Yeah I don't completely trust her, I sometimes feel she lies to me about what my supervisor says about me behind my back. She asks a lot of questions. I have stopped telling her about my trips. I took a trip to Germany a year ago and she thought it was great but proceeded to tell me I should have spent that money on a new car. erplexed
She has also blurted out some personal stuff that I would have liked to keep private. She asked me if my boyfriend like my hair curly or straight. I told her curly. She then proceeded to ask me if he was White. I said yes, I didn't see any reason to deny it. But then she calls people into the room to tell them she knew my then boyfriend was White because Black men like our hair straight. I told her not to tell my business. But I know it was my fault for sharing it with her.
I have been grappling with trying to figure out if she is a friend or foe. She comes off like she likes me but I think she does have some jealousy going on. Anyway, I will take everyone's advice and keep it polite and change the subject.
I have been grappling with trying to figure out if she is a friend or foe. She comes off like she likes me but I think she does have some jealousy going on. Anyway, I will take everyone's advice and keep it polite and change the subject.
CurlyMoo said:Yeah I don't completely trust her, I sometimes feel she lies to me about what my supervisor says about me behind my back. She asks a lot of questions. I have stopped telling her about my trips. I took a trip to Germany a year ago and she thought it was great but proceeded to tell me I should have spent that money on a new car. erplexed
She has also blurted out some personal stuff that I would have liked to keep private. She asked me if my boyfriend like my hair curly or straight. I told her curly. She then proceeded to ask me if he was White. I said yes, I didn't see any reason to deny it. But then she calls people into the room to tell them she knew my then boyfriend was White because Black men like our hair straight. I told her not to tell my business. But I know it was my fault for sharing it with her.
I have been grappling with trying to figure out if she is a friend or foe. She comes off like she likes me but I think she does have some jealousy going on. Anyway, I will take everyone's advice and keep it polite and change the subject.
CurlyMoo said:Yeah I don't completely trust her, I sometimes feel she lies to me about what my supervisor says about me behind my back. She asks a lot of questions. I have stopped telling her about my trips. I took a trip to Germany a year ago and she thought it was great but proceeded to tell me I should have spent that money on a new car. erplexed
She has also blurted out some personal stuff that I would have liked to keep private. She asked me if my boyfriend like my hair curly or straight. I told her curly. She then proceeded to ask me if he was White. I said yes, I didn't see any reason to deny it. But then she calls people into the room to tell them she knew my then boyfriend was White because Black men like our hair straight. I told her not to tell my business. But I know it was my fault for sharing it with her.
I have been grappling with trying to figure out if she is a friend or foe. She comes off like she likes me but I think she does have some jealousy going on. Anyway, I will take everyone's advice and keep it polite and change the subject.
My mother has a friend like this and because my mother is a saint she just ignores what the friend says because she just accepts that she is an insecure, jealous person. I bring this up because they are in their eighties and the friend has always acted defensive about anybody who had something she didn't. Your coworker is unlikely to change her personality. My advice is to treat her the way you would treat someone with a mental illness. Recognize that she cannot help herself and be kind.
Hon, I hate to break this to you but she's no friend. I think your instincts are telling you that but you're second guessing yourself. I've been in your shoes before so I know how difficult this is for you. All of this will make you a stronger person but the time it's pver.Yeah I don't completely trust her, I sometimes feel she lies to me about what my supervisor says about me behind my back. She asks a lot of questions. I have stopped telling her about my trips. I took a trip to Germany a year ago and she thought it was great but proceeded to tell me I should have spent that money on a new car. erplexed
She has also blurted out some personal stuff that I would have liked to keep private. She asked me if my boyfriend like my hair curly or straight. I told her curly. She then proceeded to ask me if he was White. I said yes, I didn't see any reason to deny it. But then she calls people into the room to tell them she knew my then boyfriend was White because Black men like our hair straight. I told her not to tell my business. But I know it was my fault for sharing it with her.
I have been grappling with trying to figure out if she is a friend or foe. She comes off like she likes me but I think she does have some jealousy going on. Anyway, I will take everyone's advice and keep it polite and change the subject.
My mother has a friend like this and because my mother is a saint she just ignores what the friend says because she just accepts that she is an insecure, jealous person. I bring this up because they are in their eighties and the friend has always acted defensive about anybody who had something she didn't. Your coworker is unlikely to change her personality. My advice is to treat her the way you would treat someone with a mental illness. Recognize that she cannot help herself and be kind.
CurlyMoo said:Yes I ignore much of what she says, however sometimes it really has me ready to cuss her out. But then I decide otherwise, because she can be helpful. Interesting that you mention mental illness because we work in a mental institution. Sometimes I think my co-workers are actually escapees.
puffball Not in the grand scheme of things it really doesn't. I know some white girls who have a hard time growing their hair long too. Heck some of them have never even had long hair. Good hair care trumps DNA most of the time.But um..OP..doesn't genetics have a lot to do with hair length/growth? Was she really wrong for believing that..especially since your grandma is white? I'm just saying..
This woman is obviously envious of the attention you are getting over your hair. I guess her way of deqling with it is to make you out to be a liar. It is clear that she is immature and ignorant by her Ethiopian statement.
But um..OP..doesn't genetics have a lot to do with hair length/growth? Was she really wrong for believing that..especially since your grandma is white? I'm just saying..
i have this thing of just not talking to people anymore or being very short and distant. she would be one of those people that would get treated like that. she has gotten on my last nerve and i don't even work there.