@
Crystalicequeen123,
what kinds of green light signals are you referring to? What green light signals do you give?
@
rafikichick92
Well, see now that I've moved to a new state, I have to be even MORE proactive to make sure that I go out, make new friends, and put myself OUT there, instead of just sitting at home like a bump on a log lol. I don't have quick access to the same social circles that I made over the years back at home, so I have to definitely put myself out there more.
See, I tend to be more shy around guys I like , and so that's why the guys I WEREN'T interested in were flocking to me lol.... It finally dawned on me that I was inadvertently giving the guys I WEREN'T into "signs" of interest (because I was so comfortable, upbeat, and not giving a care in the world), and doing the complete
OPPOSITE with the guys I actually DID have an interest in!
So, this year I decided to switch it up.
Signs:
-Looking nice, dressing nicely, and dressing for the TYPE of man you want to attract
-Accentuating your femininity as a WOMAN....especially if you tend to be attracted to more masculine men (opposites tend to attract)
-Giving a guy "the eyes"
-SMILE SMILE SMILE!!!
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<-----I am almost convinced that
THIS is hands down a woman's BEST asset.
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Not her boobs, not her butt, not her hair....but her SMILE.
-Having a
POSITIVE, open, upbeat, and friendly nature towards EVERYONE.
-Striking up an innocent brief conversation/question for the guy that has caught your eye. "What time is it?" "Do you come here often?" "Where can I find....?" Even flirty/playful remarks (nothing insulting) can give a guy the "green light" that you've noticed him, and that you're a fun person to be around.
In other words, not waiting for a man to notice you or approach you. Give him the "signal" that it's "okay" to pursue you and if he's interested, he will follow suit and start pursuing
you. If he's not, then who cares?? You haven't lost anything. Plus, who knows...he might have some nice single guy friends lol
See, I noticed in the past, when I was just being "MYSELF" around guys I wasn't interested in, I
EASILY engaged them in conversation. I never cared or thought about who was "making the first move", or WAITED for the guy to "come to me". I was just happy minding my own business and saw a person there and spoke to them!
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NONE of this OVER analyzing, or "playing coy" or "hard to get" etc. In fact, when I REALLY sat down and thought about it, I have NEVER had a guy end up liking me or expressing interest in me when I was completely closed OFF, never spoke to him, never made eye contact, never joked with him, etc. There was always
SOMETHING that I did to acknowledge him or give him the "sign", and 9 times out of 10 THAT's what made him get the "Green Light" to pursue.
See....I started to realize, that there are probably a TON of guys right now who are attracted or interested to us as women when we go out, or when we're in a group of friends, etc. But, a lot of times men won't even bother to make any type of move in a romantic way if the woman doesn't give him the "signal" to proceed. SOME women see other women doing this and view this as a woman being flirty, but it's really not. You're not doing anything out of the ordinary. You're just lighting up the world with your charming presence.
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It's just called taking an INTEREST in people
in GENERAL.
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When you do this, you will find that you will probably have more men falling at your feet.
Change your intent. Instead of viewing men as these foreign creatures lol, view them as just everyday people like you and me. Treat even the ones you're not even into with respect and care, because OTHER men are watching to see how you turn other men down...
Oh, there are SO many more things I could mention, but this post is long enough! lol
But bottom line, I'm now a
FIRM believer in giving men that I'm interested in "signs" that it's okay to "proceed".
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