Lawd, bunny!
I was going to give a similar advice but with a softer approach:
-There is such a thing as too much reading and plotting when it comes to dating and relationships. I am genuinely curious, Glib, what your biggest takeaways have been from what you've read. I imagine it is hard to remember EVERYTHING, but I would assume there are a few key points that drive your behavior. Maybe you can share them with us and we can help you assess whether you're applying them the way the author intended? Or how to make them more suited to you?
-If you feel that you don't know how to date, then men asking you out on dates is giving you perfect opportunities to learn and get better at dating. Unless the man really doesn't pass first screening (ex: he doesn't have a job, is a thug, whatever), then why not go out solely for the purpose of working up your charm skills? Unless there's a reason you think you could either be harmed on the date, have to pay your way
, or you're worried that you'd even fall for a kang's sweet talk, then I don't see why not go on a practice date. Then you'll also learn how to *charmingly* tell men that you won't be dating them anymore to the point that they're still intrigued with you thereafter
(you have the gift of gab if I remember
now you just need to spruce up your charm)
-Stop judging men before you even go out with them. It isn't a good look, plus it is counterproductive to what you're trying to achieve.
-Throw out all the books! Personal opinion, but if your "how to date" list fist on something bigger than a notepad page (I'm making this up but I actually believe it), then you're over thinking and doing too much. You can't follow all the advice from this massive romance-self-help industry, so what are your go-to? And if you don't have a short list of go-to at all, then that's a problem.