Slave4Hair
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Ugh! I met this guy...online. We met, had a date, it was perfect, he's such a gentleman. He's funny, 6'5 , smart. The only thing is...he's 29 and he lives at home with him mama!! Also he is a bartender...thats it. I don't want to come across as a gold digger, but one of the things I look for in men is stability. I have only dated men with college degree's. Education is really important to me and my family erplexed This guy never finished his associates. Apparently he go out of the navy two years ago and ever since he has been living at home with his mom. At first, because we hit it off so well and he treats me better than any man I have ever met, i overlooked these flaws. Now, it's really starting to get to me. It's annoying that he always comes over to my place, and though he always pays for dinner, drinks, movies, whatever...I always think to myself, could he support a family on this salary? What would happen if he moved out, could he support himself on this salary? I live in DC, it's pretty expensive to live here. I am a graduate student living with 2 roomies (also classmates) and i really don't like having them in my business every time he comes over.
He claims he will move out in the fall...but who really knows. He also claims he's going back to school...for his associates degree in the fall. I know I sound snotty, but it's just so different. My last SO was making really good money, white collar job, he was very ambitious and that was a big turn on for me. He was also 29, I remember when he was laid off, he still refused to live at home because he said men don't live off their mama's. I asked this guy why he was living at home, thinking, maybe he was saving up for something? But i think he just...wants to? He gave me no reason.
Am i overreacting or do i have a right to feel this way? I really like him but I am having trouble seeing past this issue, help me
He claims he will move out in the fall...but who really knows. He also claims he's going back to school...for his associates degree in the fall. I know I sound snotty, but it's just so different. My last SO was making really good money, white collar job, he was very ambitious and that was a big turn on for me. He was also 29, I remember when he was laid off, he still refused to live at home because he said men don't live off their mama's. I asked this guy why he was living at home, thinking, maybe he was saving up for something? But i think he just...wants to? He gave me no reason.
Am i overreacting or do i have a right to feel this way? I really like him but I am having trouble seeing past this issue, help me