I just filed for divorce today.

[Honey6928215]

He didn't do anything b/c he thinks I'm coming back. He has left several messages this message. He wants to know why I won't talk to him. He says I owe that to him, whatever. We haven't been married long enough for spousal support.

Lord, MrsPatriceww,

He has gone plum crazy. But whatever you do please watch your back and document EVERYTHING that took place. I'm surprised the police didn't lock him up for having a hand gun. They should have put him in jail right there.

 

[life_is_great]

Lord, MrsPatriceww,

He has gone plum crazy. But whatever you do please watch your back and document EVERYTHING that took place. I'm surprised the police didn't lock him up for having a hand gun. They should have put him in jail right there.

They didn't b/c he had a permit. He is calling back to back at work. I'm about to call our IS area to see if they can block his number. He keeps calling and it is driving me crazy.

 

[ElegantExotic]

Hey MsPatrice, I just checked in to see if you were ok. Hang in there chickie! This will be a trying time, but with the grace of God you will get through it.

 

[DragonPearl]

Girl, what a nightmare it has been. Things are looking up for you. Just be EXTRA careful when it comes to your safety. I am really concerned that he has a hand gun, though. Perhaps you can speak with your attorney and ask to have his permit suspended, if only temporally.

 

[victomae]

Please make sure that you and your daughter are never alone. Have someone with you when you leave work to walk to your car or to pick up your daughter. He could try to sneak up on you at any time.

Be safe and I am praying for you and your daughter.

 

[DragonPearl]

Please make sure that you and your daughter are never alone. Have someone with you when you leave work to walk to your car or to pick up your daughter. He could try to sneak up on you at any time.

I second that.

If you have a routine that he knows about, BREAK IT UP. Don't go to the usual places at the usual time. If you have to go to the same place of work, go at different times and leave work early or much later. Shop at different stores. If possible put your daugther in a different childcare one that he does not know about. Rent a car so that he cannot ID your car. You cannot be too careful.

 

[life_is_great]

Great news. My atty just called, the judge signed the temporary restraining order. He has to leave my house. I am so happy.

 

[victomae]

That's great!!! But please don't forget that might also make him angry and dangerous. He is losing everything and more than likely will never see that it is his fault. It is still just a piece of paper . Just be careful!

 

[life_is_great]

That's great!!! But please don't forget that might also make him angry and dangerous. He is losing everything and more than likely will never see that it is his fault. It is still just a piece of paper . Just be careful!

I know. I'm not staying there. I don't want him to stay there either.

 

[donna894]

Great news. My atty just called, the judge signed the temporary restraining order. He has to leave my house. I am so happy.

Cool! Keep us posted. And know that we are keeping you and your daughter in prayer. This too shall pass. And seriously consider that advice about changing your routine and car!

 

[Sosoothing]

Im so excited about the restraining order ! I hope nothing else overly dramatic happens from here on. God Bless you.

 

[LizLeila]

Hey do you think he is dumb enough to show up at your job? or at your mother's for that matter?

 

[TrustMeLove]

Thank you Jesus!

Its great to hear you and your daughter are ok. Keep doing what your doing and keep your bases covered.

I would learn how to protect me and mines as well.

 

[kisz4tj]

Be Well MsP

 

[life_is_great]

Hey do you think he is dumb enough to show up at your job? or at your mother's for that matter?

If he comes to my job, he has to get in through the security doors and the guards. He is crazy, but I'm not really afraid of him. He's a bully and he doesn't want to go to jail.

 

[sprungonhairboards]

What an a hole. I know you probably don't want people all in your business but I would let at least one person at work, security guard, maybe a supervisor you're cool with or something, know that you have a restraining order against him in case he tries to come to your job.

 

[CandiceC]

What an a hole. I know you probably don't want people all in your business but I would let at least one person at work, security guard, maybe a supervisor you're cool with or something, know that you have a restraining order against him in case he tries to come to your job.

I agree. It'll be good to have another set of eyes looking out for you.

 

[LizLeila]

Be prepared if he gets frustrated with not being able to talk to you on the phone and tries to corner you in person.

Your job seems safe on the inside, but he may try to track you down outside. It sounds as if you have made your safety your priority, but try to make someone aware of the situation.

 

[life_is_great]

Be prepared if he gets frustrated with not being able to talk to you on the phone and tries to corner you in person.

Your job seems safe on the inside, but he may try to track you down outside. It sounds as if you have made your safety your priority, but try to make someone aware of the situation.

So do you think I should talk to him so that he won't corner me?

 

[Crackers Phinn]

So do you think I should talk to him so that he won't corner me?

NO don't talk to him, just make sure that you're not alone when walking to your car or getting lunch. If he does show up out the blue, scream, act a fool to get peoples attention, so he knows if he tries to make a move there will be an audience, i.e. witnesses.

 

[LizLeila]

No!

I think you are doing the right thing in every aspect, but I think that you may want to anticipate him trying to go out of his way to contact you. Just be prepared for that. That is why I was saying to notify people you trust, consider changing cars, change locations so that he wont be able to track you down.

 

[MzTami]

So do you think I should talk to him so that he won't corner me?

I don't know Mrs. P...I was going to suggest you talk to him, so that he at least know what is going on. He may know what's going on, but needs to hear it from you. He's probably dumb founded by your actions. He thought that you would NEVER do something like this before. I probably would answer his call to let him know that you have filed for divorce and you have a restraning order against him and etc... Let him know! JMO.

 

[life_is_great]

I don't know Mrs. P...I was going to suggest you talk to him, so that he at least know what is going on. He may know what's going on, but needs to hear it from you. He's probably dumb founded by your actions. He thought that you would NEVER do something like this before. I probably would answer his call to let him know that you have filed for divorce and you have a restraning order against him and etc... Let him know! JMO.

He heard me tell the police that I filed for a divorce and there was pending restraining order. He said I was lying and that I would come back. He also showed them the sign in the yard and said we are buying a new house. He thinks I'm just mad and I'll come around. He might change his mind when he gets the restraining order.

 

[CandiceC]

Please be careful!!

I heard a story about a man driving his vehicle into a grocery store in one of the suburbs here yesterday. Come to find out today that the man was mad at his wife. She got out of the car with the kids and ran into the store for safety. He rammed his vehicle into the building until he got about 60 feet into the store!

I'm just saying you never know what can happen. He thinks you're joking and he's blowing up your phone at work. Who knows what will happen when he realizes you're serious.

 

[life_is_great]

Please be careful!!

I heard a story about a man driving his vehicle into a grocery store in one of the suburbs here yesterday. Come to find out today that the man was mad at his wife. She got out of the car with the kids and ran into the store for safety. He rammed his vehicle into the building until he got about 60 feet into the store!

I'm just saying you never know what can happen. He thinks you're joking and he's blowing up your phone at work. Who knows what will happen when he realizes you're serious.

You're right. I am being cautious. He will know very soon that I'm not joking.

 

[LizLeila]

I wouldnt be surprised if he was calling you that many times at work to get you fired.

 

[HairPhoenix]

wait- did you hear from her? did I miss something (again- as usual..)

No I haven't... I was talking about from the last thread. I was wondering how she was doing from between then (it's been a while) and now. I was late the scene with this thread. Sorry for the confusion.

 

[HairPhoenix]

You're right. I am being cautious. He will know very soon that I'm not joking.

I'm glad that you are okay MrsP. Just don't under estimate him. He is on the edge right now since he is so a**-out. If you can afford it I think you should think about hiring a bodyguard, just in case. The thing about him having a gun is giving me the willys. I know it got taken away, but it won't be hard for him to get another one.

I think it would be a good idea if you could leave a photo of him with the security guards at your workplace and let them know about the restraining order. That was one measure that I took when I was going through that. Change up your routine frequently, especially your commute. Stay safe.

 

[SoniT]

Please be careful!!

I heard a story about a man driving his vehicle into a grocery store in one of the suburbs here yesterday. Come to find out today that the man was mad at his wife. She got out of the car with the kids and ran into the store for safety. He rammed his vehicle into the building until he got about 60 feet into the store!

I'm just saying you never know what can happen. He thinks you're joking and he's blowing up your phone at work. Who knows what will happen when he realizes you're serious.

That's scary. In my area (DC/MD/VA), this guy walked into the T-Mobile store where his estranged wife worked, and set her on fire. She survived but her face is so disfigured that she looks nothing like her former self. It's some crazy people out here.

My cousin is going through a similar situation. She's pregnant and she and the baby's father broke up. He was beating on her so she moved out the apartment and took everything. He's been harrassing her and threatened to kill her, her mother, and the baby. My cousin got an order of protection against the dude but I'm still very worried about her. He's been to prison before and has a violent past. Some people make threats and don't follow through with them but I think this guy would do something crazy like that. :crazy:

 

[hopeful]

NO don't talk to him, just make sure that you're not alone when walking to your car or getting lunch. If he does show up out the blue, scream, act a fool to get peoples attention, so he knows if he tries to make a move there will be an audience, i.e. witnesses.

ITA. From here on he can speak to you through lawyers. You don't have any children together either, right? So he doesn't need to make arrangements to see his children. Some people are just saying let someone at work (ie. security supervisor/ your boss, etc.) know what's going on so someone there is keeping an eye out for you and him. Tell a few people you trust what is going on so that he can't trick people into sharing info about you or have them helping him get to you.