I just filed for divorce today.

mrspatriceww said:
So do you think I should talk to him so that he won't corner me?
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If he backs you up in a remote place and there is noone else around to see or hear what's going on then you need to get back in to the Mrs ____ role!!
Play along until you can get away from him...Lie and say you're sorry if you have to. Do everything to make that fool calm down so you can get away. Ignoring him won't calm him down.
 
SweetNic_JA said:
If he backs you up in a remote place and there is noone else around to see or hear what's going on then you need to get back in to the Mrs ____ role!!
Play along until you can get away from him...Lie and say you're sorry if you have to. Do everything to make that fool calm down so you can get away. Ignoring him won't calm him down.
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Ignoring him is making him worst. IMO. Tell him again(over the phone) that it's over, and you have filed a restraning order against him.
 
I agree that you need to be cautious, for your sake and for your daughter's. But in terms of the real serious violence that some of the women are describing, that kind of violence escalates. Men, in general, don't just one day drive their car into the store where their wife if hiding. It starts with him shoving her, then smacking her, then beating her, etc. If he has shown no signs of violence in the past I would say be very careful but don't become preoccupied with what kind of violence he could do to you. You've got enough to worry about.
 
I had to delete my post after I realized MsP is in action now. Good you got the wheels in motion. Do not allow the bully to scare you. You must be aware of your surroundings now. Ms P keep you some pepperspray and a pocket knife in hand when your going in and out of buildings. Don't take your daughter many places with you just in case the bully tries to corner you. I suggest you contact the police about self defense lessons, load that gun and go to the shooting range just in case. As you stated he doesn't want to do time so you may want to text message him on his phone that you are not playing and to stop contacting you period. Don't waste anymore breathe on him because you have talked enough and given him way too much time to get his act together. If he comes near you go beserk on his ass since he thinks he is the crazy one.
 
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Be strong and take care of yourself. I remember your story. God bless.

And don't feel guilty. You're despondent because of the way things are ending.

Why are relationships like that? Start off so freakin' wonderfully and a few months/years later, it's total chaos?

We're here for you.
 
Ok I am fine. He called over a hundred times, leaving me messages, begging and pleading. I finally talked to him Saturday. I agreed to meet him at Waffle House. He said he is soooo sorry he mistreated me, he made a mistake, he wants to go to counseling, he wants to get back into church, he will do whatever it takes to make me happy, he even cried, I told him he should win an Oscar. I told him it is too late, I am not in love with him anymore and I want out. He said he understands and he doesn't want to hurt me anymore than he has. He says he will sign the divorce papers and agree to everything I asked for. He is calling my atty this morning. He has also vowed that he is going to change his life and win me after we are divorced, whatever. I told him he needs to move on and let me do the same. I didn't really think he would do anything to me physically and I still don't. Just updating you guys to let you know eveything is fine for now. I'm leaving tomorrow to take my daughter to Orlando to another cheerleading competition and I will be returning on next Monday. I probably won't check in again until then.
 
Good for you Ms. Patrice. I am glad to hear that you are ok and that so far everything is going good. It's good that you are going out of town. It's so nice to get away from the drama, even if only temporarily. Have fun in Orlando with your daughter.
 
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MissBermuda said:
Good for you Ms. Patrice. I am glad to hear that you are ok and that so far everything is going good. It's good that you are going out of town. It's so nice to get away from the drama, even if only temporarily. Have fun in Orlando with your daughter.
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Thanks. I'm looking forward to it. We go to Disney every year, but this is the first time we're competing at Universal. I can't hardly wait.
 
Glad to hear it. You're doing good Gurl!!!
mrspatriceww said:
Ok I am fine. He called over a hundred times, leaving me messages, begging and pleading. I finally talked to him Saturday. I agreed to meet him at Waffle House. He said he is soooo sorry he mistreated me, he made a mistake, he wants to go to counseling, he wants to get back into church, he will do whatever it takes to make me happy, he even cried, I told him he should win an Oscar. I told him it is too late, I am not in love with him anymore and I want out. He said he understands and he doesn't want to hurt me anymore than he has. He says he will sign the divorce papers and agree to everything I asked for. He is calling my atty this morning. He has also vowed that he is going to change his life and win me after we are divorced, whatever. I told him he needs to move on and let me do the same. I didn't really think he would do anything to me physically and I still don't. Just updating you guys to let you know eveything is fine for now. I'm leaving tomorrow to take my daughter to Orlando to another cheerleading competition and I will be returning on next Monday. I probably won't check in again until then.
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NOWWWWW he decide to seek God and all that good stuff to get you back. TOO LATE!! I don't understand why it have to take something like this for men to take us seriously before they realized that they f**ked up. Then that when they get a clear head and want to make things right.

Girl you keep moving 'cause I doubt you need that added weight on your shoulders.
 
Thanks for the update. As you can tell by the numerous posts, we ladies are concerned and just want things to go well for you and your daughter.
 
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I'm glad you are alright MrsP. Why do men with issues always pull the "I'll change" card out when they know they're up the creek without a paddle? :lol: Why wait until the good thing you had is gone to start crying about trying to win someone back? :nuts:

I'm glad you didn't fall for that mess MrsP. You gave him plenty of time to do right by you and he didn't. Stay strong. Stay safe.
 
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I'm glad you are alright MrsP. Why do men with issues always pull the "I'll change" card out when they know they're up the creek without a paddle? :lol: Why wait until the good thing you had is gone to start crying about trying to win someone back? :nuts:
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For real. I am so glad to hear you're doing well. Things are looking up.
 
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