I just filed for divorce today.

[TrustMeLove]

I've been scared. I felt something was wrong with her serving him or him being served the day after they slept in the same house together.

I hope this dude hasn't gone crazy. I fell asleep last night without my everybody prayer. But, I prayed soon as I read the thread.

Anyways. Lets really keep her and her family up cause this dude could be crazier than what some of us may think.

::::scared:::::

 

[ElegantExotic]

Ladies, I don't know if i'm worrying too much, or have watched too much lifetime and those detective shows, but I am getting really nervous too. I know she is probably too busy to come online or overwhelmed, but if anyone has her number, please call just to check if she is ok.

 

[hopeful]

Is it just me, or is anyone else nervous? I think I will be until she comes in here and lets us know that everything went ok.

You are not the only one. When I first read her first post I felt this heaviness in my heart and a sense of dread. When I posted my fears, she told me not to worry and to just pray for her and I did. But yeah, this whole situation is a little scary to me too.

 

[mermaid]

Let's just hope it's been a long tiring day (as these things can be) and she's just clearing her mind.

 

[SoniT]

Yeah, I'm nervous especially since she got an order of protection. Hope she's OK.

 

[donna894]

She did the right thing by getting an order of protection. Now we can help by sending up a prayer of protection for mrspatriceww and her daughter. Many of you have already done this. But it sure would eaze my mind to hear from her.

 

[Keen]

Ladies, I don't know if i'm worrying too much, or have watched too much lifetime and those detective shows, but I am getting really nervous too. I know she is probably too busy to come online or overwhelmed, but if anyone has her number, please call just to check if she is ok.

I feel the same way. Maybe it's too many lifetime movies.

 

[HairPhoenix]

MrsP! I am glad to hear that you are okay. I have been thinking about you from time to time and wondering how things are going for you. I have been through the Protective Order ordeal and I am nervous for you. I'm sure you will make certain that you are away from it all when the serving goes down. I'll give you some advice that I was given when I was going through that: Don't ever become complaisant about you and your daughter's safety. Keep an eye over your shoulder. I know that you are grown, but have someone that you can tell where you are going everyday. Allow at least one person in your life keep track of your movements for a while.

You will get through this. (((HUGS)))

 

[TrustMeLove]

Has anyone gotten in touch with her yet? Can someone please contact her and let us know whats up?

It's hard to go to bed with this on my mind. Seriously. Cause eventhough this is the internet, we all really gave her advice that may have made up her mind and maybe we lacked in areas that we should have consulted her in.

I would hate to know something happened.

I know she is a grown woman, but yall can't tell me some of us don't make decisions off the advice here on the boards.

I just feel like I should have said, get out of there don't stay there and serve the man the papers. Trust he can go crazier. I should have stressed the danger in the situation. But, I didn't want to scare her in an already tense situation.

Maybe I should have.

 

[mermaid]

MrsP! I am glad to hear that you are okay. I have been thinking about you from time to time and wondering how things are going for you. I have been through the Protective Order ordeal and I am nervous for you. I'm sure you will make certain that you are away from it all when the serving goes down. I'll give you some advice that I was given when I was going through that: Don't ever become complaisant about you and your daughter's safety. Keep an eye over your shoulder. I know that you are grown, but have someone that you can tell where you are going everyday. Allow at least one person in your life keep track of your movements for a while.

You will get through this. (((HUGS)))

wait- did you hear from her? did I miss something (again- as usual..)

 

[SweetNic_JA]

Yesterday was probably too hectic for her to log in. I imagine she's staying away from the house until he can get his ish out. I hope she is doing ok.

 

[life_is_great]

I am praying for you, I am going through hella drama in my marriage as well, but just stay strong and focus on you. God will never give you more than you can handle, and I know everything that we are going through is going to make us that much stronger! Well, take care of yourself, focus on you, I realized that I put myself on the backburner for the 2+ years we have been married. I decided to lose weight, finish school, and just do things for me, and it feels good. Well, stay safe and you are in my prayers!

Thank you. I'll be praying for you as well. Things will work out for you. We have only been married 2 1/2 years. The worst 2 1/2 years of my life. It is so good to be FREE from bondage. I feel like the Jews when they came out of Egypt.

 

[life_is_great]

I'm sorry you are going through all of this..I too am getting a divorce and I have an OP against my husband...but things do get better! This will make you a stronger person.. I wish you the best of luck! Just always make sure you and your daughter are safe!

I sent you a PM>

 

[life_is_great]

I'm a little nervous too...

Mrs. P, I'm in Birmingham for the next few days, so if you need anyone to help with a beatdown... let me know!

I'm PMing.

 

[LizLeila]

Mrs.P!

Did everything go smoothly? How did he take it?

Trust me, we are breathing a collective sigh of relief on this board!

I had a late night at the office last night, but as soon as I got home before I could even take off my coat I went to my computer to check out this thread to see if you were ok.

 

[life_is_great]

I am about to cry. It is nice to know that people that don't really know you are so concerned. I am fine. Nothing worked out the way it was supposed to yesterday, but that was only the beginning.

1. Family court would not issue the Order of Protection to my atty. I had to go down there yesterday. Well, after waiting for 3 hours, the judge denied it b/c I have filed for divorce and told me I need to get a temp restraining order through the domestic relations court.

2. My friends and family planned to move all of my furniture yesterday while my husband was at the dr. I went to the drs office to get the keys to my properties out of his(my)truck and his gun. While I was there, he walked up on me. I got the keys, but couldn't get the gun. I jumped in my car and he followed me home. He told my movers to leave his property and also took out his gun and went into the house. The cops came and would not let me move anything. They also took his gun. I called my lawyer and that's when they filed the emergency restraining order. But when they took it to the court, the judges had left for the day. It is sitting on the judges desk to sign first thing this morning.

3. He is calling me over and over again. I know at least 50 times last night. He left something on my car about tax fraud. He says he's going to tell the IRS I committed tax fraud. He has also called me 10 times at work in the last 30 minutes.

I am fine. I am at my mother's house. I went to bed around 7:00 last night. I was very ill. My stomach was in knots and I had chills. I'm much better today. Thanks so much for the prayers and concern. If it were not for you all, I would probably be a basket case. The encouragement and kind words really help. I have faith and I know that everything happens for a reason. I know that God has not forsaken me and He is with me. I will continue to trust Him and not try to carry this burden myself.

 

[LizLeila]

Wow. Ok. He really acted a fool, but at least you had witnesses there to see it and the police were called. Also make sure that you contact your attorney and inform her about his harrassment (50 phone calls last night and 10 this morning as well as the note on your car). Also when he calls, dont answer. Try to force him to leave a message that may incriminate him later.

Is your money protected? Does he have access to your accounts? Make sure you cut that off as soon as you get the chance.

I am praying for you now. You have been through a very difficult time, but I am very glad to see that you are wearing your spiritual armor.

 

[lexi08]

I am so glad that you are okay Mrs Patriceww. I am so sorry that things did not work out as planned. But things like this happen for a reason, God is definitely looking out for you. Men can be such ***holes when they are about to lose something, they like to have the upper hand. Your husband knows he does not, making him even more dangerous and unpredictable. Is your husband still in your home? Will you be able to get him out of there? I really hope so. The whole gun situation really scares me. Please be careful!!!!! I went through a similiar situation with my ex-husband years ago, I really feel for you. Get that order of protection ASAP!!! for you and your daughters sake. I hope he does not try to involve her in this. Please try not to stay alone either. I will be praying for you

 

[life_is_great]

Wow. Ok. He really acted a fool, but at least you had witnesses there to see it and the police were called. Also make sure that you contact your attorney and inform her about his harrassment (50 phone calls last night and 10 this morning as well as the note on your car). Also when he calls, dont answer. Try to force him to leave a message that may incriminate him later.

Is your money protected? Does he have access to your accounts? Make sure you cut that off as soon as you get the chance.

I am praying for you now. You have been through a very difficult time, but I am very glad to see that you are wearing your spiritual armor.

I have saved all of his messages. I haven't talked to him and won't. I closed all of the joint accounts yesterday. He went to my tenant's job yesterday and collected her rent. It was only $300., he will end up losing more than that.

 

[life_is_great]

I am so glad that you are okay Mrs Patriceww. I am so sorry that things did not work out as planned. But things like this happen for a reason, God is definitely looking out for you. Men can be such ***holes when they are about to lose something, they like to have the upper hand. Your husband knows he does not, making him even more dangerous and unpredictable. Is your husband still in your home? Will you be able to get him out of there? I really hope so. The whole gun situation really scares me. Please be careful!!!!! I went through a similiar situation with my ex-husband years ago, I really feel for you. Get that order of protection ASAP!!! for you and your daughters sake. I hope he does not try to involve her in this. Please try not to stay alone either. I will be praying for you

Yes, he is still in the house. He will have to leave when the judge signs the temporary restraining order. I am being careful. He is crazy, but he's not stupid.

 

[SoniT]

I'm glad you're OK. But please continue to be careful. It sounds like he's not very stable.

 

[LizLeila]

Yes, he is still in the house. He will have to leave when the judge signs the temporary restraining order. I am being careful. He is crazy, but he's not stupid.

I know you have another place to go, but maybe you can rent the house out until the divorce is final. For some reason, I just get nervous about you going back there even after he is out. Is renting that house out an option for you?

 

[life_is_great]

I know you have another place to go, but maybe you can rent the house out until the divorce is final. For some reason, I just get nervous about you going back there even after he is out. Is renting that house out an option for you?

I won't stay there. It's still for sale. I just don't want him there.

 

[LizLeila]

Once again, you have got your bases covered.

 

[jrae]

Whew...!

MPW, so good to hear from you this morning! Thanking God for your safety and praying for your continued safety, wisdom, discernment, and clarity.

 

[MzTami]

Hi Mrs. P,

I'm glad that you are okay, but I really feel that you need to get YOU a gun. Protection Orders are only paper and can not protect you and your daughter from physical harm. It really scares me that he would have a gun in his car, and just because they took that gun away doesn't mean that he can't get another one. In the black market you can find a gun, like food in a grocery store.

Don't under estimate someone that is about to lose everything! You never know what he will or will not do. I say PROTECT yourself with a gun. Protection Orders are good legally, but it won't protect you physically.

Please be SAFE and don't TRUST him!

 

[life_is_great]

Hi Mrs. P,

I'm glad that you are okay, but I really feel that you need to get YOU a gun. Protection Orders are only paper and can not protect you and your daughter from physical harm. It really scares me that he would have a gun in his car, and just because they took that gun away doesn't mean that he can't get another one. In the black market you can find a gun, like food in a grocery store.

Don't under estimate someone that is about to lose everything! You never know what he will or will not do. I say PROTECT yourself with a gun. Protection Orders are good legally, but it won't protect you physically.

Please be SAFE and don't TRUST him!

I was thinking the same thing. I do have a gun, a 22, but I have never used it or even put bullets in it. I might need to consider having someone show me how to use it.

 

[Keen]

I have saved all of his messages. I haven't talked to him and won't. I closed all of the joint accounts yesterday. He went to my tenant's job yesterday and collected her rent. It was only $300., he will end up losing more than that.

Hmm, He probably cleaned out your house yesterday. I hope you had a chance take your valuables. Do you still he will file for spousal support? If he does, can he get it?

 

[CandiceC]

I'm so glad you're ok!
Please continue to stay safe. I wouldn't trust him one bit. Get someone to show you how to use your gun just in case you need it!

 

[life_is_great]

Hmm, He probably cleaned out your house yesterday. I hope you had a chance take your valuables. Do you still he will file for spousal support? If he does, can he get it?

He didn't do anything b/c he thinks I'm coming back. He has left several messages this message. He wants to know why I won't talk to him. He says I owe that to him, whatever. We haven't been married long enough for spousal support.