I just filed for divorce today.

[life_is_great]

My atty is also doing an order of protection. My husband will be served with the restraining order either this evening or tomorrow at which time he will have to leave my house. I am excited that I am about to be free, but I am sad. Don't know if I'm feeling guilty or just sad. I know I shouldn't feel guilty, not after all he's done to me. Just wanted to give you guys an update.

 

[Cichelle]

I'm sorry you are going through this. Sometimes the things that are the best for us are the hardest. Good thoughts go out to you...stay strong.

 

[mermaid]

Girl, I'm proud of you.
I know you are sad about the lost dreams, but he never held up his end and put you through too much. You have to do what you have to do.

 

[MizAvalon]

I'm glad to hear that you are moving forward. Will you be around when he is served? I'm just concerned that he may try to act crazy or something.

 

[Height]

Please be careful.

 

[sunnyjohn]

You are in my prayers. Go ahead STRONG SISTA!!!!

 

[Divine Inspiration]

Sorry to hear that mspatrice. Sounds like you're doing what's right for you...hang in there.

Every cloud of doubt has silver lining...

 

[Sosoothing]

Good for you. I hope you will be okay.

 

[Laginappe]

I understand the sadness but I'm so proud of you. Be careful and stay strong.

 

[Spidergul]

Sorry to hear this, you have taken a step for you-Stay strong and move on.

 

[Nita81]

Stay strong and be careful.

 

[CandiceC]

I'm happy for you!
Be careful. You're in my prayers.
Keep us posted!

 

[SweetNic_JA]

You are a role model MrsP...you kept to your plan and your promise to yourself. Please be careful. Designate a "safe place" in your home and keep something close in case you have to bump somebody on the head.

 

[life_is_great]

Ok. He won't be served until tomorrow. I just spoke with my atty and the judge wants me there to file the protection order. I will be there at 8:00 am. He will be served that day. Also, I sort of stuck to my plan, not really. The contract fell through do to financing. However, my house is still on the market. I prayed and I feel that God is directing me. I can't continue to live like this anymore. My family has also agreed to help me as much as they can until the house does sell.

 

[LizLeila]

I am proud of you!! You have been strong for so long, continue to hang in there. I understand that you are sad, but really what more could you have done? Even in these last few months as you have been waiting to sell, even after he had that email incident, he could have turned things around and worked on the marriage. Most men at least have sense enough to PRETEND that they are trying to do better, but this fool just doesnt care. He has not nearly put as much effort in as you have and because of that, it just wont work.

Be sad, take note of what you will do differently next time, release yourself of this burden, and dont look back! You have put everything on the line personally, financially, and emotionally for this man. It is now time for you to take those things back for your sake and your daughter's. Stay strong, take it one day at a time, and PRAY!

 

[life_is_great]

Thanks to everyone for the encouragement. You would think that he would have tried to do better after the emails, but he got worse. This past week has been pure torture. He has cussed me out almost everynight, he told me if I don't do what he says I can hit the door. I have been called every name imaginable. He says he's tired of me and he's getting fed up. I don't argue back, most of the time he gets mad b/c I don't say anything. I have tried to understand what is wrong with him. I do everything a wife should do and even things that a husband should do. He has made himself believe that I am the most awful person in the world. As a result I have a closer relationship with God. I pray more, I read my bible more and I know that God is directing me and He will take care of me.

 

[imstush]

Thanks to everyone for the encouragement. You would think that he would have tried to do better after the emails, but he got worse. This past week has been pure torture. He has cussed me out almost everynight, he told me if I don't do what he says I can hit the door. I have been called every name imaginable. He says he's tired of me and he's getting fed up. I don't argue back, most of the time he gets mad b/c I don't say anything. I have tried to understand what is wrong with him. I do everything a wife should do and even things that a husband should do. He has made himself believe that I am the most awful person in the world. As a result I have a closer relationship with God. I pray more, I read my bible more and I know that God is directing me and He will take care of me.

{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}} Be safe MrsPatrice, my prayers are with you.

 

[Keen]

Thanks to everyone for the encouragement. You would think that he would have tried to do better after the emails, but he got worse. This past week has been pure torture. He has cussed me out almost everynight, he told me if I don't do what he says I can hit the door. I have been called every name imaginable. He says he's tired of me and he's getting fed up. I don't argue back, most of the time he gets mad b/c I don't say anything. I have tried to understand what is wrong with him. I do everything a wife should do and even things that a husband should do. He has made himself believe that I am the most awful person in the world. As a result I have a closer relationship with God. I pray more, I read my bible more and I know that God is directing me and He will take care of me.

He wants you to hit the door to your own house? Be strong. He will soon find out how good he had it.

 

[Synthia]

You really did it! Yea!

 

[StartinOvah]

i'm sorry to hear anyone get divorced. but in this case, from what you have shared with us, i'm glad you will soon part with him. we'll all keep you in our thoughts.

 

[XXXtacy]

My prayers and thoughts are with you.

In times of trouble, I say, "Peace Be Still" over and over. It calms me down and makes everything clear. Nothing seems to confuse or mislead me.

Keep your safe place in home, heart and mind. God will see you through the rest.:Rose:

 

[phynestone]

Thanks to everyone for the encouragement. You would think that he would have tried to do better after the emails, but he got worse. This past week has been pure torture. He has cussed me out almost everynight, he told me if I don't do what he says I can hit the door. I have been called every name imaginable. He says he's tired of me and he's getting fed up. I don't argue back, most of the time he gets mad b/c I don't say anything. I have tried to understand what is wrong with him. I do everything a wife should do and even things that a husband should do. He has made himself believe that I am the most awful person in the world. As a result I have a closer relationship with God. I pray more, I read my bible more and I know that God is directing me and He will take care of me.

Doesn't he mean YOUR house?

I'm so sorry you're going through with this, but keep truckin' on. You'll be so much better without him.

 

[donna894]

You're in my prayers also. This is a difficult time, but you will get through it. Keep your sisters here at LHCF posted.

 

[WomanlyCharm]

You are doing the right thing, Mrs. P!
I've been wondering about you, and hoping everything was alright. Glad to see you're moving forward, and getting rid of this man who isn't worth your while.
Good luck, and stay strong, we're all here for you if you need us.

 

[Honey6928215]

Girl, just so happens that I was thinking about you the other day when a lady was talking to my friends about her pending divorce. She's going through the same thing but she's has already found a home for her two children:a son and daughter. Luckily her brother owns a townhouse across town so she's safe until the divorce finalized.

That fool cheated on her and gave her gonnorhea. And on top of that he tried to blame it on her that She made him do it (cheating) by not being a good wife.

But you stick to your guns and be safe. You may have to look over your shoulders for a while until things cool down. Men like him will act crazy on you and try to harm you 'cause you are dropping them.

God Bless and keep us posted.

 

[life_is_great]

I'm just getting home from bible study. He had an attitude b/c I went there instead of cooking him dinner. He's asleep now, I think he's mad at me, as usual. Can't wait until tomorrow. I was feeling sorry for him, but he is so mean, it's hard for me to continue to feel sorry for him.

 

[Honey6928215]

I'm just getting home from bible study. He had an attitude b/c I went there instead of cooking him dinner. He's asleep now, I think he's mad at me, as usual. Can't wait until tomorrow. I was feeling sorry for him, but he is so mean, it's hard for me to continue to feel sorry for him.

Look at it this way, HE'S NOT FEELING SORRY FOR WHAT HE'S DONE! So don't be concerned about his feelings. Little does he know his days are numbered.

 

[Mestiza]

This may be a difficult time in your life, but God will help you get through it!

 

[life_is_great]

Look at it this way, HE'S NOT FEELING SORRY FOR WHAT HE'S DONE! So don't be concerned about his feelings. Little does he know his days are numbered.

You are right. I guess I feel sorry b/c his whole world is about crumble. No home, no money, he will have a vehicle for about 30 days, then I'm getting that too. Also he has been sick since last week. His asthma is baaddd. He went to the ER Saturday, we thought they would admit him, but they didn't. I just don't know if I should have waited until he got well.

 

[Honey6928215]

You are right. I guess I feel sorry b/c his whole world is about crumble. No home, no money, he will have a vehicle for about 30 days, then I'm getting that too. Also he has been sick since last week. His asthma is baaddd. He went to the ER Saturday, we thought they would admit him, but they didn't. I just don't know if I should have waited until he got well.

Excuse me. Girl don't beat yourself up on this. I hate to be harsh but let's be honest...all this coming back on him and as for as you being his caretaker let him go to his mama. He's not your responsibility anymore. He messed that up remember?