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Lololoo Lawrenceville has beautiful homes. I like to think mansion-like homes.
Im talking homes, not apartment rentals though.
How To Attract A Rich Man
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Lololoo Lawrenceville has beautiful homes. I like to think mansion-like homes.
Im talking homes, not apartment rentals though.
FemmeCreole
Island Gyal
erplexed ok?
My statement was not a one size fits all; it was an option to consider for those who are still in school yet looking for a man who has potential to satisfy their needs for security.
But I'm sorry, I can't relate to your statistics. It's not my reality, and it's not every one else's who meets their spouse before the age of 25 either.
Well its a stat. Just like the ones that say if you live with your SO/BF before marriage you're more likely to divorce. I'm in the same boat getting married at 22 but hey if it don't apply, let if fly
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pre_medicalrulz
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Dangit! Im in denial. Lol!!
Priss Pot
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no. I dont have time to look this up again (or feel like it) but you can use google scholar, ebsco or lexis nexis to look it up. I'm certain you will find all of the information you need that will back up everything I have said..
I'll be honest. I do not agree with people marrying and reproducing under a certain age. It's from both conducting policy research, observation and experience. I would never send my child to college to meet a spouse. grad school, yes. college, not people do no choose well. the divorce rate IS higher and their children do not come out as well---on average. It's logic not feelings or opinion. just realistic fact.
everyone wants to be a unicorn. You are the same age I am. If you were 40 I'd approach this discussion differently. Furthermore, I dont think you should reference anyone throwing shade in posts.
Barbie, just because you and I are the same age doesn't mean we have the same goals...clearly. In general, you don't send your children off to meet a spouse, but hey it does happen. And I'd think you'd want to teach your children what to look for if they were looking to get serious. College is all inclusive of undergrad and graduate school. I've attended both, and I have seen relationships of my peers still last till this day
It's not the same for everyone, but it does happen so yes it IS an option. And who is trying to be a unicorn? There are no secrets, and I'm not immune to any future misfortune. The way I approach a relationship is definitely different from your way. You aren't ready for marriage or children; I was. I don't date just to date. I lucked up and chose well for myself in regard to who I married, how I met him, and what he provides for me as his wife. Anything I can get, another woman can get it too. When the focus switched from multi-million wealthy men to normal men who can offer what's in the OP and bring in at least a 100k salary, I felt I could offer MY opinion from MY experience that I'm actually living. People can take the advice they want, they can pick and choose. Different strokes for different folks. Take what you need from the thread and do what works for YOU.barbiesocialite
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Barbie, just because you and I are the same age doesn't mean we have the same goals...clearly. In general, you don't send your children off to meet a spouse, but hey it does happen. And I'd think you'd want to teach your children what to look for if they were looking to get serious. College is all inclusive of undergrad and graduate school. I've attended both, and I have seen relationships of my peers still last till this day
ok Priss Pot what do you have to add about rich men?
FemmeCreole
Island Gyal
Don't know your age but I'm 32
PretteePlease
#fakeworkouts
He is in Europe on business I'm here working my arse off at 149 I get a trip at 139 I get an intl trip
not because he thinks i'm fat but because he likes to motivate me and I him. He was fasting for Ramadan and worked out with me 5-6 days/wk because he knew I was working out and he wanted to spend as much time with me as possible. We love hanging out it's smart and flirty and fun. We eat all kinds of foods we talk daily. His job is 60% travel and he makes time for me where he used to have none. He says he makes time for me BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT. I like him a lot but he feels like he likes me more than I like him and that's the way it should be because I'm the prize here.
I could see this going really far or I can see this ending in about a month because I have to check him about himself. He has said that he is a good catch I have to tell him a few things that will make him see otherwise. I hope his ego can take it if not deuces.
I am still dating other people. On Saturday I had a date and it didn't work out he happened to call me and I told him and he dropped everything and was about to come meet me. Well he should have told me his plan because when he called me 20min later I was in a movie theater and told him I had to call him back. He started stuttering and said oh ok. I have a gentleman in Africa $200k+ that is loving my life and a nice prospect in Houston $1m+/yr. That being said Trini is my first choice. He has made it clear that "I'm in first place." I think he thought that was a compliment but I told him this isn't a competition. I don't compete for men I'm either the one or I'm not.
As far as the age discussion I have a 17yr old kid
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FemmeCreole
Island Gyal
He is in Europe on business I'm here working my arse off at 149 I get a trip at 139 I get an intl trip
We love hanging out it's smart and flirty and fun. We eat all kinds of foods we talk daily. His job is 60% travel and he makes time for me where he used to have none. He says he makes time for me BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT. I like him a lot but he feels like he likes me more than I like him and that's the way it should be because I'm the prize here.
I could see this going really far or I can see this ending in about a month because I have to check him about himself. He has said that he is a good catch I have to tell him a few things that will make him see otherwise. I hope his ego can take it if not deuces.
I am still dating other people. On Saturday I had a date and it didn't work out he happened to call me and I told him and he dropped everything and was about to come meet me. Well he should have told me his plan because when he called me 20min later I was in a movie theater and told him I had to call him back. He started stuttering and said oh ok. I have a gentleman in Africa $200k+ that is loving my life and a nice prospect in Houston $1m+/yr. That being said Trini is my first choice. He has made it clear that "I'm in first place." I think he thought that was a compliment but I told him this isn't a competition. I don't compete for men I'm either the one or I'm not.
I'm rooting for de Trini ting! I mean I have to as a fellow West Indian
barbiesocialite
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He is in Europe on business I'm here working my arse off at 149 I get a trip at 139 I get an intl trip
We love hanging out it's smart and flirty and fun. We eat all kinds of foods we talk daily. His job is 60% travel and he makes time for me where he used to have none. He says he makes time for me BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT. I like him a lot but he feels like he likes me more than I like him and that's the way it should be because I'm the prize here.
I could see this going really far or I can see this ending in about a month because I have to check him about himself. He has said that he is a good catch I have to tell him a few things that will make him see otherwise. I hope his ego can take it if not deuces.
I am still dating other people. On Saturday I had a date and it didn't work out he happened to call me and I told him and he dropped everything and was about to come meet me. Well he should have told me his plan because when he called me 20min later I was in a movie theater and told him I had to call him back. He started stuttering and said oh ok. I have a gentleman in Africa $200k+ that is loving my life and a nice prospect in Houston $1m+/yr. That being said Trini is my first choice. He has made it clear that "I'm in first place." I think he thought that was a compliment but I told him this isn't a competition. I don't compete for men I'm either the one or I'm not.
wow. you really like this guy! good luck! we're rooting for you!
FemmeCreole
Island Gyal
Heeeeyyyyyy my sister! ***waves*** I turned 32 a couple weeks ago.
so I'm actually older than you... I turned 32 in Feb.
Priss Pot
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This! This is why the stats sound extreme, no other factors are taken into place.
I'm 27.
We aren't fighting; it's just a disagreement. I will love on barbie in another thread in which we agree.
Well its a stat. Just like the ones that say if you live with your SO/BF before marriage you're more likely to divorce. I'm in the same boat getting married at 22 but hey if it don't apply, let if fly
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Well, the stats for the living together before marriage is a stat that people see everyday. I'm part of that statistic because DH and I lived together 6 months while we were engaged (because we moved to Cali) before we actually tied the knot. That statistic is more realistic than the one about the average child who had parents who married before 25 are gonna be screw-ups in life.
If you're going by the definition of rich as in the OP regardless of salary (and that beauty2U clarified), then I've said my piece up thread. But if you're going off of millionaires, then I haven't anything to say because I haven't dated one. I jumped in on the convo when y'all were talking about body types and what a certain weight looks like at a certain height. That was my initial contribution. Like I said, I didn't marry a millionaire so I can't comment on that, but that I do agree that the slimmer figure is what they usually go for. It is what it is.
I'm 36
I just pop in here from time to time to check on the young girls. I don't need a husband right now since I have one and I know how to get another one if & when I need to. I used to think marriage had a time limit and my time is almost up I kid, I kid.Sent from yacht with Beyonce & Blue
barbiesocialite
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Hey are y'all arguing? Weeze married
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oh geez.....bye then.
FemmeCreole
Island Gyal
I'm just here for the fun
Some ladies in here seem like loads of fun to hang with too
Some ladies in here seem like loads of fun to hang with too
luckiestdestiny
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I'm hoping barbiesocialite was not throwing shade. I don't see it that way but I'm sure she can comment better than me. I try to see the best in people unless they give me a reason not to, or my gut kicks in.
In the case of what she mentioned, there are facts backing it. For divorce rates there are tons of articles that point to this. At 25 and over it just goes down with 25 being at around 16% and 30 down to about 8% and so on. Then when you add education the rates go down even more.
Some quick articles but if you search google a ton of studies and articles will pop up about it:
http://psychcentral.com/lib/the-myth-of-the-high-rate-of-divorce/00011473
http://www.divorcerate.org/
That doesn't mean it's bad to marry early (and I'm an advocate of waiting but know that people make it everyday), but marrying earlier does handicap things a bit and I thing barbiesocialite is talking about putting odds in your favor, not about exceptions to the rule. Nor does that take away from your marriage (if you are married) or anyone else in this age group.
I also agree with your post earlier. If you find a good one (and you love him) why not hold on to him? That doesn't mean necessarily that you marry after graduation. Heck you could still get married at 25 or so on after meeting the love of your life in undergrad and definitely after meeting them in grad school.
Also post on poor grades etc how marrying young affect kids (focuses mostly on teenagers at 19 etc though):
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3000061/
I'm sure there are more but I just don't want to look for them. A google search will pull them up.
I only pulled these because of the question. I don't think it should be an argument about this as it takes the thread away from things. These are just facts. They are what they are and takes nothing away from other individuals in which they do not apply.
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nlamr2013
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What? Are you not like 25? I just imagined you like mid 20s
Priss Pot
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Hey are y'all arguing? Weeze married
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Okay okay okay. Here I am sticking my head in where it doesn't belong. I just had to get clarification on the 140-143lbs comment, and it went downhill from there. I'll go now
UmSumayyah
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Stats are stats, if it doesn't apply to your individual situation, fine. I say the same thing in the oow threads so I have to apply it to myself also. My dh and I met and married before 25 and we are still married, and our kids are smart and well-behaved.
At least in public.
UmSumayyah
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Well its a stat. Just like the ones that say if you live with your SO/BF before marriage you're more likely to divorce. I'm in the same boat getting married at 22 but hey if it don't apply, let if fly
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Well I should've kept reading 'cause you already said it.
Yes I know you lived together before but you get a pass because ummmmmm y'all were engaged and it was a planning/moving/location thing??
I'm not pressed about the stats re: marrying young because I know they are true statically and here's why. MOST people that marry under 25 are poor. because most that would marry under 25 are not be in college/ post grad studies or already working. When I graduated from pharma I was young but I made the $$$, DH was just starting LS . But people under 25 aren't even getting one degree Much less making enough to get married. Also most people that marry under 25 don't have options nor college degrees and are poor, and we know poor begets poor, thus poor begets a whole other host of issues including low parental involvement, problems on school, et Al so the kids then fall into these stats. Marrying under 25 stats now are not the same as when our parents did. I've seen that stat and my point is it doesn't apply to me. And if it doesn't to you then don't worry about it
. Now I would and so encourage young people to get married after college because I think there is a window to getting a marrying age man and its under 28 ;but that's another thread.
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barbiesocialite
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Yes I know you lived together before but you get a pass because ummmmmm y'all were engaged and it was a planning/moving/location thing??
I'm not pressed about the stats re: marrying young because I know they are true statically and here's why. MOST people that marry under 25 are poor. because most that would marry under 25 are not be in college/ post grad studies or already working. When I graduated from pharma I was young but I made the $$$, DH was just starting LS . But people under 25 aren't even getting one degree Much less making enough to get married. Also most people that marry under 25 don't have options nor college degrees and are poor, and we know poor begets poor, thus poor begets a whole other host of issues including low parental involvement, problems on school, et Al so the kids then fall into these stats. Marrying under 25 stats now are not the same as when our parents did. I've seen that stat and my point is it doesn't apply to me. And if it doesn't to you then don't worry about it
Now I would and so encourage young people to get married after college because I think there is a window to getting a marrying age man and its under 28 ;but that's another thread.
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this thread is not about young marriage. It's about rich men. stop killing the thread!!!!!!! and take Priss Pot with you.
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UmSumayyah
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Barbie the enforcer.
barbiesocialite
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Okay okay okay. Here I am sticking my head in where it doesn't belong. I just had to get clarification on the 140-143lbs comment, and it went downhill from there. I'll go now
What's the 140lbs comment ? I don't keep up
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this thread is not about young marriage. It's about rich men. stop killing the thread!!!!!!! and take Priss Pot with you.
Ehemm. I was trying to explain the marrying under 25 stuff. Don't act like y'all stay on course around here
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Priss Pot
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this thread is not about young marriage. It's about rich men. stop killing the thread!!!!!!! and take Priss Pot with you.
What's the 140lbs comment ? I don't keep up
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I blame HollyGolightly for being able to lose a dress size after 5lbs and sparking my curiosity on how a man can notice a 3-5lb weight difference on a woman. I've dropped 30 and I'm just now able to squeeeeeeeze the next size down.
Zaynab Holly made a comment that although she married rich at 145lbs, she attracted even wealthier men at 140-143lbs. I was just confused at how 3-5lbs will make or break you in the rich man department.
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