Okay, anybody who missed Wendy today I transcribed the segment where she talked about EVERYTHING we discussed here. She's a Nikkos cousin in hiding or something LOL.
(By the way, I used to be a transcriptionist so it was easy and it doesn't mean I had nothing better to do LOL)
Anyway, she was talking about Cameron Diaz requesting help from Jane Fonda to find a man. Then she started with her advice....
"Another thing I always tell single women. You can't be scared of this. My advice is always to go at lunchtime or afterwork for drinks to a white tablecloth restaurant.. with cloth napkins... and go in a good neighborhood... you want to meet someone with a decent job? I mean it starts with a job... he could be a jerk but you know, this is a start.
Hustle yourself to a restaurant in a good area. For instance, here in NY I'd say go down to Wall Street. Go around lunch time or afterwork. guys love steak resstaurants also... like I love steak and I notice in steak restaaurants there's always tables full of guys and a sreak restaurant with one of those cigar rooms is even better. And this is what you do ladies, you go by yourself. Put on a nice pencil skirt or maybe a peplum blouse. You know, have your shoe game on.... but not too much because guys who wear suits and ties they don't like a whole lot of adornment on the shoes. You know, just something sensible. And you go down there and tell the maitre de or your waiter to remove all the forks and plates. Don't make it look like you're eating with somebody else. You are strong, you are self assured and you are going to sit at that table BY YOURSELF!! And you bring out your blackberry, your reader glasses and whatever else you have going on. And make sure that you keep your eye on the room. Don't sit at the bar. it looks cheap and flewshyish...even in a good restaurant. You've got to sit at the table. And look, guys know if you're approachable.... as long as you make the eye contact. And make sure there's only one glass on the table and one plate. don't let it look like you're expecting company. Be confident! I'm telling you, it's a good way to meet a guy..."
Everything she said was said here so it's nothing new. However, I disagree on her advice on the simple shoes. I believe men are attracted to flashy shoes. Another thing, she thinks sitting at the bar looks flewsyish. I thought that at first also but it's easier to do for me than sitting at a table alone so the bar will have to do for starters. I will add that I could do the small tables that are usually alongside the bar if I had a choice.