So you are saying that a man who sleeps with whores has it better than his ex-wife who is rid of him : No. Not better. But in that department he may feel "better off".
Don't you think sex with a whore is a "mercy romp" too? As if she would do it without the money? For him or the whore? Cause it costs to get it from the whore as we know. He just doesn't have to beg or feel humiliated or rejected. He is paying for a service to fill that need, period. Everything else he may have been getting from his wife.
Why would anyone want to be married to someone just for the sex, that doesn't make sense. I always say, sex is easy to get -
easy - a real relationship doesn't grow on trees! I think that it is clearly understood by most that women want a committed relationship and men do not like to share their women and vice versa. So, it your mate is the only person that he or you are supposed to be getting it from, I am saying that Sex should never be used as a "power play tool"...to punish or reward....to control or to manipulate or to put someone in their place...or to use SEX to even old scores sometimes with people THAT ARE NO LONGER IN THE PICTURE. Some ladies are reacting to things that are a result of hurtful relationships or absentee fathers, being taught unhealthy belief systems from grandmothers and mothers, information from "girlfriends" that put their 2 cents in about how to "handle men"....not dealing with other areas in the marriage that are impacting on the relationship where the man is NOT LISTENING and the wife ends up feeling that in the SEX area is the only place she has a voice, even though it may be silent or any power at all, even though it may may become a vicious circle.
A marriage that is wide open because there is no sex on demand is not really a marriage IMO. Sex should not be DEMANDED. My comments do not apply to "in times of sickness and ill health, or during and after pregnancy or if the man is being abusive verbally or physically or emotionally by playing mind games. He could be using "demanding sex" in those instances (sometimes as an excuse and a coverup) and that is definitely wrong! However, when none of of these scenarios is the case, and the woman does it for the specific reasons I have already addressed, she is playing with fire.
Sure, sex should be a priority for both the woman and the man, but like Ella and several others have said before in this thread it's not always the woman who says "no thank you, not tonight".
I can do any say and behave how I want. If I don't want sex when he does, IT'S ALL RIGHT. And for anyone who thinks that's going to lead to divorce, well I'll just sit and wait until I see the "I'm Getting a Divorce" thread from you. That's such an backwards way of thinking.
It's a point of stress for us. So many ladies are able to turn down their mates, and that's a phenomenon I've never really had the pleasure of experiencing. I ain't gone lie, I'm jealous. 
I was expecting marriage to be nights of endless passion with a constant supply of loving on tap. Yeah right. He lured me in and then started chilling. 
