Oh boy.... you looked and got the answer you didn't want! So now it's time to ROLL OUT. She has the new number so this isn't the first communication and not the last. He's banging both of yall. Sorry.
mmmmk and you couldn't tell him his phone was beeping. I touch no one's cellphone. When I was married I didn't even tough my husband's phone, I would tell him, "Yo, your phone is beeping, stop it".
Please tell me you didn't fall for that line? That is an excuse to keep you in the hip pocket until he figures out what HE wants to do. WAKE UP.
I know I need to do this. It's just weird how we always end up in contact with each other. The same thing with ex it seems like it doesn't matter what she does to him they'll always be together. The chick is batshyt crazy and I don't need the mess and drama
mmmmk and you couldn't tell him his phone was beeping. I touch no one's cellphone. When I was married I didn't even tough my husband's phone, I would tell him, "Yo, your phone is beeping, stop it".
^ but we've had the talk of making it official but we're supposed to take it day by day.
I just sent him a text telling him I got my replacement phone and that we needed to talk. I'll keep you ladies posted.
The text on its own raises more than one eyebrow, but this backstory alone--even without the text--is just not good. In addition to a history of his cheating--on you, no less!--there is an unhealthy pattern of you two allowing yourselves to drift back to each other at times of emotional instability or lulls in your romantic trajectories with others.
Have you ever had a time where you were without a man's companionship? It might be good for you to take 6 months or something for yourself without any romantic or sexual diversion. I know that everyone works differently, but who knows? Maybe it'll work some good in your life.
BTW, I wouldn't necessarily believe anything and everything he tells you about what she may or may not have done "to him" in the past. People naturally spin situations in the light most favorable to themselves.
I'm sorry you had to find out this way but I think the text--even if he's telling you the truth about it--is a much-needed signal to galvanize you to action.
Good luck.
Thanks keep us updated, because sounds to me like he trying to be a player. The EX should be the past, they don't have kids together, so question is "why you texting my man 2 in the morning? and "Why is your ex texting you 2 in the morning?" Keep a eye on him.
He is not her man though, so it is none of her business why anyone is texting him 2 in the morning.
I know I need to do this. It's just weird how we always end up in contact with each other. The same thing with ex it seems like it doesn't matter what she does to him they'll always be together. The chick is batshyt crazy and I don't need the mess and drama
He is not her man though, so it is none of her business why anyone is texting him 2 in the morning.
Wow he is a HAM! Is he still seeing this girl? I just don't get why men do that.
mmmmk and you couldn't tell him his phone was beeping. I touch no one's cellphone. When I was married I didn't even tough my husband's phone, I would tell him, "Yo, your phone is beeping, stop it".
IMO, If we are "dating" or whatever you call it, and you are in my bed at 2 am I have the right to ask some questions.
You really don't, tho. If y'all just banging, that's all y'all doing.
That's why you shouldn't be in bed with somebody you're just "dating" if you feel like you need to ask those kinds of "questions." *shrugs*
well we were only 16 and it was puppy love so I gave him the benefit of the doubt I thought he's matured. I tried not to let my heart get involved, apparently I have a "guard" up that needs to be down . Funny thing is I'm not even that devastated. I mean I'm hurt but I kind of expected it. If this was a few months ago I would have gone crazy but I'm kind of mellow about it. To be honest this is messing my whole day up
I agree with this advice because even if you aren't officially a couple, him contacting his ex shows where his heart and mind are...especially if he knows that you're not entertaining other men.
^ but we've had the talk of making it official but we're supposed to take it day by day.
Wow he is a HAM! Is he still seeing this girl? I just don't get why men do that.
^ but we've had the talk of making it official but we're supposed to take it day by day.
Please tell me you didn't fall for that line? That is an excuse to keep you in the hip pocket until he figures out what HE wants to do. WAKE UP.
Awww, that sucks. It seems like you are only tolerating him because it's familiar to you both. From your backstory, when no one else is in the picture, you two turn to each other. Sometimes people stay in situations that may not be beneficial simply because they're familiar.
I think a dynamic has already been set for you two and it may be hard to step outside of that so I'd put my energy toward setting a new and healthy dynamic with someone new.
You really don't, tho. If y'all just banging, that's all y'all doing.
That's why you shouldn't be in bed with somebody you're just "dating" if you feel like you need to ask those kinds of "questions." *shrugs*
I don't agree with this. If they have an open relationship which is based on hooking up then her not dating other men is her choice. Why is the heart and mind involved when it should just be an exchange of fluids, gratification and organ touching?
My feeling on this is that if they both decided to not see other people yet not actually committed spinning then yes I would be upset because that means he is exposing me to disease if he is having sexual relations with this other woman.
On the other hand; I think her issue is more simple and common like her actually wanting more from him and this relationship. Like a committed relationship which is why she is so upset. OP needs to figure out what she wants from him. Then sit down and have a talk with him before she asks him why he is in contact with his ex.