metro_qt
Well-Known Member
It's happened to me once. Immediately there was just something between us. Initially, I wasn't that attracted to him physically, but his personality. I remember having a convo with him on the phone shortly after we'd met. After I hung up, my best friend was like, "Who was that?" because of how natural and free-flowing the convo was. She was like, ya'll talk like ya'll have known each other forever.
We went out on the world's longest first date shortly thereafter. It was Memorial Day weekend and we were together for 24+ hours. We spent the greater part of that school year (this was in college) attached at the hip. We had lunch/dinner several times per week, went to the movies, went out for drinks, talked on the phone constantly which slowly progressed to us spending every night together.
The undoing of our relationship came when his commitment issues surfaced. He decided he wasn't ready for a relationship (even though everything we were doing was as if we were in a relationship ). He said that he spent more time with me than any of his previous girlfriends, but he couldn't decide if I was just a friend or something more. At this point, we stopped having sex, but still did all of the rest of the "relationship-type" stuff together (strictly nonsexual though).
I got fed up and started talking to other people. He got pissed, but claimed we were "just friends" and it was cool. We were never the same after that. And now he's married. We don't talk much anymore though some of those old feelings are still there -- and I believe this is exactly why he doesn't talk to me much anymore. And he still holds the title for best sex I've had in my life. So it's probably for the best. Unless his marriage doesn't work out.
Aaaack!!
I have one of these... 2 summers ago it happened, but it didn't even last a whole year, just 3 intense months...
I, to this day can't even call us boyfriend and girlfriend because of the same commitment issues...
it's so wierd, that we'd talk about things and say we were brother and sister because of the way we cliqued, and then we'd laugh all grossed out, cuz that would be like incest...
Yeahh.. see? even he knew how deep we cliqued....
at one point, he was on the phone with me, telling me that I was the only other person (except his mother) who had the 'key' to his feelings, as in, not only did I have the power to make him extremely happy, but if I used my 'powers' for evil, I also had a way into his head to make him mad...
(he's very secure and confident about himself, and no one has the power to 'make' him do anything, so when I heard that .... I was pretty impressed with myself lol)
ahhh well. the whole commitment issues came up, and i'd like to say we drifted apart.. but we didn't.. he drifted away from me, and left me hanging high and dry... told me at the end of the summer 'It is what it is'...
I cried.
took me a good 6 months after that to get over him... while seeing him off and on, then I had to cut him out of my life.