He's Never Had A Girlfriend

[BeautifulFlower]

He's never had a girlfriend...

Safe to say he's probably a virgin from observations...

Doesnt think girls find him interesting enough...

Content in working and training constantly...

You think he's interesting...what you tell him?

 

[daydreem2876]

Tell him whatever... seems to me as long as you strike up a conversation you are one up. I know a few guys like this who are not used to female attention, so give him some attention and see where it goes. I find thaqt with most guys like this it is very easy to just be yourself.

 

[Starian]

As someone who was infamous for dating men who had never had girlfriends, don't expect him to approach you. They are also most likely oblivious if they have made it into adulthood without a romantic relationship of any kind.

You have to spell it out for them. No dropping hints. "Hi, I've been observing you for a minute and I'd like to get to know you better." Simple, sweet, and the ball is in his court.

Now for some unsolicited advice...I was young and stupid and assumed that because they had never had a girlfriend, I could mold them into what I wanted them to be. It was not worth the aggravation. They were 20 without a girlfriend for a reason...and the reason wasn't Jesus. They were usually childish and a hardcore gamer.

I know your experience may be different, but I was tired of being the starter girlfriend who had to "teach" them everything. I despise being dominant in a relationship and you will be if the guy has never had one.

 

[inthepink]

He's never had a girlfriend...

Safe to say he's probably a virgin from observations...

Doesnt think girls find him interesting enough...

Content in working and training constantly...

You think he's interesting...what you tell him?

Not quite sure I understand your last sentence?

But is this the same guy as before? Just keep on doing what you were doing before. Praying and doing your thing! If he's interested, let him initiate.

 

[BeautifulFlower]

I mean I think he's interesting.

Actually its a different guy.I know, its terrible. This guy actually asked me out a couple weeks back to a show at the Kennedy Center. The other guy I decided height does matter quite a bit to me. ohwell:

Not quite sure I understand your last sentence?

But is this the same guy as before? Just keep on doing what you were doing before. Praying and doing your thing! If he's interested, let him initiate.

 

[inthepink]

I mean I think he's interesting.

Actually its a different guy.I know, its terrible. This guy actually asked me out a couple weeks back to a show at the Kennedy Center. The other guy I decided height does matter quite a bit to me. ohwell:

Oooh, and the story turns!!! (And no it's not terrible!) You are lucky to have choices!!

Keep us posted.

Did you do to the show with him? How did it go?

 

[BeautifulFlower]

As someone who was infamous for dating men who had never had girlfriends, don't expect him to approach you. They are also most likely oblivious if they have made it into adulthood without a romantic relationship of any kind.

You have to spell it out for them. No dropping hints. "Hi, I've been observing you for a minute and I'd like to get to know you better." Simple, sweet, and the ball is in his court.

Now for some unsolicited advice...I was young and stupid and assumed that because they had never had a girlfriend, I could mold them into what I wanted them to be. It was not worth the aggravation. They were 20 without a girlfriend for a reason...and the reason wasn't Jesus. They were usually childish and a hardcore gamer.

I know your experience may be different, but I was tired of being the starter girlfriend who had to "teach" them everything. I despise being dominant in a relationship and you will be if the guy has never had one.

The bolded is the exact vibe I get. Like we hang and I'm showing interest but he has no idea whats going on.


Thank you for the unsolicated advice though. I see why he is alone it aint Jesus either. Not that he doesnt love Jesus but it is so dang busy. Always working or training for track. He's a bit rough around the edges I see too but not in a childish way. More just inexperienced with girls in the romantic sense.

I dont know...I dont want to be the just the starter girlfriend though.

 

[BeautifulFlower]

Yes it was a nice show. I meet his best friend and his boss. Of course, I made sure I looked presentable. He was going to just go regular casual. I told him I'm wearing a pretty dress so he stepped it up and I was impressed.

We had a very nice evening. After the show we rode the train to downtown DC and eat, it was nice. But he keep telling me I should be with a rich guy. I am thinking...no I should be with you. Of course, I'd NEVER say it.

We hung out again this weekend. That was cool too.

Oh and funny story. We meet in undergrad but the first time we hung with about three months ago. I went to his house to cook pastries. His mom gave me this big hug when I came upstairs. I thought, "She was just excited. I must be the first girl he's brought home." LOL! Now, I am thinking I was right.

Oooh, and the story turns!!! (And no it's not terrible!) You are lucky to have choices!!

Keep us posted.

Did you do to the show with him? How did it go?

 

[Caramela]

My immediate thought is "what's wrong with him?"... but if you are interested in him then reach out to him on a friendly basis. Ask him to do something fun... skating, zoo, bowling, etc and then see where it goes from there

 

[inthepink]

Yes it was a nice show. I meet his best friend and his boss. Of course, I made sure I looked presentable. He was going to just go regular casual. I told him I'm wearing a pretty dress so he stepped it up and I was impressed.

We had a very nice evening. After the show we rode the train to downtown DC and eat, it was nice. But he keep telling me I should be with a rich guy. I am thinking...no I should be with you. Of course, I'd NEVER say it.

We hung out again this weekend. That was cool too.

Oh and funny story. We meet in undergrad but the first time we hung with about three months ago. I went to his house to cook pastries. His mom gave me this big hug when I came upstairs. I thought, "She was just excited. I must be the first girl he's brought home." LOL! Now, I am thinking I was right.

Too funny! Does this guy have a job? Wondering why he'd tell you that you should be with a rich guy?

 

[BeautifulFlower]

Too funny! Does this guy have a job? Wondering why he'd tell you that you should be with a rich guy?

He does have a job. He's a software developer for a consulting firm and getting his Ph.D. at 24. I think he's great because I like smart guys. But I've been in the full-time work force longer than him and I guess because I'm supposed to be pretty. I dont know. Maybe I give off a gold-digger vibe and dont realize it.

Confessions...I told him that I would prefer to marry someone that makes as much if not more than me. Now, its not for me. I make enough to support myself but its not like a make a excessive amount either. I do ok. Its for my husband not having any ego trips off the fact I make more than him. But it doesnt matter to me that much just a thought. Supergirl gave me a tip on how to handle that I am going to see what happens.