chokolate miss
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So I have a new crush...as usual...I need to stop this!But while we were out this weekend he revealed a lot of things to me.
His mom was on drugs.
He was born addicted to drugs.
He has been homeless and slept in cars as a child.
His mother's family denies/has disowned them.
His father abandoned them.
He has been in and out of foster homes.
There is a lot more as well. But I am wondering can we "hold a person's past against them"?
Like take myself for instance, I do not have a good relationship with my mother. People always say that a man should have a great relationship with his mother and that is how you know the way he will treat you. However, knowing my history with my mother, can I even judge.
I think that I am attracted to damaged men...lost puppies so to speak...but can he recover? He is in his early twenties, by the way...
Should I avoid him because of his past? Family members tell me that he MUST have issues, but don't we all? Am I making excuses?
What would you do?
His mom was on drugs.
He was born addicted to drugs.
He has been homeless and slept in cars as a child.
His mother's family denies/has disowned them.
His father abandoned them.
He has been in and out of foster homes.
There is a lot more as well. But I am wondering can we "hold a person's past against them"?
Like take myself for instance, I do not have a good relationship with my mother. People always say that a man should have a great relationship with his mother and that is how you know the way he will treat you. However, knowing my history with my mother, can I even judge.
I think that I am attracted to damaged men...lost puppies so to speak...but can he recover? He is in his early twenties, by the way...
Should I avoid him because of his past? Family members tell me that he MUST have issues, but don't we all? Am I making excuses?
What would you do?