TinyBlu
Well-Known Member
For those of you who have been keeping up with my ongoing saga with the guy who lost his job, I have news... he left me a VM today.
OK... I initiated it. He sent me a text over the weekend thanking me for all I am doing (helping him with his job search), and I made the mistake of replying (two days later) "I do it because I care"![Wallbash :wallbash: :wallbash:](/smilies/wallbash.gif)
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For some reason, that wasn't enough, so I called him (It's been THREE WEEKS! I'm trying to give him space! This is hard). Of course, he didn't answer, but I left a message saying "Hey, I was just checking on you. I haven't heard from you in a while. I told you I was going to give you space, and I am trying to honor that, but just needed to hear your voice. Give me a call when you're ready... (paraphrasing).
I did NOT expect a call back, so I'm sure you can imagine my shock when I saw the missed call on my phone. His message just said "Hey. Got your VM and was trying to call you back. Give me a call when you get the opportunity (sounded upbeat).
So NOW WHAT?? I have figured out that it would probably be a bad idea to call him back immediately, so I am going to wait a few days.
Ladies, I have read all the books about being too available and not giving the guy the upper hand... blah, blah, blah. Trying to follow that advice semi-led to the Christmas weekend awkwardness in the first place. I followed the "rules" that state telling a guy how you feel will chase him off, so I pretended not to and created a mess.
When I call, I don't want the conversation (if we have it) to turn into a confessional or spill my guts session. I really want to ask a few open ended questions and get some resolution. I just don't know where to start. Any suggestions?
OK... I initiated it. He sent me a text over the weekend thanking me for all I am doing (helping him with his job search), and I made the mistake of replying (two days later) "I do it because I care"
![Wallbash :wallbash: :wallbash:](/smilies/wallbash.gif)
![Wallbash :wallbash: :wallbash:](/smilies/wallbash.gif)
![Wallbash :wallbash: :wallbash:](/smilies/wallbash.gif)
For some reason, that wasn't enough, so I called him (It's been THREE WEEKS! I'm trying to give him space! This is hard). Of course, he didn't answer, but I left a message saying "Hey, I was just checking on you. I haven't heard from you in a while. I told you I was going to give you space, and I am trying to honor that, but just needed to hear your voice. Give me a call when you're ready... (paraphrasing).
I did NOT expect a call back, so I'm sure you can imagine my shock when I saw the missed call on my phone. His message just said "Hey. Got your VM and was trying to call you back. Give me a call when you get the opportunity (sounded upbeat).
So NOW WHAT?? I have figured out that it would probably be a bad idea to call him back immediately, so I am going to wait a few days.
Ladies, I have read all the books about being too available and not giving the guy the upper hand... blah, blah, blah. Trying to follow that advice semi-led to the Christmas weekend awkwardness in the first place. I followed the "rules" that state telling a guy how you feel will chase him off, so I pretended not to and created a mess.
When I call, I don't want the conversation (if we have it) to turn into a confessional or spill my guts session. I really want to ask a few open ended questions and get some resolution. I just don't know where to start. Any suggestions?