Fake Medical?

[BEAUTYU2U]

I wonder when he "faints." Is it before sex or when she asks questions, etc.?

 

[GreenEyedJen]

One of my good friends is getting married to a guy who I believe is a total fraud. But that’s a story for a day when I am not typing on my phone.

Recently she came to me and said she had an abnormal Pap smear and positive HPV and Chlamydia test.

She has been with her fiancé for about 15 months. So I expected her to be angry that he gave her STDs.

But she turns around and tells me she believes she got them from another guy. So I instantly think she cheated on her fiancé.

Nope. She believes she got it from a one night stand almost 2 years ago.

Now I know you can have asymptomatic HPV or HIV for years and not know. But can a WOMAN have asymptomatic clap for 2 years?

And her fiancé was mad at her but when calmed down he told her his friend’s wife had it for 15 years and had no idea. Now that is total BS. That leads me to believe he is telling her that story to convince her he did not give it to her.

She said in his line of work he gets tested every two years (but of course she has never seen the test results...)

Because of what I know about this guy I think he gave it to her. It’s the simplest and most likely explanation.

But ladies, maybe you can school me. Is it really possible to have chlamydia for 2 years and NOT have any symptoms?

I know a woman with the same results that had both diseases for four+ years. I don’t believe she was TOTALLY asymptomatic, but neither she nor her partner believed anything serious was afoot. Her partner was never diagnosed with either disease.

 

[Farida]

The more I think about it he is using her for sex and plans to steal her identity and vanish. She cannot have added him to her accounts if he is using a fake name. My guess is the proposal and wedding plans are a way to buy her trust so she can share more information with him.

He may start asking her for her SSN etc

I know a woman with the same results that had both diseases for four+ years. I don’t believe she was TOTALLY asymptomatic, but neither she nor her partner believed anything serious was afoot. Her partner was never diagnosed with either disease.

I was talking to my friend this weekend who is an OB/GYN and she told me that it is possible to have asymptomatic Chlamydia for years. And it leads to tube blockage and infertility. So my friend’s scenario is possible. Just unlikely IMO because of the other lies.

 

[GreenEyedJen]

The more I think about it he is using her for sex and plans to steal her identity and vanish. She cannot have added him to her accounts if he is using a fake name. My guess is the proposal and wedding plans are a way to buy her trust so she can share more information with him.

He may start asking her for her SSN etc

I was talking to my friend this weekend who is an OB/GYN and she told me that it is possible to have asymptomatic Chlamydia for years. And it leads to tube blockage and infertility. So my friend’s scenario is possible. Just unlikely IMO because of the other lies.

Yeah. I hadn’t read any of the thread before posting my response; after reading I see why the initial explanation would’ve been hard to believe.

The fact that she didn’t get tested after the one night stand makes me think that she has had it for some time, because she engages in risky sexual behavior. I’m assuming she grew up with a bit of money (since she’s close to both parents and her brother and her mother has attorneys as subordinates)? She probably has a whole side to her that none of you know.

Doesn’t change the fact that this guy is a loser, though. I think everything is true: she got the diseases somewhere else and he is using the ish out of her and will suck any joy she has before he’s done.

 

[Farida]

Yeah. I hadn’t read any of the thread before posting my response; after reading I see why the initial explanation would’ve been hard to believe.

The fact that she didn’t get tested after the one night stand makes me think that she has had it for some time, because she engages in risky sexual behavior. I’m assuming she grew up with a bit of money (since she’s close to both parents and her brother and her mother has attorneys as subordinates)? She probably has a whole side to her that none of you know.

Doesn’t change the fact that this guy is a loser, though. I think everything is true: she got the diseases somewhere else and he is using the ish out of her and will suck any joy she has before he’s done.

They’re not very wealthy but yes, pretty well off. Everyone in her family is well-educated and well-employed. She had zero student loans and owns a home.

In general she tends to only have sex with boyfriends. The one night stand was a guy she met while out of town for work for 3 weeks. She actually thought it would go somewhere and she slept with him the night before she headed home. I guess in that respect “one night stand” is not the correct term. But yeah, it is highly irresponsible not to get tested after unprotected sex...and before sex period.

Then comes the typical serial monogamy issues we see. Even though this guy claims to work in the medical field he has been having sex with someone and never asked her about STDs. I see it a lot that even in 2018 people seem to think only certain people can have STDs and only certain behaviors can make you catch them. Add the fact that they are asymptomatic and people feel invincible.

 

[Farida]

Since his name is clearly fake, I am done. There’s nothing more I can say or do. I will let you know how the train wreck ends.

 

[Farida]

I wonder when he "faints." Is it before sex or when she asks questions, etc.?

She hasn’t identified a particular pattern. It happens at work too.

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

She hasn’t identified a particular pattern. It happens at work too.

Gotcha, I was trying to figure out if the resume was fake or the fainting. All his ailments and occupation/hobbies clash.

 

[biznesswmn]

Im sorry she cant see thru his game and hope she doesnt suffer too much bcuz of him. But she does need to suffer a lil bit , learn some lessons

Cant belv her mom is a lawyer and hasnt had a friend in law enforcement run a background check on this fool. Aint nobody w no friends or family and a weird last name marryg my child without some due diligence

 

[SweetNic_JA]

Has she been tested for Hep B or Hep C? He might be lying about that cancer.

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

Watching that show, Who the Bleep Did I Marry? and thought of this thread.

 

[Farida]

So dude has been giving all sorts of excuses to cancel any plans that involve more than just she and him. I was hoping to see him to run his license plates but nothing.

Now he says a relative died and he has to go to the funeral but told her not to come...

In light of suicides I am worried.

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

@Farida - worried for him or her after he leaves for this "funeral?"

 

[Farida]

@Farida - worried for him or her after he leaves for this "funeral?"

Her. This dude’s lies are so much I wouldn’t be surprised if his “relative” emails her and tells her dude died or killed himself. He has lied to her so bad I worry when it unravels she will kill herself.

 

[Farida]

Y’all...when I tell you this story is insane...I can barely even type the rest of lies this fool is spewing.

She is so desparate and lonely and I am 97% convinced a lot of it is willfull ignorance. Don’t let this be y’all. Just don’t.

 

[rabs77]

Girl I ran in here... go on

 

[LostInAdream]

Y’all...when I tell you this story is insane...I can barely even type the rest of lies this fool is spewing.

She is so desparate and lonely and I am 97% convinced a lot of it is willfull ignorance. Don’t let this be y’all. Just don’t.

It gets worse?

 

[Farida]

It gets worse?

She found an ID with a different name. He told her he got the ID at the same time as someone else and they must’ve put that name by mistake.

She didn’t tell me the name though.

 

[SweetNic_JA]

This girl is playing Russian Roulette with her life.

 

[LostInAdream]

She found an ID with a different name. He told her he got the ID at the same time as someone else and they must’ve put that name by mistake.

She didn’t tell me the name though.

Wow

 

[awhyley]

She found an ID with a different name. He told her he got the ID at the same time as someone else and they must’ve put that name by mistake.

How did she stumble on that?
What type of ID? Government issued? She really needs to forward you the deets. Running that info could save her alot of heartache.

 

[Farida]

How did she stumble on that?
What type of ID? Government issued? She really needs to forward you the deets. Running that info could save her alot of heartache.

Govt-issued. That’s why I say it’s willful ignorance at this point.

 

[tolly]

You can't save people from themselves- she will come to her senses .... eventually

 

[Kindheart]

I wonder when he "faints." Is it before sex or when she asks questions, etc.?

Yeah sounds like an evade technique lol.
So do we have news ?
If that was my friend I would straight tell her she s being gullible and stupid . Be blunt and straight. Make her feel like an idiot cuz that’s what she is ,before she gets pregnant or he harms her.
Have you met the guy ? if no ask to go out for a coffee all together and question him (in a non threatening way ) ask the same questions in different ways . So your family is from the Uk ? What part of it ? London ? Which area ? Oh Kingston! I know where that is ! Which road ? He wouldn’t have a clue .
So do you know John Jackson from the base ,he’s the husband of a friend of mine ,was wondering if you know him .. I ll ask him if he knows you next time ..*smile*

 

[Kindheart]

She found an ID with a different name. He told her he got the ID at the same time as someone else and they must’ve put that name by mistake.

She didn’t tell me the name though.
..

Ask her “don’t you find that suspicious? How come he still has this ID if it’s a mistake ? Ask her to show him his ID (to check his picture ,something “fun”). If he refuses she should say something along the line of “you seem a bit secretive “ . She probably won’t do it if she s not even wondering about everything that has been transpired so far. Cant you speak to her mom at all ?

 

[Farida]

Ask her “don’t you find that suspicious? How come he still has this ID if it’s a mistake ? Ask her to show him his ID (to check his picture ,something “fun”). If he refuses she should say something along the line of “you seem a bit secretive “ . She probably won’t do it if she s not even wondering about everything that has been transpired so far. Cant you speak to her mom at all ?

I have met thw dude otherwise I would think he didn’t even exist! Since we are not very close I an considering contacting her bff and asking her to have coffee and telling her all all I know.

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

Govt-issued. That’s why I say it’s willful ignorance at this point.

Yeah, it was willful ignorance before, TBH, but I know you were trying not to judge her. You gave her the benefit of the doubt but at this point.....

 

[Kindheart]

I have met thw dude otherwise I would think he didn’t even exist! Since we are not very close I an considering contacting her bff and asking her to have coffee and telling her all all I know.

Lol it would be hard to believe he exists after all these tales and lies. Bless her she’s not the smartest and will learn the hard way

 

[Evolving78]

This girl is playing Russian Roulette with her life.

I would get out of dodge instead trying to unmask what he is really about.

 

[Farida]

I would get out of dodge instead trying to unmask what he is really about.

She’s inserting this dude into our lives now by bringing him to work events and stuff. Although recently he hasn’t been showing up. I guess that’s for the best.