French Rouge
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Here's the scenario, I'll change the names to protect the innocent .....
Ann is married and BFF's with Suzy. Ann and Suzy talk almost daily as they live in separate cities. Ann's ex lives in the same city as Suzy. Ann's ex contacted Suzy on Facebook and said he wanted to reach out to Ann, but Ann is not on Facebook; he wanted to apologize for some wrongs from the past. Ann reaches out to the ex and tells him there is no hard feelings she is happily married.
Turns out the ex started hitting the bottle pretty hard and was 2 years sober and doing apologies according to his twelve step program. He also tells Ann that he is battling sex addiction now and is in the middle of a 90 day celibacy period. Ann tells him good luck and carries on with her life. She tells Suzy about the conversation.
On Tuesday a month later, Suzy tells Ann that she had something to tell her but she is having trouble remembering what. Suzy finally recalls what and tells Ann that the ex inboxed her to "hang out" the previous Saturday. The ex knows Ann and Suzy are BFF's so they laugh at him even attempting something like that.
Ann starts to think about it and realizes she talked to Suzy on that Saturday and Suzy didn't mention anything about the ex asking her to hang out. Suzy doesn't bring it up until 5 days later. Ann asks Suzy to send her a screenshot of the Facebook post. Before she sends it Suzy says prefaces by saying "I didn't know what to say to him" The convo between Suzy and the ex is paraphrased as follows ...
EX: Hey how are you?
Suzy: Not bad and you?
EX: I don't mean to be an ***, but I was thinking we could hang out some time, if that is not too obnoxious, LOL
Suzy: Let me think about it, LOL
Ex: Ok![Smile :) :)](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7)
Ann notices the screen shot says 2pm is when the convo started and she realizes she talked to Suzy 30 minutes later but Suzy never said anything about the convo. She finds this odd because Suzy tells Ann about mundane developments in peoples lives that she does not know. They are typical chatty women. Why would Suzy wait three days to tell Ann that the Ex boyfriend reached out to her? In addition, Ann does not know how to feel about the "Let me think about it" Suzy sent back and the "LOL" really made her question Suzy.
Ann is now questioning Suzy's intentions. Your thoughts?
I gave Ann my advice and what I thought but I told her I would field other opinions. She now feels like she can't trust Suzy. She doesn't care about the loser ex because he is a loser. Ann told her husband about Suzy's actions and he gave his opinion as well. I'll share my and the husbands opinions after I see if folks are thinking what I am thinking.
Ann is married and BFF's with Suzy. Ann and Suzy talk almost daily as they live in separate cities. Ann's ex lives in the same city as Suzy. Ann's ex contacted Suzy on Facebook and said he wanted to reach out to Ann, but Ann is not on Facebook; he wanted to apologize for some wrongs from the past. Ann reaches out to the ex and tells him there is no hard feelings she is happily married.
Turns out the ex started hitting the bottle pretty hard and was 2 years sober and doing apologies according to his twelve step program. He also tells Ann that he is battling sex addiction now and is in the middle of a 90 day celibacy period. Ann tells him good luck and carries on with her life. She tells Suzy about the conversation.
On Tuesday a month later, Suzy tells Ann that she had something to tell her but she is having trouble remembering what. Suzy finally recalls what and tells Ann that the ex inboxed her to "hang out" the previous Saturday. The ex knows Ann and Suzy are BFF's so they laugh at him even attempting something like that.
Ann starts to think about it and realizes she talked to Suzy on that Saturday and Suzy didn't mention anything about the ex asking her to hang out. Suzy doesn't bring it up until 5 days later. Ann asks Suzy to send her a screenshot of the Facebook post. Before she sends it Suzy says prefaces by saying "I didn't know what to say to him" The convo between Suzy and the ex is paraphrased as follows ...
EX: Hey how are you?
Suzy: Not bad and you?
EX: I don't mean to be an ***, but I was thinking we could hang out some time, if that is not too obnoxious, LOL
Suzy: Let me think about it, LOL
Ex: Ok
Ann notices the screen shot says 2pm is when the convo started and she realizes she talked to Suzy 30 minutes later but Suzy never said anything about the convo. She finds this odd because Suzy tells Ann about mundane developments in peoples lives that she does not know. They are typical chatty women. Why would Suzy wait three days to tell Ann that the Ex boyfriend reached out to her? In addition, Ann does not know how to feel about the "Let me think about it" Suzy sent back and the "LOL" really made her question Suzy.
Ann is now questioning Suzy's intentions. Your thoughts?
I gave Ann my advice and what I thought but I told her I would field other opinions. She now feels like she can't trust Suzy. She doesn't care about the loser ex because he is a loser. Ann told her husband about Suzy's actions and he gave his opinion as well. I'll share my and the husbands opinions after I see if folks are thinking what I am thinking.