Does Your So Have A Female Best Friend?

[Poranges]

the only reason she got the "niqu92 pass" was because she's his cousin and niqu92 passes are hard to come by because i be giving chicks the MAJOR side eye when it comes to my man
but now i dont even know how to act like....im just so shocked.and he told me a while ago that she doesnt like me that much hmmm i guess i see why now.like my bf stays texting her and going over her house.its about to be a wrap pretty soon

Pretty soon? Um, how about RIGHT NOW?
#1 He was sexually involved with his first cousin.
#2 He had the nerve to tell YOU she isn't fond of you but still sees her regularly. I will bet $ that they didn't only hook up once.
#3 Did I mention that he got with his first cousin though?

Girl, stop.

 

[discodumpling]

niqu92 awww give dude a pass. This was before you right? The royal family does it

 

[Poranges]

@niqu92 awww give dude a pass. This was before you right? The royal family does it

Yea and they turned out great.

 

[niqu92]

@niqu92 awww give dude a pass. This was before you right? The royal family does it

yeah it was before me we've been dating for about 6months
i know tht its gross...ekkk...i cant even picture touching my cousin like that,just the thought gives me the shudders and shivers down my spine. he was the one who told me about the hookup ,he said theyve always been close but one night they went to a party with some friends got wasted and they ended up...erplexed
and like i said i knw its gross but im just not sure if thts enough of a reason to leave him because he's the best boyfriend ive had period.im not one of those crazy chicks who will stay with their man no matter what they do blahblehblah but he's a seriously good bf and just a good guy all around period. even my whole fam likes him which has never happened b4. so im not sure if i should call it quits or not..its just been going back&forth in my mind all day....

 

[qchelle]

my bfs best friend is his cousin like they hang out/talk/text all the time. i didnt really have a problem with it since its his cousin but i noticed that theyre a little too close and i felt like either something happened between them or something was going on


tell me why last night i find out that about a year ago they hooked uperplexed
and this isnt some 5th cousin twice removed, no this is his first cousin perplexednono:
i dont even know what to do or say...like.......im just like........wow.

 

[nathansgirl1908]

I don't think I read this right. I missed a step.

 

[niqu92]

Pretty soon? Um, how about RIGHT NOW?
#1 He was sexually involved with his first cousin.
#2 He had the nerve to tell YOU she isn't fond of you but still sees her regularly. I will bet $ that they didn't only hook up once.
#3 Did I mention that he got with his first cousin though?

Girl, stop.

he told me he'll stop hanging out with her if i wanted him to they chill like once every other week but a majority of the time its with a group. considering all of that, it took him a lot of balls for him to even admit that to me he said he didnt want to tell me the first couple months we started dating because he didnt want me to be like "aw hells naw" and leave him so he said he wanted to wait it out

he told me she wasnt fond of me because i could tell she didnt like me so one day i straight up asked him whats up with your cousin and he told me tht she doesnt like me too much. it wasnt like he randomly walked up to me and told me "hmmph my cousin hates you"

qchelle im mad youre laughing at my relationship-semi-incest-issues sheesh lollol

 

[Poranges]

he told me he'll stop hanging out with her if i wanted him to they chill like once every other week but a majority of the time its with a group. considering all of that, it took him a lot of balls for him to even admit that to me he said he didnt want to tell me the first couple months we started dating because he didnt want me to be like "aw hells naw" and leave him so he said he wanted to wait it out

he told me she wasnt fond of me because i could tell she didnt like me so one day i straight up asked him whats up with your cousin and he told me tht she doesnt like me too much. it wasnt like he randomly walked up to me and told me "hmmph my cousin hates you"

@qchelle im mad youre laughing at my relationship-semi-incest-issues sheesh lollol

Well at the end of the day YOU are the one who has to be with him so it is only suitable that you do what you feel is best and most necessary in your situation.

If there's one thing I know though, it is that once two people become sexual, it is unlikely that they just "hang out" after that without some sexuality. They can, but it's somewhat awkward. erplexed

You said your "BF stays texting her and going over to her house"...ummm

 

[qchelle]

he told me he'll stop hanging out with her if i wanted him to they chill like once every other week but a majority of the time its with a group. considering all of that, it took him a lot of balls for him to even admit that to me he said he didnt want to tell me the first couple months we started dating because he didnt want me to be like "aw hells naw" and leave him so he said he wanted to wait it out

he told me she wasnt fond of me because i could tell she didnt like me so one day i straight up asked him whats up with your cousin and he told me tht she doesnt like me too much. it wasnt like he randomly walked up to me and told me "hmmph my cousin hates you"

@qchelle im mad youre laughing at my relationship-semi-incest-issues sheesh lollol

Girl, ain't nothin 'semi' about what you just described

 

[niqu92]

Well at the end of the day YOU are the one who has to be with him so it is only suitable that you do what you feel is best and most necessary in your situation.

If there's one thing I know though, it is that once two people become sexual, it is unlikely that they just "hang out" after that without some sexuality. They can, but it's somewhat awkward. erplexed

You said your "BF stays texting her and going over to her house"...ummm

me and my ex were sexually involved but we still text and because we have the same group of friends i see him constantly and there isnt any akwardness at all,but i completeley see what youre saying though
the texting part does really raise my suspicions though, when he goes over his house her fam is usually there,usually her siblings he says nothings happened b/w them since but i know theres a chance he could be lying. so thats why im not too sure,i guess i'll make that good and bad list from why did we get married to help with my decision making...

qchelle lmaaoo ohmyjeebus huuush uuup!!

 

[chocolat79]

Well, my SO has a really close friend that's a girl, but she's not his BFF....that's me. I don't really have a problem with it, although I haven't met her yet....circumstances before and geograhics now. I do expect to meet her soon.

 

[Poranges]

me and my ex were sexually involved but we still text and because we have the same group of friends i see him constantly and there isnt any akwardness at all,but i completeley see what youre saying though
the texting part does really raise my suspicions though, when he goes over his house her fam is usually there,usually her siblings he says nothings happened b/w them since but i know theres a chance he could be lying. so thats why im not too sure,i guess i'll make that good and bad list from why did we get married to help with my decision making

That's normal since you all share a group of friends, but are you going over to his home and just chilling? If you say so though.

So he told you all this? That her fam is always there and all this stuff? erplexed Girl, I really don't know.

Good luck with your decision though.

 

[LovelyNaps26]

niqu92 you know this should have been it's own separate thread right? folks done forgot the OP *scrolls up to remind myself* after you insert that story. Imma pray for you. Between this and that other thread this has been a rough few weeks. Stay strong girl.

 

[firecracker]

my bfs best friend is his cousin like they hang out/talk/text all the time. i didnt really have a problem with it since its his cousin but i noticed that theyre a little too close and i felt like either something happened between them or something was going on


tell me why last night i find out that about a year ago they hooked uperplexed
and this isnt some 5th cousin twice removed, no this is his first cousin perplexednono:
i dont even know what to do or say...like.......im just like........wow.

Oh my!!!!! I don't know how you feel about family but thats off limits in my world. Good luck with that situation.

 

[tru4reele]

My SO has one. Him, her and his other guy best friend grew up together. She is married and lives out of town. She is like one of the fellas and When she comes in town we all kick it. Sometime i kinda feels out of the loop b/c they will all smoke and drink when she comes. We all went to the strip club one time and trust me when I say she is like one of the fellas. I don't find her as a threat and I don't mind if they ever go out together without me.

 

[tru4reele]

Men don't have strictly platonic relationships with women. There is an interest that attracts them. Circumstances don't allow things to play out and the guy may remain "friends" with the girl though he has moved on. But trust, it's an attraction that causes the friendship.

Women may be able to be strictly platonic and not attracted to the other but men and women are very different.

I feel like this has been discussed more than a couple times here though.

I don't agree with this.

 

[calmsensual1]

My husband tried to pull that mess with some girl he knows from College. She would call and I'd always get kind of salty about it. One time I was just like, "I'd really appreciate it if Kendra stopped calling here. It's very rude" And he looked at me like he was irritated.

Long story short...any girl you used to bone needs to go. I'm sorry. And he complied.

 

[MissMasala5]

He had sex with his cousin.







His first cousin.

 

[BrandNew]

I'm sorry but I couldn't be with a man that slept with his first cousin. No ma'am. No second thoughts needed.

 

[lilsparkle825]

I'll be damned at that "he told me if I wanted him to, he would stop hanging out with her" mess. Tryna make it look like it is YOUR decision so he can make YOU look crazy. Be tellin' her "I dunno man, (insert your name) said we can't hang out no more...." Aw HELL no!

I don't know about y'all but I hope this doesn't turn into a

 

[niqu92]

@niqu92 you know this should have been it's own separate thread right? folks done forgot the OP *scrolls up to remind myself* after you insert that story. Imma pray for you. Between this and that other thread this has been a rough few weeks. Stay strong girl.

i didnt want to start a thread because my life just feels like a lifetime drama movie right now [which we all know is never good] and i dont want to keep making dramatic threads.*srry OP*but thank you
sorry guys dont mind me and my family-relationship-incest-via-first-cousin issues continue on i'll just
GIFSoup

 

[yardyspice]

Edit: I am sorry girl. That's some messed up ish.

 

[sweetvi]

wowwwwwwwwwwzer! i would be disgusted by him and if he can f..... his own first cousin then what makes you think he wont go for his own daughter when she reaches that stage when the titties and booties pop out!


sorry....you never know!

 

[LaBelleLL]

i didnt want to start a thread because my life just feels like a lifetime drama movie right now [which we all know is never good] and i dont want to keep making dramatic threads.*srry OP*but thank you
sorry guys dont mind me and my family-relationship-incest-via-first-cousin issues continue on i'll just
GIFSoup

niqu, let me apologize in advance for being so negative but I highly caution you from sharing too much about your private life here on the boards. please, feel free to reach out, through PM land, to whomever you feel comfortable with. otherwise, I would refrain from oversharing. I am only saying this b/c I would absolutely hate it if someone turned around and threw this back in your face. just some words of advice.

 

[blackmaven]

My husband best friend is a female. The one time I tried to kick a hell storm off before we ever got married years earlier. I knocked on my boyfriend door to tell her she needed to find refuge elsewhere to live. My dh bff open the door. All of a sudden, I felt like I was going to pass out.erplexed The last words I remembered her saying was," Are you okay?" Never got a chance to act a fool. His best friend fed me,kept giving me liquids and was putting warm compress over me. She is a sweetie. It was not meant for me to be mean to his bestie. Dam

 

[BrickbyBrick]

My husband best friend is a female. The one time I tried to kick a hell storm off before we ever got married years earlier. I knocked on my boyfriend door to tell her she needed to find refuge elsewhere to live. My dh bff open the door. All of a sudden, I felt like I was going to pass out.erplexed The last words I remembered her saying was," Are you okay?" Never got a chance to act a fool. His best friend fed me,kept giving me liquids and was putting warm compress over me. She is a sweetie. It was not meant for me to be mean to his bestie. Dam

That right there was straight adorable and too funny.

 

[PapillionRouge]

I love that my SO has his full-blooded sister as his BFF. They can gab on the phone for hours, text throughout the day about anything and everything. Almost as much as he does with me ;-).
I really admire their relationship, they have a true brother-sister bond and its beautiful..

 

[blackmaven]

That right there was straight adorable and too funny.

To this day I am embarrassed in my head for almost acting a plum fool for no reason. I could not phantom my man having a female as a best friend. I never felt so ill in my life. The dam bestie was helping me to bathroom and everything Thank goodness she never felt my hell cat madness

 

[SLOGRO]

Men don't have strictly platonic relationships with women. There is an interest that attracts them. Circumstances don't allow things to play out and the guy may remain "friends" with the girl though he has moved on. But trust, it's an attraction that causes the friendship.

Women may be able to be strictly platonic and not attracted to the other but men and women are very different.

I feel like this has been discussed more than a couple times here though.

^^^^I must say this is Sh*t right here, men and women can be friends without the man wanting to hit it... Men are just like women we need friendship outside or same sex and everything is not sexual even for men.

 

[faithVA]

^^^^I must say this is Sh*t right here, men and women can be friends without the man wanting to hit it... Men are just like women we need friendship outside or same sex and everything is not sexual even for men.

Agreed. And when men do hang around in hopes of getting something, that "friendship" looks a lot different then a genuine friendship.