Does Your So Have A Female Best Friend?

First thing that came to mind was Peter on RHOA that had a female best friend. I wonder if age matters too.

It may not be alright when you are in your 20's or so but when you are of a certain age like Peter is then it may not raise an eyebrow.
 
No. If he decides to get one, I would gladly send him a card congratulating him on his new buddy and inside the card would be divorce papers. :look:
 
my SO has one. But they grew up together. I don't have a problem with it. I met her. She has her own thing going.
the only way a female BFF would raise an eyebrow, is if it is brand new. But when you're talking about people who have known each other for years way before you...then what place is it for me to have a problem with it. Sometimes its a case by case basis
 
He did when we first started dating but cut that mess off as soon as we got serious. She was not attractive at all and had multiple baby-daddies and many other issues. But, my mother told me a long time ago that the women you least expect tend to be the biggest issues.

She still seems a bit annoyed to this day that my DH doesn't keep in regular contact with her. Too bad too sad.:look:And to be fair, I had a really close male friend. We hung out all the time, went to lunch together etc. He was not anyone I was remotely attracted to physically, none the less, once me and DH got engaged, I cut the contact down out of respect for him.
 
He did when we first started dating but it never bothered me. She lived in another state and I never got the vibe that anything ever happened between them. They don't talk much anymore. Also, I'm really relaxed when it comes to situations like that.
 
Someone that I was seeing had a female bff...and guess what? I still talk to her :lol: She was geniunely nice and they knew each other since they were toddlers. His mother died really young so his bff's mother helped his dad out and basically was a mother figure to him. So for me to be jealous and possessive over their friendship would have looked really mean spirited.
 
Men don't have strictly platonic relationships with women. There is an interest that attracts them. Circumstances don't allow things to play out and the guy may remain "friends" with the girl though he has moved on. But trust, it's an attraction that causes the friendship.

Women may be able to be strictly platonic and not attracted to the other but men and women are very different.

I feel like this has been discussed more than a couple times here though.
 
JFK said:
Men don't have strictly platonic relationships with women. There is an interest that attracts them. Circumstances don't allow things to play out and the guy may remain "friends" with the girl though he has moved on. But trust, it's an attraction that causes the friendship.

Women may be able to be strictly platonic and not attracted to the other but men and women are very different.

I feel like this has been discussed more than a couple times here though.
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I have had countless men tell me this, let me just be bold here. . .unless they can see themselves potentially 'boning' the woman, they will not pursue the friendship. And if it doesn't work out, they may possibly remain friends and that's how the huge majority of female/male 'friendships' begin. Some women say "Oh his friend is unattractive." but that's in YOUR opinion, and you'd be quite surprised. :look:

I don't know of any women that DH has as "friends" and it needs to stay that way.
 
Yup that would be me. One of DH's BF's is indeed a female. She's one of my BF's too! That's just how we get down :grin: She is Godmother to our youngest 2 and has been nothing short of an Aunt to DS#1.

We've been with her through a couple of boyfriends and a husband :lachen:The men in her life don't know what to make of our very unique situation.
 
I think where men and women really differ is how they view sex. To men, just because he would have sex with you once, it really doesn't mean anything. :lol: Some men have standards so low that all you really need is a vagina. :lol: They're really very simple and some what animalistic :look: sexually whereas women put a little more, or in some cases A LOT of thought into it. That's why when women say "he would NEVER have sex with _____" I :look: because to men sex is just that, sex. It's about getting off and reducing his erection and when in heat they don't put much thought into it, maybe after but definitely not during.

Sorry OT :lol: but it's kind of related to the subject.
 
Yep my SO has a female BF they have been friends since elementary school, I have no issues she's mega cool I really like her.
 
poochie167 said:
my SO has one. But they grew up together. I don't have a problem with it. I met her. She has her own thing going.
the only way a female BFF would raise an eyebrow, is if it is brand new. But when you're talking about people who have known each other for years way before you...then what place is it for me to have a problem withe it. Sometimes its a case by case basis
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:yep: Exactly, SO has one and they've know each other since they were teens. You can watch the dynamics between them and can automatically tell there's no romance between them and never has been. I like that he has one because when we all hang out and his other male friends are around I have her and another female friend of his to talk with.
 
Yes, she's also our daughter's Godmother. We are friends too. I actually met her first and she gave me excuses to see him more.
 
Two of my SO's best childhood friends were women. They both got married, had kids and ditched him. Now my SO has me and no need for them either.

My SO knows if he decided he needs new "best friend", I would be on my merry way.
 
He does and it doesn't bother me. They have been friend since they were in diapers and shes basically a sister to him and his family so I see no threat there. Her and I have met before and all is well between us.

Now, when it comes to new 'female" friendships... thats another story
 
Other than me, no. Before we got serious, he used to ride motorcycles with a woman he was close to, but she faded out of his life as time went on and was dominated by my presence.
 
my bfs best friend is his cousin like they hang out/talk/text all the time. i didnt really have a problem with it since its his cousin but i noticed that theyre a little too close and i felt like either something happened between them or something was going on


tell me why last night i find out that about a year ago they hooked up:perplexed
and this isnt some 5th cousin twice removed, no this is his first cousin :ohwell::nono::perplexed:perplexed:perplexed:nono::nono:
i dont even know what to do or say...like.......im just like........wow.
 
niqu92 said:
my bfs best friend is his cousin like they hang out/talk/text all the time. i didnt really have a problem with it since its his cousin but i noticed that theyre a little too close and i felt like either something happened between them or something was going on


tell me why last night i find out that about a year ago they hooked up:perplexed
and this isnt some 5th cousin twice removed, no this is his first cousin :ohwell::nono::perplexed:perplexed:perplexed:nono::nono:
i dont even know what to do or say...like.......im just like........wow.
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Hell naw! My dh thought I was crazy cause I made him verify that his cousin was really his cousin and not some play cousin. Now I see even that don't matter lol.

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niqu92 said:
my bfs best friend is his cousin like they hang out/talk/text all the time. i didnt really have a problem with it since its his cousin but i noticed that theyre a little too close and i felt like either something happened between them or something was going on


tell me why last night i find out that about a year ago they hooked up:perplexed
and this isnt some 5th cousin twice removed, no this is his first cousin :ohwell::nono::perplexed:perplexed:perplexed:nono::nono:
i dont even know what to do or say...like.......im just like........wow.
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sheedatj said:
Hell naw! My dh thought I was crazy cause I made him verify that his cousin was really his cousin and not some play cousin. Now I see even that don't matter lol.

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the only reason she got the "niqu92 pass" was because she's his cousin and niqu92 passes are hard to come by because i be giving chicks the MAJOR side eye when it comes to my man
but now i dont even know how to act like....im just so shocked.and he told me a while ago that she doesnt like me that much hmmm i guess i see why now.like my bf stays texting her and going over her house.its about to be a wrap pretty soon
 
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