Do you like jealous guys?

[sunshinelady]

I remember having a friend who said she liked jealous guys. Is this common? My friend had daddy issues, but maybe that wasn't it. I was afraid that she would end up abused because of it.

Do you like them and why?

 

[LadyPaniolo]

When I was young, I used to think that a man being jealous meant he valued me so much that he feared losing me. Now I know different.

I find that jealousy in a man is a trait that often accompanies abusive behavior.

 

[bestblackgirl]

Oh no.. Jealousy makes people do some crazy s**t. Whenever i fee a guy is starting to get too jealous I run.. fast. I always think that they'll start to turn abusive or even psycho at some point.

 

[MD_Lady]

Oh noooooooooooo.

 

[Bunny77]

Absolutely not!

Now, some normal little twinges of jealousy can be okay. Example: I'm talking (literally just talking and a few dates) with a guy now, and he asked what I was doing over the weekend. I said a few things and then mentioned that I was going to meet a friend from the Internet. I was talking about an LHCF friend and then when I said to him, "She seems so nice and I can't wait to meet her," he said, "oh, it's a SHE!"

He sounded so relieved. I thought that was cute.

But if he had gone ballistic about it possibly being a dude or if he made comments about she and I possibly picking up men while we were out, then I'd have a BIG problem with that.

Jealous guys often become abusive guys.

 

[Ramya]

I think jealousy derives from insecurities. I don't date jealous men

 

[Denise11]

Jealous guys are usually the controlling abusive men in disguise.

 

[awhyley]

I remember having a friend who said she liked jealous guys. Is this common? My friend had daddy issues, but maybe that wasn't it. I was afraid that she would end up abused because of it.

Your friend had better watch out, cause if sounds like she's looking for a beat down. There are other ways men can show that they care rather than acting the jealous fool.

 

[QUEENDIVA1]

Heck naw!

 

[~~HoneyComb~~]

I don't like jealous guys.

Although to some women, in the beginning of a relationship, they think it's cute, and that the guy really loves them--it can morph into something dangerous, and get out of control.

Jealous men love to control their women--that has nothing to do with love.

 

[JustKiya]

No. Jealousy indicates either he's insecure and/or he doesn't trust me. Either one, I'm not willing to deal with in a relationship.

Jealously + anger issues = abusive. Yeah, I'm sure there are some women who have those kinds of men, love those kinds of men, and have never had them lay hands on them (or someone else over them) but those two things in combo, and I'm running, and telling anyone involved with them to run.

 

[NYAmicas]

Heck no!......

 

[TayMac]

Nope been there done that. I thought it was "cute" but it was not. My ex was jealous with a temper and I felt his wrath many times. So jealously is a red flag IMO.

 

[brickhouse]

Nope. Jealousy leads to a host of other problems. It is not cute to be running for your life or to have to quit your job because your ex is stalking you. When men act jealous and controlliing I immediately call them on it and leave. I am just not going to put up with it.

 

[blue_flower]

I'm not attracted to jealous guys. As soon as he sees me talking to another guy or hanging out with other people, he'll be ready to kick my behind. No thanks!

 

[itismehmmkay]

Yeah
I'm a bit possessive myself and I'd like for him to be the same.
There is a line though.

 

[pinkchocolatedaisy]

I think a little bit of jealousy is healthy and normal. Like for example, DH admits he gets a little jealous sometimes when I would go out with friends for happy hour, etc b/c he wondered if some other guy would try to get with me or something like that. I'm the same way knowing a girl he briefly dated right before me now works where he does. We are playful with it, though. It's not like we're sniffing each other when we come in from being out or checking each others phones/emails/etc. He doesn't tell me what to wear and I don't tell him who he can/cannot hang out with (ok well except for ONE friend and that is b/c this "friend" knew me and DH at the time were dating and he invited him on a double date... ) but that was different.

So I think there is a fine line...

 

[lilmsjanet]

i love jeloussss men there the most protective of there woman when anything goes down so Yes there awsomeeeeeeee

 

[Theo]

Nah. I used to think it was cute, but now that stuff is just annoying. He would need to go somewhere wit all that.

 

[skatergurljubulee]

Dating jealous guys just seems to walk down a long road of messes that usually result in a beat down. Why do I want a black eye and a stressful evening when I can just meet a normal guy and skip all that trash?
Interesting topic, OP.