kurlybella
Well-Known Member
i hear a lot of women saying this, and are still single pushing 40...they are waiting for their man to "find them."
they feel it's an ultimate sin to ever approach a man in any kind of way. ever.
maybe because i'm very untraditional and don't believe that waiting for a man to fall in your lap out of the sky - as the women i'm speaking in reference to are doing -- but i don't get this whole idea.
now, yes, i'm smart enough to know how to get a man going. even in my untraditional ways, i understand playing the game of courting. so if i reel him in, let him feel like hes the one who's putting in work.
but if you don't put yourself in a position to be "found" as some women want to be, or in my case, to meet a man (for me it would be us meeting or finding each other),then how is he going to "find" you?
if you don't go to new places, and put yourself out there, and play the game -- look avail, look approachable, make eye contact, respond to his passes, hell, initiate the conversation sometimes and say the first words, then how in the hell will a man knows what you want?
it's like some women think this is snow white and some dude is just going to come and kiss you and wake you up because he's been looking for you allll of his lifeeeeee....and you don't have to do anything but stand and look pretty.
i really don't get this thought, but wanted to ask what was up with this because maybe i'm just missing something here: let the man do all the work since he is so deserving of you and you just stand and look pretty while he "finds" you?
they feel it's an ultimate sin to ever approach a man in any kind of way. ever.
maybe because i'm very untraditional and don't believe that waiting for a man to fall in your lap out of the sky - as the women i'm speaking in reference to are doing -- but i don't get this whole idea.
now, yes, i'm smart enough to know how to get a man going. even in my untraditional ways, i understand playing the game of courting. so if i reel him in, let him feel like hes the one who's putting in work.
but if you don't put yourself in a position to be "found" as some women want to be, or in my case, to meet a man (for me it would be us meeting or finding each other),then how is he going to "find" you?
if you don't go to new places, and put yourself out there, and play the game -- look avail, look approachable, make eye contact, respond to his passes, hell, initiate the conversation sometimes and say the first words, then how in the hell will a man knows what you want?
it's like some women think this is snow white and some dude is just going to come and kiss you and wake you up because he's been looking for you allll of his lifeeeeee....and you don't have to do anything but stand and look pretty.
i really don't get this thought, but wanted to ask what was up with this because maybe i'm just missing something here: let the man do all the work since he is so deserving of you and you just stand and look pretty while he "finds" you?