WhipEffectz1
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Not every woman is hard pressed to find a man though
Sorry but on this board, it seems like they are.
Not every woman is hard pressed to find a man though
^^ Shots fired!
Work with a brotha then Glib. Work with a brotha
you are silly
I have dated and married interrracially before, and in most if not all instances, these were men currently in or on the edges of my social circles.
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With some of the craziness I have seen on here Maybe some people on here can do man a favour and stay single. It is not always the MAN that has got the issues
I think many women are unmarried and childless because of many different and sometimes unique reasons. However, there are some very universal reasons as to why some of us are single and can't find a man. I'm not saying everyone is like this. But there may be at least one thing you can grab from this.
1. Because they refuse to be open to other races. Which is a huge mistake. By opening yourself up to other races, you'll see that getting a man is so much more possible. You'll see opportunities where before you didn't see any. I love black men. LOVE THEM. But they aren't the only ones on the planet.
2. Because our expectations are wayyy too high. You only want a black man. But you turn 50% of them away because they're too short or not looking like denzel or something. Don't say this isn't true because I'm guilty of it. And I have many female aquaintances and friends that had discussions about doing the same thing online and in person. Nothing wrong with having expectations and standards. But are some of your expectations limiting the dating pool available to you?
3. A lot of us stay at home and expect God to give us the best man in the world. However, the best man in the world isn't at home. So you should be out and about doing fun things. Being seen. That way he can actually see you and the the opportunity to approach you. Not to say you need to be at the club. Jjust open yourself to new experiences. Go to the symphony orchestra. Go to the ballet. Hit up the singles events in your city and get involved in something. The men you want and feel you deserve are there. Not at the club getting drunk and taking home girls. Also your enviroment says a lot about you. Where do you live? Who do you hang out with? Where do you go for fun? Evaluate your enviroments and see what they say about you? If what it says seems not like you at all, then change it.
4. Don't be afraid to approach him first! Seriously. Do it. Most of the time you won't regret it. Not saying to come on strong but there's a beautiful balance between approaching and then leting him take control from there, and approaching and carrying the whole thing.
I'll bite.
1). I'm open to other races, but how many of them in my age group are open to dating black women? Online, they check everything but black, and in real life, they are afraid to approach, so being open to them isn't getting me far. lol
2). I'm short. I'm willing to date someone at least around 5'6. I keep myself in shape, so yes, I have some expectations, and won't be dating no Rick Ross. He doesn't have to be a Denzel, but he must be decent looking and keeps himself in shape at least. I'm asking for the same things I bring to the table as well, so not apologizing for that.
3). I go out to these events, an most of the men are either taken or just look and are again too afraid to speak/ask women out.
4). Not sure how I feel about this. Most women find men by having the men approach them first....
Anything else you got?
ok, im gonna make the post... i hope nobody e-bullies me about it
In think you guys are misunderstanding the point. You have to take when exactly I am saying into context. I'm not saying lower your standards and pick up a fool, uneducated, old daddy. Because I wouldn't even do that myself. I'm saying some women want the dude to be modelish or something. They want the dude to be ballin or something. There's nothing wrong with working a 9-5 and driving a kia or something. Education is sexy and that's a big thing I look for in a man. But I'm not gonna turn someone away because he doesn't have a degree. Maybe he runs a lawn care business and is a highschool grad. He reads and holds intellectual convos. And maybe you didn't know it but his business makes him a really good living. I'm saying that we shouldn't all be looking for 6'3, phd with a bentley. That's pushing for many women.
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I think this is a post we should have and discuss and I wanna open the discussion, but y'all gotta promise to not e-beat me up and come protect me if I do
I do all of these things, and I'm still single as a dollar bill