do some people have HAIR so DIFFICULT they HAVE TO RELAX/TEXLAX?

[ThePerfectScore]

They used to call my moms hair Cantcha, Dontcha when she was growing up. As in you can't comb it, and don't you try. I think she still has a complex about that as an almost 50 year old woman. But I just think patients and proper knowledge is key. For my 5-6 month worth of new growth I've noticed washing it is the key if I want to try to manipulate it. When it's dry, its a death trap, but with some conditioner on it wet, it is manageable. I just don't want to have to wash it errday, so I think I will relax again some day, but idk when haha

 

[nappystorm]

No I think it's a mind thing. Sometimes will taming my hair, I think "this would be so much easier if I had a relaxer". Then I remember I went through the same thing when I was a permie. The only difference is I didn't have the option of a (decent looking) wash and go.

My dream would be to texlax but I'm scared that my hair will get too straight

 

[PearlyCurly]

Im natural and i voted Yes BECAUSE..it depends on what a person would call "Unmanageable" and how easy they would give in! To some, 4b is unmanageable & to others 3b can be unmanageable. I would call my hair unmanageable sometimes because its sooo thick And my curl definition is all over the place But i never complain about it because i loveeee that im natural!!

And Im sorry but i hate when naturals sit and complain about their texture if they were happier with a relaxer well then let them relax it I would rather see someone happy with their hair instead of trying to commit suicide because their hair broke their brand new denman D4 I say going natural is like having a baby you need to practice and learn some before that baby comes. If you actually rly cared about going natural then i would think you would learn a little something about natural hair before chopping all your hair off...shoot take an extra month or two transitioning to learn more

 

[mscocoface]

No it is all in what the mind can tolerate.

What is that saying if you think you can or you can't you ARE RIGHT!

Do what works for you and keeps your mind at peace.

 

[BlackMasterPiece]

This is a myth created to sell relaxers.

Unmanageable hair, is hair that YOU haven't learned to manage. PERIOD.

If you find that while doing your hair in a certain way your hair is fighting you, then you need to change up your technique plain and simple.

I have 4a coily non-silky hair, that if left to its own devices would feel like a brillo pad, so I keep it moisturized with the right products for softness, I've found conditioners that allow my comb to glide thru my fro section by section easily and as long as I rebraid the section afterward my hair stays detangled and neat. Most weeks doing my hair takes me 2-3 hours from wash to setting in whatever style I'm doing that week and I'm outta there.

If your hair is fighting you, you need to change up your technique, saying there are some hair textures that re so difficult they need relaxers is the same as asking if there are some hair textures that are so "bad" by nature that they need to be relaxed. Sometimes we need to recognize that we need to deprogram ourselves from the marketing that has been drilled into us from birth in America.

 

[jamaraa]

People who think of their natural hair as difficult gerenally are trying to make it do something it doesn't do UNLESS you alter it. Of course they'll find their hair unruly if they expect that it'll "flow" when they have a texture that doesn't do this by nature.

Much of this is about false expectations.

 

[newbiemom]

YES! Me. I have 4abz hair and I had to texlax or pull a Britney Spears. I bc with the intentions of staying natural but all the cowashing int he world is not going to help this head. I have a family to take care of I can't afford the 6 hours it took on wash day. I have to take my kid to swim class. 3 of my sisters are natural but their hair is much softer than mine when I texlaxed they both were like"I understand" Plus don't get me started on shrinkage.