Re: Divorce - how do you know when it\'s time?
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Hello!
If you're asking "When" maybe it's not time...because when it's time, you'd know because you wouldn't be on the computer, but you'd be packing your bags.
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don't get a boyfriend.
[/ QUOTE ] were u reading my mind??? between me and you there's a guy at my job and I've been fantasizing all week about how smart he is, how much he earns $$$,$$$, how perfect it would be to start all over with someone new.... I really appreciate your insight;sometimes when you're in the middle of it you can't see straight.
Thank you all for your replies.
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Stop fantasizing. It only makes things worse. When you get too focused on someone else, then you can't focus on your marriage. When someone else is in the picture, you're more likely to run away with the new guy, instead of giving the old guy a chance. As for the guy at work, after you get to REALLY know him (in terms of years....2,3,4,5,etc years), he might not sound so smart--you might be ready to tell him to shut up. As for him making good money, in these trying times, he could lose his job. And then what?
When the waters are stormy a lot of men begin to look good to you, but you have to know, that when the newness wears off, they might end up looking and being just like your dear old hubby. Okay, once again, good luck. Oh! Just to prove my point,as for the lady I was telling you about who's been married and divorced 3 times, she's on number 4 now, and between you and me (and all the ladies on the board), he's not too much better than the last husband---new man, same old situation
, but she doesn't see it because she's caught up in the newness.
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Thanks Brownie, yesterday we talked about some pretty serious things and at one point we decided that he would move out, but, in talking and rehashing so many hurt feelings we began to realize that we don't want to be without one another. Marriage can be really really difficult and yesterday I felt my lowest and God only knows (literally) how we were able to rise above the ashes. Starting today I won't fantasize about my boyfriend (well.. the bf in my head, he doesn't even know my name and we'll keep it that way).
Thanks again everyone.