Did/will you take his last name or did/will you hyphenate

[Rezgirl]

I use his, mine and both! Our daughter has his. For School stuff I hyphenate. For paperwork I use mine. My last name is fly and his is whack so... Plus my dad died a few years ago and there are no men to carry the name. My brother doesn't want any kids so I had an attachment to the name.

 

[Lishaboo]

I hyphenated... I regret it

Well you can always change it.

 

[Lishaboo]

when or if ever i get married i plan on keeping my last name and all the girls that i have will have my last name and my sons will have there fathers last name

Why? What difference does it make? Whose to say they will keep your last name when they get married?

 

[chelleyrock]

I hated my maiden name. Couldn't wait to change it. Luckily my married name is a common last name. If I hyphenated, it would be worse.

 

[*KP*]

I'd like to hyphenate but my name is too long, it'd be 5 syllables and 18 letters hyphenated!

 

[MissMeWithThatIsh]

Sometimes people just need to make a decision and leave those hyphens alone. Case and point, this lady @ work is Sprinkle-Spicer erplexed. Awful.

 

[MissMeWithThatIsh]

I just took his last name....

I hyphenated at first... but ppl ignored the hyphen

 

[filthyfresh]

It depends on his last name.
If it sucks, I'll hyphenate & use my maiden professionally.
If I like it, I'll take it.

 

[nysister]

I hyphenate. Why? Because I had my name for 23 years, and I wasn't about to act like it went away. My husband was an addition to my life and so was his name.

I think it's cute when couples hyphenate or take on a new name. Hubby wasn't having that, so I said whatever, I'm keeping mine. My maiden is still on my passport.

 

[Highly Favored8]

I always said hypernated now I might just take his last name.

 

[HoneyCurlz]

I hyphenated as well.

 

[fattyfatfat]

I might hyphenate when the time comes.

 

[andromeda]

I really don't know what I will do but this is something that I've given much thought to and I'm not even anticipating getting married until late 20s/30s.

Here's my predicament: I already have a hyphenated last name (I have 4 names total) and after briefly resenting my name as a child, I've grown to love it. It truly embodies who I am and I just love the way it sounds. On the other hand, there's a part of me that's very conservative and wants to be Mrs. [insert future husband name here]. On the other hand, there's a tradition in my family of hyphenating names and I like this practice! After thinking about it, my options are:

- Get rid of my whole last name and take dh's name
- Get rid of one of my last names and hyphenate the remaining one with DH's name. I like having a hyphenated name, so I wouldn't mind the "maiden name"-"dh name" combination, but which one of my maiden names would I get rid of? I feel like I have to carry on my mother's family name bc, due to her side not procreating that much, the family name will die if I don't carry it on. The same is true of my father's family name and I feel an obligation to him as well. How would I choose without letting a piece of my family be lost forever????
-Hyphenate my current last name with DH's last name, resulting in "maiden name1"-"maiden name 2"-"dh last name". That sounds like a bit much, no?
-Add my maiden names to my middle name
- Use my old name professionally and my married name personally

Am I being too petty or obsessive about this?

 

[haitianchick]

I will take my husbands name. I dont really like my last name so as long as his is not something Like Hooker it has to be better.

 

[Livingmylifetothefullest]

It depends on his last name.
If it sucks, I'll hyphenate & use my maiden professionally.
If I like it, I'll take it.

Exactly what I will do

 

[Harina]

I think if I get married, I will keep my name. My last name is very original. I think somewhere down the road, it was partially anglicized so it's a weird hybrid of nigerian and english. It's hard to pronounce. No one knows how to spell it, and it has been the butt of many a joke, but it's MY name. Literally, there are like 15 people (all in my family) in the entire world who have that name. And I'm not throwing it away or hyphenating because I'm getting married. Sorry, boo-boo.

 

[Britt]

When I get married, I will happily take my SO's last name.
Hopefully it's a decent last name... I love my current SO's last name and it fits very well w/ my first name

 

[*KP*]

I'd like to hyphenate but my surname is 3 syllables and quite long so I don't know

 

[deusa80]

I wanted to hyphenate but my SO isn't feeling that idea. His last name is unique and so is mine, but it sounds better when my last name is hyphenated along with his rather than just his last name alone...
I have a middle name, but it's not a name I really use, though it does about on some of my cards and on my ID. Now, if I included my middle name, then having a hyphenated name wouldn't really sound right...if that makes sense
To actually answer the question...I think I'll just take his last name...

 

[cupcakes]

im definitly taking his last name

 

[Jhuidah]

I hyphenated for a while. The total last name was 4 syllables (2 mine, 2 his), so it sounded good and not over the top. After having been married for a while, I decided to just use his last name--but I generally sign any papers with my former last name as one of my middle initials.

 

[rafikichick92]

IDK what I would do--my last name is pretty much the only real link with my father's culture although not my family geneology because when my uncles, father, grandfather, etc. got baptized/integrated into western life, they took their former names (just one) as their last name and took an american name, so they all have different last names and no one can tell we are related to each other or to my grandfather. So you have John Ateto, Lance Onyango, and Richard Okatch who are all full blood brothers and the sons of Joseph Omaya! Very confusing, lol.

But I like the link to my heritage, so I would like to keep the name, I just don't know as what. It irks me to think I'd have to get rid of my middle name (even though I don't like it that much), I would like to take future hubby's last name, and I don't like hyphens! I guess I'll end up Jarinda Danae Okatch Jones or something, lol. I wish my mom would have given me her maiden name for a middle name like she did my brother so then I'd have both parts of my ancestry represented. I think this is a very good idea, by the way, esp for genealogical purposes.

 

[NaturallyBlonde]

I took his. My maiden name was always mispronounced and it annoyed the hell outta me.

 

[rafikichick92]

^^^ LOL this is with me too, but it has endeared my name to me.

 

[princessnad]

My SO is trying to wear me down about not hyphenating... too bad he doesn't know he is fighting the wrong battle. I was really considering just keeping my maiden name.

 

[*~*Afrolicious*~*]

My last name is too hard for people to pronounce so I'd take my husband's name. Most people get my SO's name wrong but not as bad as mine. Hyphenating our two last names would be criminal lol

 

[Nyssa28]

Probably hyphenating....I haven't asked him about his thoughts on the matter.

 

[lacreolegurl]

My maiden name became my middle name and then I added my hubby's name. I felt very connected to my name...my father's name and I wanted keep it.

 

[kurlybella]

can't remember if i posted in here already, but if i should marry, i'm not changing my name. it's an outdated practice, imo. he can take mine if he wishes. but either way it's not important at all.

 

[MrsHdrLe]

I'm an only child born to my parents and it's an African name, so I will not be getting rid of my last name