Did/will you take his last name or did/will you hyphenate

Did/will you keep your name or take his

  • I want my name so hyphenate it is.

    Votes: 63 31.5%

  • I want my husbands last name.

    Votes: 115 57.5%

  • I have no clue.

    Votes: 22 11.0%
  • Total voters
    200
  • Poll closed .
I always thought I would keeep my last name as I couldn't be bothered with the hyphenated name. My ex had a problem with it, but my thing was that if we got divorced I would have to change my name etc. So why even bother changing it in the first place. But know that I am older and wiser with regards to relationships, I will compromise (don't know exactly what that compromise will be though).
 
I took his name and my initials didn't change. :grin:

I just got my new SS cards and bank cards in the mail this week. :grin:

 
I still have my last name, but will change to his soon. I just haven't gotten around to changing it yet.
 
I am taking his last name.

I love my surname as it seemed to be the only connection I have left to my deceased father.

I wanted to make it my middle name, but I already have one and I don't want to drop it. I also don't want to have 50-11 names. So I will simply take his.

I want to have the same name as my kids when I have them.

Though I love how the Mexicans do it, it is way too many names. So confusing.
 
OT, when you change your name, do you get a new ID(such as a new picture) or do they just change the name on it? I like my ID picture and kind of want to keep it lol.
 
felicia said:
OT, when you change your name, do you get a new ID(such as a new picture) or do they just change the name on it? I like my ID picture and kind of want to keep it lol.
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In Maryland, I had to take a new picture for my license
 
I added his name and I didn't drop anything or hyphenate. My legal name is FirstName MiddleName MaidenName MarriedName. My married name is my legal last name and it's what I go by. I sign my name with the first letter of my maiden name as my middle initial. I took his name because I wanted to and I didn't drop anything because I didn't want to. :drunk:
 
I will take his last name as my last name, but my middle name will then become my last name..... "Mrs. Winter Inatl Man"
 
divya said:
I will take his last name, and put my surname as my middle name. I'll use it conveniently. My s/o doesn't like it at all though. He doesn't want me to have my last name period. It's the one issue that we've had for a long time, and doesn't look like we will ever agree on. Oh well...
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I had an argument about the same thing, once. It really pissed me off. If I'm taking your last name I'm taking it, whether or not my middle name stays Inatl. That is stupid.

Not to mention you haven't brought me a ring yet so STFU :rolleyes:.

It turned out he was all riled up because we would have ended up with the exact same three initials if I took his name and omitted mine completely. Cute :rolleyes::rolleyes:. Yeah, he's 37.
 
I am not sure if I will hyphenate, but I love my last name and as another poster mentioned, The name itself is becoming more scarce in my family because there are not too many men who are a. carrying it on or b. even getting married.

However the problem with my last name is if I did hyphenate it, depending on the last name of my husband, it automatically sounds like a place. So I'm not sure yet.
 
PassionFruit said:
its a lil confusing

say maiden name is Smith
I came into this marriage with 2 kids from prior marriage... they have legally hyphenated names Smith-Jones... though lately they only use Jones

we get married... I use the name PassionFruit Smith-Peters
subsequent kids get hyphenated name of Smith-Peters cuz I had a complex about having 2 baby daddies... so at least with the hyphenation, we were connected in a way... Smith-Jones and Smith-Peters

problem is.... my name is ALWAYS jacked up... I cant tell you all of the business & credit problems its caused...

I get called:

Passion Smith
Passion Peters
PassionF Smith-Peters
PassionF Smithpeters
PFruit PSmith

and a million other varieties... and in the information age, computers see all of these as different people... I actually had credit files under several of those variations

ALSO, when I got into church, I argeed that I should have left SMith & Jones behind me and adopted my husband's name of Peters...

I could change and always plan to but dont feel like going thru the hassle
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See, this is why I don't want to hyphenate. It looks to be a big hassle. Not to mention, people like me are always leaning toward saying something shorter. It's a mouth full and not even one name, so it lends to people shortening it....by omitting a name. And then sometimes Hypenators will want you to "just call them..." and you forget which one it is....

It's a pain.

If someone is going to end up calling me Mrs. Winter Man anyway, I might as well either keep my name or change my name.

I really would rather just keep it. It is mine and is part of my identity. People call me by my last name for fun. I like it. Mine!
 
I did not change my name when I married. I like it just fine the way it is. Besides, my mother and I have the same first and last names, and my sister and I have the same initials. That means a lot to me.
 
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Mine is hyphenated. Our children are not, that was his condition. I did not have a problem with that.
I just now wish I would have given my son my last name as his middle name and my daughter, my middle name which is a family name.
 
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Dee-Licious said:
will take his last name

don't want my children to have the hassle of a hyphenated name
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ITA. I have a hyphenated name (my mother's and my father's last names) and I hate it. I only use one of them, but IF I do get married I'll take my SO's name and never look back! :yep:
 
My name is already hyphanated

i.e; like anne-sophie (this is not my actual name)

so if i wanted to get married and hyphanated it would be way too much .
 
Kept my last name. It's important to DH and his family.

I wanted to keep my last name since I am the only child and a girl. My dad's last name has hit a dead end. No one to carry it on. :nono:
 
I'm taking his last name... although it's dull and boring and I love my own last name. :ohwell: I don't plan to hyphenate; my current last name ties me to my father, once I'm married I will have my own family and plan to move forward with our own family name. :yep:
 
On the hyphenated note, I was reading a magazine recently and there was a woman that was named Mrs. ____ Smith-Smith! :perplexed What's the point of hyphenating SMITH with your husband's name of Smith? I stared at it in disbelief. :lachen:
 
seraphinelle said:
Dr. Maiden name

Mrs. hyphenated name.
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You bring up another conundrum. I have been studying all these years to be Dr. Inatl. There hasn't been anyone that stayed the course all these years - just me. I don't want to become Dr. Inatl only to have to change it to Dr. Whoisthat because I get married in two years. Where's the accomplishment for my name?

I dunno.
 
I built my professional reputation using my maiden name, it's just so me.

Plus, I'm durn proud of my family name, and not giving it up...:grin:
At work, I'm using my name, and off work, I'll hyphenate.

My kids will be hyphenated too.
 
When I do get married I plan on taking my husbands name. I have a son though with his fathers last name and I would want my family to all have the same last name. What is usually done in that case? I am not sure what I would do.
 
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