Okay ladies...I hope I either thanked or commented on everyone's posts. I appreciate all your comments even the opposing positions. You took the time to read my original post and to give a thought. I thank you for that.
Here is your update. He took the daughter home Monday evening and then came over. We talked for quite some time. He explained to me how the day before he takes her home it's all about her because it's very hard for both of them the next day. I get that.
He explained she has very physical withdrawals when it's time to go back to her mom. We even talked about how he had the pedi Dr. talk to her because he thought there might be some reason she so vehemently hated to go home. She was checked out and while not being abused, they determined she just doesn't want to leave her dad and all her cousins. Hey it's fun at grandmas's house when everyone is hanging out.
A big part of it was because she felt like he had no one but her and she felt really bad leaving him alone. It was then that he decided his daughter needed to see that he wasn't all alone everytime she left. This child was worried about her dad being lonely. Still she gets weepy when it's time to go home.
She knows mom is okay, mom has a life. But in his words, not mine...daddy has been home alone the last 52 Fridays of the year when not with her. We have seen 4 movies since we started dating. These have been the first adult movies in a theater, he's seen since he became single.
He is just too happy to be in adult company that he feels is sustainable. Yesterday, he got off work. He stopped and picked up some Burn's bbq and we watched the Iowa Caucus together. We laughed so hard...I mean belly laughing tear wiping hard. This man and I have a great time together. And then I baked some cookies and he had cookies and ice cream. We just really enjoy being together.
I wish you could have seen his face when I later reached in my shopping bag and handed him a bottle of ORS Shea Butter. I explained to him how to use it or his daughters hair. He read the ingredients and told me how she didn't like him to comb her hair because he could only do afro puffs...one big one.
And then he leaned over and kissed me, it was so romantic and thoughtful. Then he looked at me and said "I bet you can do a twisted mohawk" What? I fell out laughing and he did too. Apparently this is a style his daughter wants and he can't do it....lol.
So I figure...we are walking toward something...I'm not running and neither is he, in either direction. Many of you have said
patience...I hear that over and over and I get that. If either of us decide this is a no go...little mama won't be impacted. We will know whether or not this will go forward way before I open the door and find her standing on my door step. I won't do that again.
Well ladies...that's all for me for now. I wish you all the Brightest of Blessings!