InsertCleverNameHere
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To be honest I would have responded the same way he did. When I read the OP I was screaming no!!!!! In my head when I got to that part. You guys just became exclusive and you already have asked him to dump his kid for you. He's handling it exactly the way I'd want my dad, DH, or a man I was dating to handle it. He will see you anytime except when he has his child...sounds good to me. Now I can see how you would be put off by this as a minor free woman, but you chose to date a younger man with a child so...do you really want to date a guy who leaves his kid with his Mom when he's supposed to have her?
Agreed. It's only 4 days a month, so it won't kill you.
If that is just way too much time for him to have completely with his daughter, then you really should bow out now.
I'm vehemently opposed to this idea of him having flexibility on the few days he has his daughter when this is a new relationship. It's almost cruel to try to push your way into the very little time he is guaranteed time with his little girl. I think he handled things well and is ensuring that he doesn't damage his permanent relationship with his daughter, for one that may be temporary.
You agree that it is not time to meet the daughter, so all these worries about future integration seem a little ridiculous to me. At this point in time, you are handled separately because you are separate parts of his life. I would at least make it to the point in the relationship where you are serious about your future as a couple and are ready to meet and have a relationship with his daughter before thinking him unreasonable for completely blocking off those weekends.