Dating a man with a minor child...*rant*

So glad you made this decision. I get so tired of women being expected to "wait a lil while longer" and settling (because another good man may never come along) :rolleyes: You knew what you wanted from jump and that wasn't it. He may be a good guy just not YOUR good guy.
 
sunnieb said:
Control freak. Good riddance.

He needs to resolve his trust issues before getting into another serious relationship.

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sunnieb At honey there are a lot of things I might be willing to negotiate on but dealing with a control freak is not one of them. That never wins.
 
JayAnn0513 said:
Well that was an interesting stunt he pulled with that beach house thing. Definitely trust issues.
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JayAnn0513 Yes mam. The funny thing is he will probably be a great catch years from now if he can get that out of his system. He had some good qualities but acting like a 7 year old is not one I care to participate in.
 
ambergirl said:
@ElizaBlue Sooooo basically his time with his daugther is so precious until his need to control you takes over :lol: Oooooo men make we laugh.

Moving on....
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ambergirl Exactly. I'm suppose to be under house arrest until he's free to go. No thank you. I swore off dating cops for this very reason. I don't want to control anyone and I for damn sure don't plan to be controlled by anyone.
 
SilentRuby said:
So glad you made this decision. I get so tired of women being expected to "wait a lil while longer" and settling (because another good man may never come along) :rolleyes: You knew what you wanted from jump and that wasn't it. He may be a good guy just not YOUR good guy.
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SilentRuby Love the name by the way. This is so on point. I kept telling myself well he's so nice and you have so much in common. But I didn't want to date guys with young kids when I had young kids. I had my kids so young that I knew once I was done I was done. Shoot I have a 33 year old and I am constantly constantly getting hit on by guys his age or younger with young kids. I would never date someone the same age as my son whether they had kids or not...I wouldn't even know how to explain that.

There is a guy now who is absolutely gorgeous and fione. He's an engineer and owns a home near my getaway. I use to watch him run every Saturday morning on the seawall. Finally we "bumped" into each other and hung out a couple of times. Turned out he's only 35 divorced with a 10 year old who lives in another state but has a 4 year old who is here locally. He's trying to get custody of the 10 year old son.

I was so disappointed...but I knew I couldn't cosign for that. He is still trying to get me to change my mind. Very mature but I just cannot see myself with someone that much younger than me.
 
I'm with you. It's not good to compromise when u feel strongly about something. I compromised and married a divorced man with a 13 yr old daughter. That was 11 years ago. I was single with no kids. It was somewhat stressful but luckly she was a good daughter the majority of the time.
 
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LongiLox said:
So, have you told him it's over? What was his reaction?
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Zuleika said:
@ElizaBlue what happened when you told him it was over? How did he take it?
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@LongiLox @Zuleika Lol...I'm still on silent treatment. How childish is that? I left him a message and just basically told him to be clear this is over and no need to contact me. I guess he understands that much.

What's funny is he is the second Scorpio I've dated. The last one did the exact same thing when I broke up with him. He refused to speak to me for over a year. Scorpio men are very vindictive and hold long grudges. :lachen:
 
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levette said:
I'm with you. It's not good to compromise when u feel strongly about something. I compromised and married a divorced man with a 13 yr old daughter. That was 11 years ago. I was single with no kids. It was somewhat stressful but luckly she was a good daughter the majority of the time.
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levette Wow...so do you and the SD have any type of relatioship now?
 
ElizaBlue said:
@LongiLox @Zuleika Lol...I'm still on silent treatment. How childish is that? I left him a message and just basically told him to be clear this is over and no need to contact me. I guess he understands that much.

What's funny is he is the second Scorpio I've dated. The last one did the exact same thing when I broke up with him. He refused to speak to me for over a year. Scorpio men are very vindictive and hold long grudges. :lachen:
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The silent treatment for more than a week? Really? What a baby.
 
The Scorpio dated would not go away until I literally told him his new girl would not like him calling me. We were together six yrs.
 
The Scorpio I dated two years ago has married. However, he is still on my FB page. I posted some pics of flowers I received on a date I went on this past weekend. He saw the flowers and pics and went ballistic...and he's married now. :ohwell:

Didn't phase me at all about his married behind being mad about my flowers, but he was not happy. :lachen:
 
LOL...we might need a thread about Scorpio men...there seems to be a pattern. I can tell you based on these two who were very very quiet reserved and seemingly a good match...I will totally rethink the whole Zodiac thing now. I'm a Leo...a true Leo but very much an introvert. So I thought they were good matches...but to hayle with that now.:lachen:

Side note: I got a "hello and would like to get to know you better" email from a guy online. This guy has for weeks been trying to holla and writing that I'm so beautiful and my skin glows...blah blah blah. I finally said hello back out of courtesy but knew I didn't want to talk to him because everyone of his pics is him and his boys or him at the club or him on his bike. So I was like at 45 he seems really into 20ish things.

Because he said he had kids I asked their age. I also included the ages of mine and that I was asking because my kids were grown and I didn't want to go backwards...lot's of lol...so he would take it not rudely.

Mind you I'm 48 and he was 45. He wrote back and told me his kids were 19 and 20 and 22 and 25 and 4. A four year old? :nono: He emailed me again saying that they were his life and that anyone who wanted him needed to love his kids too.

I said "no thanks" and my usual "Brightest Blessings"

This fool went off saying that my kids would have been lucky to have him as a daddy because he takes care of all his kids and that I was a grandmother (hmmm 45 vs 48 but okay) and should be ashamed of myself and who the f* did I think I was and f* me and my grown a children, cause you b* got issues...I was dying laughing.

Moral of that story...ladies you got to read the labels...cause not all nut cases start off with "crazy as bat sh*t" as the main ingredient. But somewhere down the line you will run into it.
 
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ElizaBlue you described me to a tee: "I'm a Leo...a true Leo but very much an introvert." Now I know why I e-like you so much:).
 
Wow I am a leo too. Scorpios and leos alway end up together I have noticed even though the zodiac says that they are not compatible. And I am a introverted leo too :yep:.
 
Well one thing that I've learned is that you have to ask questions...and a lot of them. If he gets mad and doesn't want to talk about prior relationships take that as a sign.

I will quickly shut a guy down if he says "that was the past and it's all about us now". Baby please...

Same goes for the men who villanize their exes...matter of fact as soon as I hear I caught her cheating or she left me for another man...I already know. Cause women don't leave good peen. So from now on, I'll just save myself the trouble....:lachen:
 
ElizaBlue said:
levette Wow...so do you and the SD have any type of relatioship now?
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Well, kinda... she's closer of course to her biological mother. We don't really talk unless she is here to visit. But she is good to her little brother. She send him games and takes him shopping when she visits.
 
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