almond eyes
Well-Known Member
Thank you!!
You know, I never realized just how much we as women tend to bash men or have a negative view of them until I read TQC, and now listen to my good girl friends. It's like, "wow....I used to sound just like them...full of so much hate, resentment, bitterness and cynicism when it comes to men"
It's so clearly obvious now. Idk about anyone else. Now when I listen to them I see just how much I've changed, because I no longer think the same way they do anymore.
Then I think to myself.... "Hmm...well no WONDER you ladies are single.... Men are probably subconsciously picking up on your negative views about them..". : look:
Don't get me wrong, I still have some work to do, but I can see how I've come a looong way. Men used to be "the enemy", and now they are more the "partners". I feel like I understand men SO much better now. I feel much happier too
Another great post.
When people are bitter, resentful or cynical ultimately it is a form of their self-expression. Your self-expression and self-presentation is your business card. And ultimately it is a choice. Regardless of the reason of why people are bitter, resentful, bitter or cynical they are protective measures that serve us and not in a positive way.
Ridding yourself of these traits takes work and being conscious and catching yourself when the ugly monster wants to come out. When these ugly traits come out they will always kill the very thing you wanted to accomplish in the first place. Let me give an example, the other day I went to a charity function to pack food stuff for the homeless and a young woman gave me a card with a task job I was unable to do as it would have me standing in the sun for a long period of time, when I went to ask her if I could kindly switch to another job she waved her hand and said sharply, "I don't have time for this, you are not the only one here." The ugly monster almost stepped out to tell her off and leave (even though I tend more than often to over look rudeness unless I have had a challenging day), however I got it!!!!! My light bulb moment.
If I let that part of my personality take over it would have stopped my ultimate goal which was to pack food for the homeless. So, I quietly stepped back and politely said okay. When I got inside, I was able to speak to someone calmly no drama (and no mentioning this woman) and they switched me to another job and voila the day was saved. I even went afterwards to thank the team because I realize this woman was only doing her job. It is just about supreme self awareness and discipline.
I used to complain about my work all the time, I mean all the time. When I got that I was not having conversations with people, I was just complaining about my life I got real with myself. When you complain all the time, you don't want to take responsibility for changing a situation or facing a situation.
I was like oh, don't want to be complaining about life to men especially past issues that they can't resolve. I want men to see a spark in my eyes because they are wondering, "what is she up to?"
Best,
Almond Eyes
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