illustrioussplendor
Well-Known Member
My husband and I have been married for eight years, and I have been helping him raise his son and daughter ages 10 and eight, since his son was two and his daughter was one. We now have two children together ages 5 and two. The mother of his first two children is pretty much a deadbeat and rarely contributes to their care. My husband's mother and grandmother took her in when she was a teenager and consider her their daughter in spite of how she is with the children. Right now my MIL is raising her other two children(not my husband's) and she is 27 years old and living with my husband's grandmother. My question to all of you ladies is, do you think it is wrong if I want to sometimes spend time with or buy things for just my two children. My in laws get upset if I do this, but they favor my husband's two children over mine(Not sure if its because they are the first grandchildren or because of their relationship with the mother) I don't think it's fair that they actually treat my children differently if I don't do EVERYTHING for the stepchildren that I do for my own, but they don't get upset with the mother for doing NOTHING for the children and they even make excuses for her. So what do you ladies think about this situation?